would you rather know or not know?

@karbuks (270)
Philippines
March 19, 2009 12:03am CST
Many of us is a victim of broken heart! One reason of it is one of your partner had been cheating on you. Some say that its good for you not to know what your partner had been doing to avoid hurt but is it more hurtful when you know somethings wrong but you don't know what it is? would you rather know or not know?
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12 responses
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
I would rather know the affair from the guy rather than knowing it from somebody else
• United States
19 Mar 09
There is a verse in the Bible that says "there is nothing hidden that will not be revealed." Sooner or later the truth always comes out. I live in peace and do the best I can and don't worry about the rest of it.
@ponganne (19)
• Australia
19 Mar 09
I guess I would rather know that he has been cheating for me, primarily because I would want to assess whether it's worth saving the relationship or not. If it was a one time thing and he's shown remorse over the affair, maybe I could find it in my heart to forgive him. Then I'd try to find out why he did it, was he bored of me, did the romance fizzle out of our relationship? I wouldn't think that my partner would just jump into bed with someone else without cause. Of course it will hurt, it's a betrayal of trust, but I would rather know why he did it to prevent it from happening again.
@Aurone (4758)
• United States
19 Mar 09
Its better to know when something is wrong what is wrong, cause then there is a chance that it can be fixed. Something in my marriage was wrong, but he didn't tell me--he let it build up until he couldn't take it and then he walked out. If I had known then perhaps we could have worked it out. I would definitely want to know if my partner was cheating on me because that is not just an emotional issue, it is a health issue. He could pick up a STD from the person he is cheating with and give that to me. Cheating is the one thing I can't abide. That would signal and end of the relationship or marriage for me.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
19 Mar 09
Hi, karbuks! I would rather to know. Because either way, my heart is going to be broken when I am thinking about it. I would want to know, sadly to say. Once I find out, I know that, that relationship will have to be over between the two of us.
@luvmysons (497)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I would want to know if my husband was cheating on me.. Yes it would hurt me terribly but I would also know the person he is. If I chose not to know its like my marriage would be based on a lie. As much as it hurts I would always choose the truth in my marriage.
• United States
19 Mar 09
I would rather know. I would not want to be in a relationship where my other is cheating on me and could come home with something. Also means that there is something wrong with our relationship in the first place. If my husband where to cheat on me though I would have to say I would most likely end it. I can forgive but cant forget.
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
I rather know the truth than not knowing it. It shows that you really care that you show your love to that person. Well, for me, leaving me hanging is one thing I hate the most.
@mamalev (264)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
I'd rather know and I want to know it from him. I don't like the idea of other people knowing more of our relationship than I do, that's more hurtful. If there's something wrong in our relationship I made it clear to him that we talk about it.
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
I rather know.. As for i would love knowing everything from my partner himself if he had done something hurtful to me rather than knowing it from someone else. Knowing from him would mean that he is sorry of he have done and have regretted it already but if he tried to hide it from me i should say that he love what he is doing and is not serious with me. It is HOnesty in your relationship that is in the issue,so if he is not honest in small things how could he be trusted in anything? I can understand him better and forgive if he'll tell me everything honestly and regretfully. WE can talk about it and resolve it open mindedly. It is best to know and be hurt but can still forgive..rather than being fooled all the time..
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I would rather know so I could make a decision of whether or not I should end the relationship. Not knowing and thinking something is wrong can tears apart a couple being one seems needy and the other lying to the other person and starts to pull away so the needy one tries to hold on tighter to their straying partner. I would rather know.
@rsa101 (14878)
• Quezon City, Philippines
19 Mar 09
For me, I guess I want to know of course. It is hard knowing that I am being cheated on. Although that may hurt but knowing would at least make me decide on what to do with it than living in a relationship that you falsely know as working well but is not.