Are you a bossy big sister??

@ishi23 (71)
United States
March 17, 2009 11:43pm CST
Hello Big Sisters!! I have a question for all of you out there..are you a bossy sister? Do you give your younger sibling hard time unintentionally though? The reason I am asking this is because I am the oldest of the siblings and my brothers always tell me that I am very bossy, I don't let them do what they want to do. I really felt bad to hear this from my brothers, I never meant to be bossy with them. Anyways, wanted to know how many of you are in the same boat?
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@maezee (25301)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Well, my little sister is about 12 years younger than me, so we're not the traditional sisters, to say the least. I act more like a parent (or an aunt) to her than I do an actual sister, but that might be because of the age difference. . But MY older sister definitely filled that stereotype. She was SO bossy and manipulative, and she got her way no matter what. Hopefully she didn't MEAN it though. lol.
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@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
18 Mar 09
lm a big sister with many younger sisters and brother. But, l never want to show that lm a bossy sister. I had sisters and brother age ranging from 8 to 13 years younger from me. l always make sure they had an open-discussion with me in every things they want to do. Sometimes, they may complain that lm abit too strict, but l will tell them, that's how the way l protect them as being a big sister.
@ishi23 (71)
• United States
18 Mar 09
that's very nice that you keep open discussion, that's the key to a healthy relationship!
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• Malaysia
18 Mar 09
you are so nice, your younger sibling are very fortunate because have a great sister. And they also have chance say out their opinion and feeling.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
Thanks for both of you comments..Well, l had tried my best to be a good big sister.. At times, l do angry when they said l care too much of their problems. But, after we do open discussion, then we will realised where we got wrong, then we apologizes to each other and forget about it..Back to normal again..
@lynnemg (4540)
• United States
18 Mar 09
I am almost 12 years older than my younger brother. I am not a bossy big sister, but I do try to give him advice that I wish someone would have given me at that age. I also listen to him when he talks and/or has a problem.
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@ishi23 (71)
• United States
18 Mar 09
when you give advice to your brother, how does he take it? I am the oldest and my brother does not like to listen to me....may be I am not giving him advice in the right way....I should be polite or diplomatic in giving advice
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• Philippines
18 Mar 09
hi there.. i have a younger sister and she's 12 years younger than i am.. i dont really intend to give her a hard time but i think im a bossy big sister... i can say that coz i can always hear her complaining..but despite our age difference, we are really close...
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@ishi23 (71)
• United States
18 Mar 09
you are just like me...
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• China
18 Mar 09
I have siser 7 years younger than me.Once or to say when I was a child,I was bossy with her,we quarrel with each other frequently!My mother would blame for my ignorance.Because I'm sister,i must take care of her.
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@ishi23 (71)
• United States
18 Mar 09
are you still bossy?? how is your relationship with your sister now?
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• India
18 Mar 09
Well yeah!! And why not!! After all we are the first borns.. We should have some advantages of being the elder one right?? LOL All jokes aside, i used to be very bossy and tried to sit on my sister's head! I used make her switch on the fan or get me something to eat and stuff like that. I used to scare her with ghost stories or used fight with her just for no specific reason.. It used to be real fun,... But, somewhere in time both of us grew up.. i am 23 years old and she is 17.. We aint living together as i have gotten a job quite far away.. so we are cordial over the phone and when i go to visit, we just fight verbally.. she grown so much that i can no longer boss over her... Nevertheless, i do miss bossing over her!!
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@makingpots (11928)
• United States
18 Mar 09
Nope, I had 3 bossy big sister when I was growing up. Two of them have mellowed out a bit (or rather, have been beaten down by life), but my oldest sister still wears her bossy big sister badge with pride. I always wished I'd had a brother.
@ishi23 (71)
• United States
20 Mar 09
aww......i can imagine what you had to go through growing up...
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
18 Mar 09
I am the eldest child in my family too, but I don't think I am a bossy big sister. I seldom involve in my bothers' matters. I have two younger bothers,both are studying at this moment. I never have the intention to control their life,maybe I am not interested to do so. Lol. However,as a big sister,I would give advice when I see something is not alright with what they are doing. Rather than being a bossy big sister,I would choose to be a caring big sister. Cheers!
@ishi23 (71)
• United States
20 Mar 09
yes, I like to be the caring big sister than a bossy big sister !
@Maryam27 (412)
• Pakistan
9 May 09
I am not at all bossy type, i try to help them as much as possible and always try to be there for them and in return they love me like they love mom.
@zhuhuifen46 (3487)
• China
19 Mar 09
I am the eldest sister in the family. Ever since childhood, I have some sort of authority with my three younger sisters, but never by being bossy. I feel among family members and relatives, we need leverage all we learned from office, to keep a harmoneous community. Actually i am more kind of empowerment, having confidence in teamwork. I do what others are reluctant to do, and what is left tough for others. I function like a balancing bar, keep an eye nobody is quiet, and nobody is too loud. We often meet and our children are also on good terms. We are happy, and our mother is happy.
@gotetet (197)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
no, i'm not bossy with my sisters, sometimes they are bossy than me, because i don't like the house disarray, i do and keep it all in shape and orderly.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
Nope. I am a bossy little sister Lol! I am the youngest in our family, the only girl. I have two brothers, eight and nine years older than me. When we all still lived together, whenever my parents are out of town, I am in charge with the house and the money purse is with me. So I tell my brothers what I need for them to help me with. I think it is ok with them. They would rather have me as their boss instead of them having to go to the supermarket. Lol! I never step out of line, though. The orders are always said sweetly. Have a nice day!
@lvjunjie (80)
• China
19 Mar 09
well ,you are right .but we know some time we can't control.i think most people are kind to the people around us ,especially our blood brother or sister .so we should learn how to control ourselves .we need a change to improve our personality .
@kimutaku (145)
• China
19 Mar 09
no... I am not a bossy sister,and treated everyone as friend. In fact my little cousin took care of me more.. He always told me to watch the car,eat carefully,etc... I'm ashamed.....
• United States
19 Mar 09
I used to be, and I am wishing that I hadn't have been one. Maybe my brother would still be alive if I was more lenient on him?
• United States
19 Mar 09
I was always a bossy sister and with being the oldest--it is normal. I know now that I am older, it was well worth it. Without being bossy, my brother's wouldn't know how to do certain things; such as leaving knives above the sink rather than in it so you don't cut yourself, lifting the toilet seat, turning lights off when leaving a room. Those seem small but there are larger things...the way a credit card works, renewing your plates every year, how to write a check. Without me being bossy (concerned) my brother's would have no idea to function in every day life. They have recently thanked me for doing these things--they thought I was being a witch but now know I was doing it out of love. Hope this helps.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
Well, sometimes I'm becoming bossy to my younger sister and even to my niece especially if I am very lazy to do those things. My younger sister sometimes hate me if I'm becoming bossy but she can't do anything since if she don't do it I'll get mad at her.. Actually, not only to my younger sister and niece I'm becoming bossy but also to my friends especially to my boy friends.. Let just say that my boy friends were too kind and generous to me all the time... Even my boyfriend, I sometimes becoming bossy to him.. I guess this is really just one of the bad personality that I have and I can't stop it.. I'm just glad that this people love me so much..
@mariposaman (2968)
• Canada
18 Mar 09
I am speaking from the other perspective. I am the youngest of three and my big sister is somewhat of a controller. That of course makes her bossy. If you want anything done though she is the one to handle it because she does not take foolishness lightly. Being bossy does have its advantages I guess, but not when you are the one being bossed around. Why do they do it? Because the can.
@cutepenguin (6458)
• Canada
18 Mar 09
Yup, I tell my younger siblings what to do all of the time. But we were raised this way, so they are used to it.
@blueunicorn (2410)
• United States
18 Mar 09
My brother is 2.5 years younger than me. I was VERY bossy when we were kids. As we grew up, though, I stopped telling him what to do. He is a really put-together guy and doesn't need my help!