I will get married soon, but now I am wondering if my boyfriend is my true love?

China
March 15, 2009 11:21am CST
We met 2 years ago in the internet. He was humorous and handsome. We lived together soon. Time passed, sometimes I feel tired and unhappy with him. Last month, he proposed, and I accepted. But now, I am wondering if he is my true love or not. What should I do?
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4 responses
• United States
15 Mar 09
If you have doubts, like you do now, you should give the relationship time, and do not jump into marriage. One of the worst things you can do is marry someone that might not be your true love, since marriage is for those who want to spend the rest of their lives together, you may want to take it slow- it is a big commitment. Maybe you should have a talk with him about it, tell him how you feel in the most honest way you can. You want to have a happy fulfilled life, don't make a mistake. He may be the one you are meant to be with, and you may just be scared of marriage, so don't think that you are making a mistake right away, just give yourself time to think it over. Good luck!
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I think that your right on that, it's better to be sure! Same ting I said, lol.
@yoyo2323 (465)
• China
19 Mar 09
if you are not sure why did u accept? so just try ur best to enjoy ur days!and be happy! best wishes!
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
15 Mar 09
You should talk to him and be honest. You should think things through and encourage him to do the same. Be sure it's something you want, and seek more advice, not only from us but from people you know personally. Ask them their opinion and ask what they see in you that's changed for the better, and even things that have changed you for the worst, since you've met him. List the pros and cons of marriage for you now, and marriage with him. If there's any doubt, work it out! My fiance and I are getting married, I moved in with him very quickly but it was instant love for us, we still slowed down a little out of respect for his parents, and grandparents, and my family as well, and I know that's made me love him even more. Good Luck to you, and I hope that everything works out for you.
@Volkus (202)
• Romania
15 Mar 09
Hi there! You want to ask yourself if you can imagine another man to replace him. if so, then maybe you should think again over your decision. If you feel tired with someone you should love it's not a good sign. It means that the relatioship doesn't bring pleasure and relaxation but tension and nerves. But, it depends about what kind of exaustion we're talking about. Try to observe how's he taking care of you. p.s - you can mark a response by best response if you like it :) Have a nice day!