What is your feeling about dating web sites?

United States
March 14, 2009 3:16pm CST
My personal feeling is they can, if handled right, be a very good way to meet people that you are compatible with and can lead to a great relationship and even marriage. They have for me, led to two marriages. The reason for two is the first past away. So what have been some of your experiences? Good, Bad, not worth the trouble? What do you say?
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I have never used any of those sites before. I know a couple of people who got married from those sites though. I think I would try them out if I was not married though.
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• United States
17 Mar 09
Yes it is not a good thing for married people. LOL Life can through you a very unexpected curve however and you never really know when you may find you are no longer married. That happened to me two different times and the dating sites really helped me out. Thank you for responding.
• China
15 Mar 09
though i saw a lot of dating web sites, but i didnt sign in the web sites, reason maybe so simply, first, i am a girl, i dont like to contact the stranger, i am afraid be caught with chaff, because i dont know the personality of the people i contact with, i dont know what job he did, so, to dating web sites, i hold the reservations.
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• United States
17 Mar 09
Well there are a few sites out there that are free. So it cost's you nothing to go and look. I think most of the time men do the approaching if they like what they see and hear in your profile. Now just because you meet someone on a dating site does not mean that you have to date them. Many carry on conversations for a long time before they actually meet each other. By that time you have a pretty good feeling about that person as to how safe they are. It also gives you some practice in connecting with people without commitment. If you meet someone face to face then there is a certain amount of uneasiness because you have no idea who that person is. On a dating site you get to know each other over time and if there is not something there you can walk away. It's totally up to you how much you let them know about you. I know it sounds like I am trying to sell you on them. No, I am not. I had very good luck with them so know what can happen if you do it right.
@underdogtoo (9600)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
There are many lonely people out there and if you're lonely too this can be a good way to meet them. Lonely doesn't mean bad, it just means they have not found who they're looking for but this can be a real signal that maybe who they're looking for does not exist except in their own minds and that can be a problem. cheers!!
• United States
17 Mar 09
Have you actually used a dating site and then met someone? While it is always possible that some will be lonely that is not the case for everyone. On-line dating just provides one more place to meet people. It also provides people a way to connect without putting themselves in danger.
@delkar (1716)
• Romania
14 Mar 09
well, to be honest, i`m young , 21, but i`ll join one to find my soulmate. I really want to be a happy guy and to have a so happy family, and in my country, almost all the girls are interested on your money. I really want to find the right girl for me, and that`s not meaning that i should search for that only in my country. Maybe she is from another country. Who knows? Can you give me a trusted international website, for dating? I really want to use that ... I didn`t do that until now, but i`ll do. I know that it`s a true way to find your soulmate, because you can really see a lot of girls/boys interested in dating!
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• United States
17 Mar 09
Sorry I am so slow in getting back with you. Too much to do lately. Thank you for your response. I am afraid I really do not know of any international websites but I would be surprised if there are none. The issues they would have to deal with may not make it worth doing but I am not sure. Every country has differing ideas about this so it may be very hard to control something like that. Of course the sites I used may have been available for you but because I had no need to check that out I am not sure. The one I had the best results with was Match.com. You can search system wide or restrict your search to a certain location. There are many many more of course. Good luck to you.
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
14 Mar 09
I have used them in the past and I haven't had any success with them to be honest, however that is not to say that I heavily criticize them or look down on others who do use them, because they can be very successful, I guess it depends on what you are looking for, if you can have an open mind and don't be too hopeful. They do work otherwise they wouldn't run for long and as there are so many of them now on the internet it seems like big business! It's like anything in life what works for some won't work for others. I guess I never met the right person but the ones I did met actually turned into disasters, I can laugh about it now but at the time it wasn't so funny.
• United States
15 Mar 09
There are only a few things that need happen for dating sites to work, and I am only looking at this from the male perspective. If you look at them as a way to meet people with no real expectations of a long term relationship they work wonders. If you are completely honest with where you are and what you are looking for it works well also. If a woman does not like what she hears then covering anything up only postpones the inevitable. I lost two that I really liked because of that but I think it was the right thing to do because I then met my sweetheart who I love dearly. I am sorry to hear you had some bad experiences. Of course that can happen no matter how you meet. Good to hear you have taken the right attitude and moved on.
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• Dallas, Texas
14 Mar 09
I think it is a good way to meet people as long as people keep their eyes open and know who they are dealing with. Seems like it worked for you - Thats encouraging!
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• United States
15 Mar 09
Thank you for responding shakadoo. Yes you are right it must be approached with the right frame of mind. If you go in expecting to find your one and only you may be very disappointed. If you look at it as a way to meet people then it is fantastic. When I found someone that seemed interesting I ask if they would meet for coffee. That simple first time meeting in a very public place usually tells you all you need to know. I believe it worked for me because I made sure that I was up front and honest with them and that payed off. If they did not like what they heard, or I didn't, we both moved on.