ok, just curious here anyone married someone they met online?

@ersmommy1 (12605)
United States
March 15, 2009 12:58pm CST
Or do you know anyone who has married anybody they met online? I keep seeing these e-harmony commercials. Met on this date. Married on this date. I met my guy the old fashioned way. Through someone I know. Just wondering how real it is.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18122)
• United States
15 Mar 09
My sister has met many men online but they never seemed to be who they were online or Prince Charming. But she did meet and married a friends brother who was from out of state at the time. I personally don't know anyone that has married anyone online and have it last.
@mtdewgurl74 (18122)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I don't know how good these things are but some take alot of information and do try to match you up with people that are like minded.
@rebelmel (1390)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I have a friend who met her boyfriend online. They have been together a few years, and had a baby together. They had plans of getting married, until a few months ago where he tried to tell her to move out (when he moved HERE from another state to be with her) She is really upset and feels like he is trying to take over her life in a way. He has become friends with all of her friends and she feels that she is being walked all over. I feel horrible for her.
@ersmommy1 (12605)
• United States
15 Mar 09
ouch! that sounds rough. Hope things work out.
@JABeau59 (446)
• United States
15 Mar 09
Actually, yes I did! But it wasn't through a dating site. We both belonged to a Christian message board. I had responded to a question he had about his children and we started corresponding. That led to phone calls and finally a meeting in person. We got married about 4 months after we met. 8 years later, we are still happy. I don't thank the internet for meeting him though, I thank GOD!
@ersmommy1 (12605)
• United States
15 Mar 09
Sounds like you are happy. That's good.
• United States
18 Mar 09
No. Not to the best of my knowledge. Lots of commercials, of course, seem to indicate differently. Never met a couple that worked out this way. I'm sure it happens. But, the question remains, is it really any better than the traditional ways of meeting people? eHarmony is going to use the stories of people where things work out. Well, if I was going to create a 1 minute commercial just using examples of people who worked out as a married couple, I could probably collect a number of good stories by spending enough time in a bar. I mean, if my goal was to weed out the bad stories and only present the good ones, you know. If eHarmony works for some people that is great. But if you are going to sign up for the service, what you want to know is will it work reliably for you. As eHarmony is unlikely to produce a commercial displaying the catastrophic failures.. you are kind of getting a one-sided picture. Furthermore, it seems to me that you are likely to get good and rosy stories of people who met and got married. They are still new in the relationship, still in love, and unlikely to say anything bad about their spouse if they hope to get their face in a commercial. It makes for good TV and a certain degree of whistful thinking. However, if you've had a problem with relationships in the past there might be a problem in you that needs addressing. eHarmony and any other matchmaking service can't help if.. for example.. you are too needy, too distant, too jealous, or lack the fundamental skills and self-discipline to remain faithful. It is a tool which might help some people. As a positive speaking point, you will be introduced to people who are presumably single, available, and open for a relationship. Just meeting people at work, in the bar, or at any interest or activity might create a situation where you hook up with someone who isn't really emotionally prepared for a committed relationship. So, hooking up with someone who is paying for a service to meet people might at least introduce you to people who are serious about establishing a relationship.
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I did! My husband and I met online, but it wasn't on one of the dating websites. We were both just in a chat room at the same time, and he had my screen name confused for someone he knew, so he started a private chat with me. When he realized I was someone else, we just decided to make conversation anyway, and then that was that! We chatted online for a long time, then exchanged phone numbers, and eventually we finally decided to meet somewhere public. We have been inseparable ever since, and we just celebrated our second wedding anniversary! Our old pastor also met his wife online, but they met on eharmony, I think. I guess it is more common than people realize!
@lilybug (21182)
• United States
15 Mar 09
I know someone who met a gut online. They got married a few years ago. They hit a rough patch, but they are doing ok now. So, I know it does happen. I just don't know how often.
@user_786 (1339)
15 Mar 09
there must be people in hundreds or probably thousands who met online and got married whether through a dating, partner find website or chat or other site slike mylot.