raising your kids

United States
March 16, 2009 10:29am CST
would you let someone other than you to raise your kids, just because you can't afford to take care of them? what or how would you feel if the government take your kids from you?
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@kezabelle (2985)
16 Mar 09
Well if they were only taking them because i had no money id be astounded they would rather do that and pay for foster care and social workers than to try and help me find the money but no id not let anyone take my children! I would work every hour i could to keep them here with me I certainly wouldnt just hand them over!!
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• United States
16 Mar 09
because they are our blood so we must look after them like ourselves.. i would rather not eat than see my children suffer
• United States
16 Mar 09
I do not think anyone should lose their chidlren because they are poor. However if they can not feed, house, or buy them clean properly fitting clothes, and do not seek help then that is different. If they can get help and support, and show that they can properly take care of them, then they could not have to lose them, or get them back. The ultimate goal is what is best for the child.
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@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
16 Mar 09
I would never let anybody but myself or my husband raise my children. I have been a mom now for a little over 5 years now and I think I've had a babysitter maybe 5 times. My husband and I started young with children. I was a few months shy of my 18th birthday when I had my oldest daughter and then 15 months later my youngest daughter was born right after my 19th birthday. I also have a stepson as well. Things do get pretty tough and we struggle day to day to provide for our 3 children but I wouldnt have it any other way. I'd rather struggle then have my children raised by someone else. I would feel like a huge failure if the government took my babies away from me. We may not do the greatest but we do it the best we know how too!
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@pickwick (858)
• India
16 Mar 09
Hi!My spouse ane me decided to have only one kid because we felt we can afoard to look after only one.We had decided to give it the best of education and good values .The cost of education is high here.It would hurt my dignity if I had to give him to someone else or the government to raise.I dont even send him to government school leave alone giving government my child to take care of.
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@benny128 (3624)
16 Mar 09
good questions being a single dad, I would never dream of letting the state take my kids. I helped in the creation of the new lives so I am wholely responsible for them. I also wouldnt let someone else look after them if I cant afford to look after them then I would lower my expenses get rid of my mobile get rid of the internet all the luxuries that you dont really need and if needed I'd work a few hrs a week depending on how old the kids are. But yeah at the end of the day I helped create my kids and what I do now will mould them into who there are in the future, so nope its my responsibility no matter what.
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• United States
17 Mar 09
Bill- This is a good topic. I can say that I have made this decision and it was a difficult one but the best one for my children at the time. It wasn't that I couldn't afford my children, it was they were not happy. When I left my ex husband it was because of his abuse to me. He wanted children, never laid a hand on them but with me it was a different story. When I left I took our children with me. However, they were not happy with their life in another state, and longed to go back. So, I made the most difficult decision of my life, to allow them to reside with their father. It was a good decision though because they were in the state where they were born, back with friends again, and did very well. The oldest is now 17 and an honor student. They do not love me any less, as I hear it quite a bit, and they are happy. My child's happiness was the most important thing to me at the time, not my parental ego. I did catch a lot of flack for this from my mother who seemed determined that my children all stay with me though she wasn't even anywhere near to see just how unhappy they were. I would never change my decision. I'm married again and have two beautiful children who are well cared for even though we live on one salary so that I may stay home. I think in terms of dealing with the economy (I've seen several threads started of this nature lately on Mylot), it is dependent upon your view as a human being. If you do not feel as if you need to live above your means, life can be very fruitful and blessed. Namaste-Anora
• United States
18 Mar 09
well spoken.. living with their father does not and can never make them hate you. the fact that you had to let them go back really shows how much love you have for them.. Your children's happiness should be put first before any other thing. good decision and never regret it... thanks
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@TLChimes (4845)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I would love my child enough to make sure they were well fed and taken care of. They didn't pick the life they were born into and I must do what's right. My dad did it for us when I was young. Then my mother let me go hungry and sleep in a car. Dad did the right thing. The governments, and states are doing a horrible job of protecting kids... just watch the news or read the paper. Nope, can't let them get the kids.... no way.
• United States
17 Mar 09
don't ever let them.. you have to be able to die for your kids to live.
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