does age matter in a relationship?

age - does it matter in relationship?
United States
March 15, 2009 4:04am CST
i would like to know if age really matters in a relationship.... assuming a girl/guy is older than the other, does it matter? i guess all that matters is love for each other... what do you think about this
10 responses
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
I think.... Age doesn't matter. I mean, it is love thing that matters If people are conscious then I guess they prefer age matters.
• United States
15 Mar 09
females think it is unwise to marry younger men because they believe they should be younger than the men.. do you agree to this?
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
Well, for me, I guess I would agree to it at some point. I mean this is my logic... some old men = older women some old men = younger women some young women = older men some young women = young men So, I think it is more what people think. But, I would agree with what you said because it is common to other people.
@rymebristol (1788)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
It's not the age that's the problem, it's the maturity of both parties. And there are also loads of other factors that affect a relationship. You can't really classify people based on their age - on one hand there are some people who never grow up and on the other there are teenagers who are mature beyond their years. Even a couple with a large age gap could be compatible with each other, it all comes down to their personality.
• United States
16 Mar 09
that's a good point...
• United States
15 Mar 09
I think age means you are at different stages of life. Before my husband I dated someone almost 10 years older than me and he treated me like I was to young to know certain things and that he was more experienced so he knew more. It did not work out. My husband is 3 years older than me and we have been together almost 4 years now. I have to say that adults ,like lets say 20, dating kids who are, lets say 15, is wrong. I think that the laws do protect certain boundaries that need to be there.
• United States
16 Mar 09
thanks for sharing your experience with us. we sure appreciate it
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
Love does matter in a relationship.. Sometimes when you think of ideal girl/man you think of standards includng the age but when love starts to grow with someone, the standards will be erased and you just cant think of old or young partner..
• United States
15 Mar 09
you sure are right. but let me ask you this based on your perspective. if you were 42, would you marry a 19 year old all for love?
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
For me it doesn't, as long as you love each other and you can work it out! And truly involve to the person. Age is just numbers! And what you really feel and being you, and being happy together. Have a nice day to you!
• United States
15 Mar 09
that's the deal. love is all that matters and must be compromised. age can never be a barrier...
@Petedot (10)
15 Mar 09
Do we really have a choice about who we fall in love with? I'm not certain. The real choice is what we decide to do about it. Love has as many definitions as there are people. To me loving someone means thinking of them before yourself. Doing something whether to make them smile or smoulder with passion. It means having patience with their idiosyncracies. Accepting who they are and what they are about. If age difference is a concern would this be 'making a choice'? I guess the other question is:- "Is it love?" Not sure if this helps. Its just the way i feel. Good luck!
@buggles64 (2715)
• United States
15 Mar 09
It doesn't really matter if the guy or the girl is older. Love is what matters. With all that being said, I could not marry someone that is 15-20 years older than me. I would want to be able to grow old with my mate. I want my mate to be able to share my goals, activities and interests. I have always thought that I would not want to be in a relationship with a man that is more than ten years my senior. I would not want to be in a relationship with anyone more than five years younger than me. Now that's just my personal choice, everyone is different, and I'm not going to judge you if you don't judge me...if you really truly love the person that you are with, than by all means, continue with your relationship. It basically doesn't matter what other people think, what matters is what you think and how comfortable you are with the situation are in.
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
Age doesn't matter.. what matters most is your love for each other.. my hubby's three years older than me.. but we get along very very well.. in fact, we have the same taste when it comes to a lot of things like fashion, music, movies, gadgets, etc.. we have the same thinking too, point of views, etc.. =) you know, it's really up to the person.. age has not something to do with it..
@nansheeca (215)
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
i am three years older than my husband and thank God we are compatible. i mean what does age have to do with our love for each other. it doesnt matter what age difference you have as long as you can accept each other amidst all those struggles that may come your way.
@pickwick (858)
• India
15 Mar 09
How can age matter in a relationship?Either of the person will be older and the other younger.If there is love then age will not matter much I think.