What do you think about PDA? Public Display of Affection?

@nikky28 (1572)
India
March 14, 2009 9:44am CST
Do you like showing your love to your spouse in public? Kissing, cuddling, hugging in the public? How do you react to other people who express a lot of affection in public lol
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15 responses
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
I don't mind doing PDA as long as it won't look like me and my bf need a room. Lol I like hugging, and cudding and the holding hands in the public, but anything that goes further than that, I think then that that's the time to control the urge. Showing love doesn't need to show it physically especially in public. Might as well keep it within the two of you especially the ones that should be between you and your partner. But showing a little affection to show that you love and appreciate your loved one won't really be bad.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
hey smooch! haven't seen much of you lately. And yes I agree with you that showing a little affection isn't all bad and at the same time it has to be decent enough.
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
Yea I know... Busy with work. Working now with my training plus might get a new job. Glad to know someone noticed that I don't get to stay much around.. Would like to be often when I have much time... Thanks!
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
Good luck on your new job! Hey you have 4 more to go for a 500. Take care!
@angel2009 (210)
• India
14 Mar 09
Hi Nikky!! Well clever post indeed!! I personally feel that there is no harm in PDA as long as it is spontaneous and within the limit!! And it's not only about spouse...when you are taking your old grandfather for an outing and showing your excessive care for him, holding his hand, making him sit and bla bla bla...will that be also termed as PDA? No!! Then why the same thing when done for your partner becomes a public issue?? But yes many people are there who loves to make others see "we are such happy couples" and their excessive exaggeration leads to all these issues. I find no rhyme and reason for making your personal life public... those who do deliberately are shameless and should just be ignored instead of giving the attention. But yes, as I said before, As long as it is spontaneous and not breaking the ethics and norms of the society, perfectly no harm in PDA!!
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
Hello Angel, Congrats on the 100! I agree with you when you say that PDAs should be spontaneous and should not be a deliberate attempt for attention seeking. Also it is not necessary that the onlookers make a big issue out of nothing!
• India
15 Mar 09
Thanks Nikky!! Yes that's what I said.. It's the habit of the society to ignore important things...and of the trifle matters...they just make a mountain out of mole!!
• India
14 Mar 09
I think there's no harm in PDA..!!A person has a right to show his/her affection..as long it doesn't make others uncomfortable.In india there's a gr8 hue n cry over PDA..n don't get d point.Physcologists consider PDA's as a positive sign.When u holds hands or give a careless peck on ur partners chin...it shows ur love rather dan obscenity.It will happen spontaneously if u love someone..rather dan for an intentional senselisation..n if it indeed is out of love...den d person will also know whr to hold it..as he/c would never dream of making one's partner embrassed in d public. On d contrary..Everybody says..if u want to make love..go n do it at home...not in public places..but y..??does there should b a specific time n place to feel emotional for ur love..??i don't belive it..people should grow more matured..as for affects over children's due to PDA..well i think d shows on TV r more harmful dan an harmless show of affection.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
Well said! It should come out naturally and not deliberate. Also if teh other person is uncomfortable doing it, it shouldn't be done.
• India
21 Mar 09
Thanks nikki for d br...!!i rather checked late...!!this is my 1st br..n u cut d ribbon..!!lol..Cheers..!!
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
14 Mar 09
I personalty don't mind seeing a couple holding hands or walking with their arms around each other or a quick peck on the cheek . But any thong beyond that belongs in private. I don't like to see a long drawn out kiss or any petting that belongs in private. I don't think it belongs in a movie theater in the dark either because it's not really that private in the dark.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
lol I agree that it is not really private in the dark. hehe Thanks for the response
@rymebristol (1788)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
Everybody has witnessed it; some may have even participated. We say, aww at the sight of two cuddling doves, but how do we react when the issue of cuddling concerns our own specie? The topic at hand is public display of affection. The generation known as the Baby Boomers, when in their days of youth and enactment, were the first to dub the latter as PDA. So, what exactly is PDA? Or more appropriately, where does the boundary of public etiquette lie in this manner? First to address is the definition of the matter. Public displays of affection can range anywhere from a whisper to a shout, from a touch of hands to a touch of somewhere else. You may think you're being sneaky, but just because it's dark in the movie theater doesn't mean it's a good place to engage in heavy petting sessions. "The problem isn't that most people don't know where PDA is tacky or inappropriate. The problem is that some people just don't care," says Purdy. "When in doubt, simply pay attention to the behavior of the people around you." An intimate dinner at a chic restaurant? Reel in your lust and keep it to longing glances or holding hands. A weekend at the Burning Man festival of art and self-expression? Let the love flow freely. "Extreme PDA -- hands under clothes, deep tongue kissing -- just makes the couple look incredibly immature or, possibly, drunk," Purdy adds. In other words: keep it PG-rated, kids. Don't do anything you wouldn't want your mother to see. hahaha cheers!
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
I agree that some of them just don't realise where it is appropriate. By the way, who is Purdy haha
@P_Ahman (72)
• Russian Federation
14 Mar 09
I used to really really dread this kind of behaviour, it is common with girls. But now i really tend to look at it from a different point of view. All the same i believe everything should be done moderately. I wouldn't mind a girl from time to time showing some affection, but it shouldn't be a habit.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
lol @ dreading the behaviour. Yep I agree it should be done in moderation. Have a great day!
@elghrasya (502)
• Philippines
14 Mar 09
For me public display of affection is not wrong if this will be done with respect. There's nothing wrong if it's not too much. But there are times that many people are bothered because of this action maybe because they are not just use to it.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
Absolutely, it should be done with respect and not because u want the other people to see. Also we must have some consideration to others.
@pickwick (858)
• India
14 Mar 09
Hi nikky!I hate PDA.If you love a person shower your love in private.Just imagine the plight of the person who is at the recieving end!How uncomfortable he might be.I think PDA is done by the person who is an attention seeker.Might have a neglected childhood or might be having some complexes.So they try to get attention of others by behaving like this.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
Yes some people do it to get attention and that is quite despicable. Showing off in front of others is just being insecure. If they are not genuine it looks annoying. Have a great day!
• United States
14 Mar 09
I don't personally care to do this myself. I can see a hug or a peck here and there. But,too go all out and act such a way. I find it's nasty and not needed. But,at the same time I can't judge what others want to do. I will not do this in public at all. I would not want kids to see such things.
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
Sometimes it can get really uncomfortable and out of taste. I agree that one should not indulge in things that you don't want kids to see. Have a great day!
• United States
14 Mar 09
it doesnt really bother me mainly because i fell like it is their own personal business. ill hold my hubby hand or wrap my arm around him... sometimes a quick kiss but i dont go out "like that" i try to keep it a little more discreet
@nikky28 (1572)
• India
15 Mar 09
I agree that it shouldn't bother us much if it is discreet enough. Thanks for the response.
• United States
21 Mar 09
lol, guess i'm getting old cause i really don't want to see it! i am happily married but i guess i have better control than needed to get crazy in public. i just kind of look the other way when i come across it.
@Krisneil (577)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
It is abnormal act of loving couples!! Yuck!!
@yoyo2323 (465)
• China
15 Mar 09
when i was in relationship with my ex,i won't do that too much. im shy. when i saw these in public place ,i think it is notvery good! but it depends on the condition!
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
I only kiss and hug my husband in public but not to the point of getting attention from others. I think PDA or Public Display of Affection is not really bad as long as you know when and where to do it. There are different kinds of public, like when there are lots of people or when you are in a park with few people or you are just in the bus. All those are public places but kissing for a short while or a smack is not bad. Hug is also good but not too long. I guess it also depends on the reason of showing affection that defines if it bad or good. So for me PDA is okay as long as not catchy and not done to long.
@ivan2000bd (1010)
• Sweden
15 Mar 09
i dont think it works .