will you quarrel with your boyfriend or girlfriend

China
March 16, 2009 11:44am CST
i quarrel with my boyfriend so often, just for trifles. i dont know how to deal with it. it was tired and i didnt want to, but happend so often. why? will u quarrel with him/her? how to avoide the quarrel. thank you
1 response
@findcutegj (1466)
• India
16 Mar 09
Hmmm...... let me ask you this. Did you love him for who is he? Well quarrels do happen, but try to put yourself in his shoe. if he say this to you how would you feel? Of course i hope when you both get together is when love is around and not due to habit. Give in sometime to gain security feeling from him once again if you really love him. voice out to him about what you are feeling towards the relationship that's dragging you away from him. tell him that you are telling him cos you would want to be clear of what's he's thinking and the insecure feeling you are having. Sometime someone may do something but they don't realise the importance of it, or what the partner may feel towards it until you tell him about what you feel. Communications is the key! Don't go guessing or make assumption till the end you are actually just having your own thoughts and it's unfair to the other party if a conclusion has to come. SOME TIPS: You see love is all about making someone feel on top of this world. Basically love is initially felt when you cannot see them unhappy or in any sort of stress or problem. Love is all about sharing the saddest and the happiest moments together. Stand beside each other through thick and thin. Holding hands, never letting go, and having faith in each other that no matter what happens, they will never turn their backs at each other. This is what love is. Love can never be explained in words, it is like the air, you can only feel its presence. If you want to make someone happy whom you love a lot, all you should do is do things which they like. Go out and spend time with them. Do not let them be alone even for a second. Give them surprises. Redo their rooms or their. Cook breakfast for them. Go for shopping. Give them a surprise visit, if she is a girl then bring her favorite flowers along every time you visit her. Make them feel the best person on this world. Smile with them and make them smile, be with them.
• China
17 Mar 09
thanks so much for your response. and i learnt from your response. sometimes i took less pains on him. i just care about how he let me happy and take care about me. if i thought he ignored me, i would be angry with him and shout at him . hehe. so terrible. i think i wanna hold his hand forever. so i will change myself for him. thank you again!