Should woman give up her carrer for her love?

China
March 13, 2009 8:01am CST
From a traditional viewpoint,woman will come home eventually. So it is reasonal for woman to devote herself to family.But as the development of era and advance with time,according to abilities, interests,development,woman is divided into 3 types:family style,carrer style,pleasure style. Although modern woman puts more importance on love,love is no longer her entire life. Few women are willing to become a fulltime wife. Traditional concept is in a embarrassing position now. Should woman give up her career for her love? waiting for your opinion warmly!
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31 responses
@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
Hi sinokirin. at these times, I don't think a woman has to give up her career.I believe that women are strong to juggle career, love and family just like what guys do... At these difficult times, I think a woman has to share the responsibility with her husband to keep her family afloat. this can make the husband realize more the importance of his wife in his life, too... at the same time, the woman will be able to keep her identity as a strong being that she might be able to use to keep her own family intact and happy... at some point the woman has to really give up her career but not entirely. she can have work at home to still hone on her skills and still be the helpmeet of her husband. retiring is different though hahaha... Most women nowadays, retire at a very advanced age not only for practical reasons but to also keep them busy. also, if the guy is the only one working and providing for the family, it can put a strain on his relationship with his wife especially during this crisis. It's not really bad for us women to juggle like 3 things - family, career and love. They actually keep us on our toes and feel more of a woman with accomplishments.
@kissieme (777)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
that's true sinokirin... I kinda think like that too...
• China
20 Mar 09
hi,kissi. I consider women had the intelligence to balance family,career and love. Women sacrifice more than men for the family and love,and should keep their own space to develop.
• China
14 Mar 09
for different people the answer is different for someone what is the most real worth to do in your life is different, if it is love so your carrer is for you love make your love perfect but if you think your carrer is your whole life so the love is for you carrer make your carrer great but you must consider about the feeling of your husband
• China
20 Mar 09
yes, it depends on your standing
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
In my opinion, a woman should not give up her career for love Especially at this time of crisis, both partners should have an income that they need to combine so that they can support their own family.
• China
20 Mar 09
yeah,i do agree with you, two income would be better to family.
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
14 Mar 09
I think thsat is a very personal choice. I for one, would not give up my career for my husband. My work is a part of me and it was a part of me when we met and fell in love. If he was to ask me to quit working, I woud have to say "no" because I was raised to always be able to take care o myself and my kids. For me, to have to depend on someone else to take care of me and the kids would feel like a punishment, and it would throw me into a deep depression. When I had to be off of work for 6 months, I became so depressed I questioned if I would ever be able to pull mtself back out of it. I felt like a whole new person the day I was able to return to work!
• China
16 Mar 09
yeah, you did the best balance, and enjoyed yourself so much.
@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
14 Mar 09
life is only once for everyone.life is a wonderful journey for everyone.so,everybody should live a life as what she or he wants.the only rule of life is love and it is enought.sometimes there are some conflicts between family and ego,just like what you say.in my opinion,we should cherish love and loved people and be kindly to them and do our best to make them happy.
• China
16 Mar 09
I totally agree with you. "cherish love and the loved people should be kind to them",yeah, it's right. we should love and respect each other.:-)
@major310 (42)
• United States
14 Mar 09
no women or man should give up making money just for love because love cant get you a house or a car so I would stick to the career and money instead of sacrificing it for love which doesn't always work.
• China
20 Mar 09
thanks for your good response.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Mar 09
I think today the women has higher pressure. They not only have to work well, but also take good care of her family. It is not easy to balance it well. I think it is up to a woman to decide whether she wants to be a career woman or not. Today I think sometimes it is not easy to live well with one income only. Therefore, woman has to work as well as man. I think it's OK. In fact being a housewife is the most tough job in the world. She has work 24 hours everyday and there is no holiday. I prefer to work rather than being a full time housewife. I love China
• China
14 Mar 09
being housewife is not easy,especially in a chinese family,so many things would take you all time,making food,washing,cleaning,and taking care older and yonger. no wonder you'd rather work than being a full time housewife. :-)
• United States
14 Mar 09
i dont think she should ahve to choose. i mean if she absolutely had to ..follow her heart but i would hate to have to choose
• China
16 Mar 09
Follow her heart just like following the stream. :-)
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
13 Mar 09
That is her personal choice. Some women will go for love first, due to the fact they don't want to lost their happiness for the entire lifetime. When they got old, they might regret such rush decision. Careet definitely comes in a charming choice too. Some independent women want to prove their abilities same as men counterpart. They won't rely on men's giving. So, there is no right or wrong answer.
• China
16 Mar 09
yeah,veryone has one's choice.
@cest_moi (206)
• Canada
13 Mar 09
Nope! She shouldn't. It's her career and the protection of her life in case her marriage turns up-side-down. In this modern world, women should be out there and enjoy life as much as men do, either work or play. In traditional world, women would stay home and raise children while the men were out there working to support their families. That is why there have been so many wife abuses sometime even torture, but the wives could not fight back it was simply because they have no career therefore, their chances of leaving the guys are little or none. Cest_moi
• China
14 Mar 09
hi,cest_moi. It is modern world now! yeah, time to say goodby to staying in home! thanks for your response!
@reneerose (106)
• United States
13 Mar 09
Everybody is different and every stage of life is different. I was the major bread winner for 15 years and now I am staying home with our kids... I wouldn't trade it for the world. No one can bring back these years of their development and nothing makes life as rich as sharing time with your kids and making memories everyday! Nothing in my entire career (in which I was selfemployed and very happy, by the way) compares in the littlest way to being here for the first step, the first word... even the first sass.... the first driving lesson. I am not in the least embarassed to be a stay at home mom. It is really, the only thing that truly matters. I forget who says it but there is this awesome quote to the effect of: Nothing I do will matter much if I bungle raising my children. Children always have been and always will be the only TRUE legacy.
• China
16 Mar 09
To be a homewife, it is so difficult but respected. Just as you told me, "I wouldnt trade it for the world",simple but great words! Children are the best gift from God! Bless you!
@Troy1987 (49)
• China
14 Mar 09
traditional view isn't suitable now. I think woman can't be really happy without her carrer.every one needs job satisfaction and pride comes from success in one's career.woman can't be exception.
• China
16 Mar 09
Yeah, i mean it is so difficult to walk between family and career,how to banlance it? thanks for your response! :-)
@Ted3_uk (114)
13 Mar 09
humm - oh knows
Women can do what they want, and the same with men. There should be no stereotypical view of any one, and people should not be devided by anything, race religion orientation or views... Its up to every one to make up there own minds? A Man and Woman in a relationship of love should be able to decide to a result that makes both equally happy....? If they can not the love is unequal
• China
14 Mar 09
hi,Ted3,it made me afraid when i saw your pic under......:_) yes,there must be equal,so does the love! thanks!
@elly_biz (65)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 09
hmmm....i think, woman should not give her career for her love. because your love will not do the same in this modern life. if woman gives her career for her love, it makes her fully depends on her love and can not stands by herself anymore. i think its better if career and love can walk together.
• China
16 Mar 09
If there woul be ture love,no one would mind your depending! :-)
@kekexinfeng (1295)
• China
20 Mar 09
I don't think so,first,if a man can't earn enough money to feed his family,the wife can work to earn the extra money,so they will live a good life.second,if a man can earn a lot of money,though the wife can stay at home or looking after babay only,however,we are human,we should depend on oueselves,so we have to do something to kill time.Suppose that the man was out of work,the family won't break down. So I think women should have work carrer!
• Philippines
17 Mar 09
well if the husband can afford to take care of her and the kids, she can give up working, but if and only if she decides to give it up. but nowadays, it is hard to have only one parent working so it is more practical for the wife to work too so that they can send the kids to nice schools. i would love to stop working and care for the kids but only if my husband can afford to pay for all the bills and send our kids to good schools but if not, i am willing to help =)
@Archie0 (5636)
13 Mar 09
I dont think that women should give up her career for her love, because its the only career and her identity of her, which lasts till the end of her life. but it becomes so necessary for her to give up her career sometimes that unwanted to do she has to give up everything for it. and then she is the one who is cursed even after leaving it at the end..
• China
14 Mar 09
yeah, i think it would happen sometimes. thanks for your response.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
13 Mar 09
I think not.Woman should give something for world and active.
• China
14 Mar 09
Simple, but more complex it means! Thank you for your concerns!
• India
13 Mar 09
woman should never give up her career unless and untill she feels so.its is never mandatory that she should leave her career,only at the time of giving birth to a child she can take a break of few months later she has to manage some how if she really likes her professional life.If she is ok with not working its well and good else its up to her how she wants her life to be.
• China
14 Mar 09
yeah,if she should, there must be a premise! regardless of the major or minor! Thanks!
• United States
19 Mar 09
This is a great subject. Either a woman or a man should give up their opinion for quite a few reasons. The first reasons is when is enough; enough? And the answer, if you truly love this person is NEVER! Because love is something special, something hard to find, something that's once in a lifetime. For me, I would give me life for the person I love and therefore, giving up my career is gravy. But only if I truly loved this person that I'd be willing to give my life to save theirs. As for giving up your career for love? You don't really have to? Why not make a lot of money and have a maid do the house duties? There's always compromises, but either way, the optimal is to give up your career for love; definitely.