Can you trust again?
By Krisneil
@Krisneil (577)
Philippines
March 16, 2009 12:41am CST
How can you trust to a person who lied to you once or more? Can you give a second chance? Do you still believe in forgiveness? 
9 responses
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
16 Mar 09
It really depends on who the person is and how much I care for them. If I don't care for them, then I find it hard to forgive. But if they realise that they are in the wrong and say sorry for it, then I can be a forgiving person.
I had a really good friend who lied to me in the last 6 months. I can understand why he did it and that was to protect my feelings but I found out. If he realises that he should have told me the truth in the first place, I will forgive him in an instant.
As for his partner, I don't trust her at all. She has told me one thing and told her partner a different story. Like for example, if I asked her if she was ok with something and she tells me yes. She would then go to her partner and tell him that she was not ok with the something. What she has done, destroyed the friendship between her man and I. It has upset me because I have known him for a lot longer time.
He told me that his woman does not hate me. I told him straight out, not to speak on her behalf. I want to hear it from her, face to face with him present. It is really to keep her honest but I will never hear it from her. Until I can trust her, I won't be able to forgive her.
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
16 Mar 09
It was the male I was friends with for 4 and half years. As for her, she only came into his life last year.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
17 Mar 09
forgiveness doesn't mean you have to be stupid, you can forgive the person for lying but you don't have to trust him anymore, he has to earn your trust.
@2btrueinu (700)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
Hi! krisniel it's easy to forgive but it's hard to bring back the trust I give. So it's better to be careful not to lie. I can give a second chance but still there a doubt inside.
@au_dawn (76)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
I think forgiving is really easier to do than trusting someone who failed you in whatever way. I guess there will always be the part wherein you will question the credibility of that person who failed you. Maybe I'm just naturally a paranoid person..hehe
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
16 Mar 09
Well forgiveness is like an eraser which we use as per our discretion to keep our mind clear of unwanted clutter. Lying is a different thing and its not about forgiveness but about being cautious in the future with a person who was lied once. So while I would not hold the grudge and stress myself unnecessarily, I would definitely be wary of the person who has lied to me previously.
