The greatest thing I've learned from my partner

@coldmoon (1092)
France
March 19, 2009 12:24am CST
After about 8 years of knowing my partner and sharing life with him, I realize that finding a love is not having a perfect person by your side, but having a perfect way to be by side of an imperfect person in your heart. What's about you?
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@liza369 (103)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I agree with you 100% I have been with my partner for 5 years now and that's the one thing I learned being with him. When I was younger I was always looking for the perfect person. I now know that there is no such thing as being perfect but accepting his imperfection bc they are perfect in my eyes and thats all that matters. I can't wait to get married to him and spend the rest of my life by his side. Another thing that I have learned is that when you keep looking and looking for love chances are you won't find it but when you least expect it will find you and catch you by suprise.
@coldmoon (1092)
• France
19 Mar 09
Dear liza. I think if we find love after looking for it, thus we've got love as a reward, and if wwe find it after a long expect, thus we've got love as a chance.
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@liza369 (103)
• United States
19 Mar 09
Don't get me wrong I have found love by looking for it but it just wasnt the right kind of love I was looking for....I had given up on love since all I knew was heartbreak and stuff like that that was until I met my fiancee
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
19 Mar 09
Hi Liza! Thank for giving me a good point 'expect less'. I should practice that. I become mad of my husband often because I expect a lot. I expect him to do a lot of cooking and help me in a lot of things. Here onwards I will start expecting less and will be happy.
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@annierose (17254)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
hi coldmoon, Your post is so great. That is true. Most of us when we are younger, wants to have a perfect partner. But as we grow older, we become mature and realize that perfect person doesn't exist. All of us have imperfections.I am in a relationship for more than a year and I can say that I learned also so many things from my partner. I learned how to love and understand with all my heart. I learned how to be patient. As we are in a long distance relationship, it teaches me most of all how to be patient.God know's how we wanted so much for us to see in person. We are world's apart and internet is our bridge to communicate always online. Though, we both feel sadness sometimes because of our distance, we try to overcome it by focusing on happy things. We give importance on the future.Sometimes, I am asking him why he loves me despite the fact that I am not that attractive and he told me that loving is beyond the physical attributes of a person. He still loves me even there are so many beautiful and intelligent women around her.He also made me realized that true loving is not only when the person is present, but also when he or she is not there. My boyfriend and I cannot communicate much because the company he is working with sent him to the remote areas in Panama. This makes me so sad. But although we cannot chat for a week, there is still the love in our hearts its because we have trust for each other.I am thanking God for a wonderful man like him. He is such a blessing to me. Nice topic! Keep posting and Happy Mylotting
@coldmoon (1092)
• France
19 Mar 09
I find that you know what is true love and I'm glad for you.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
19 Mar 09
I agree with you, I spent years looking for my perfect mate. When you first fall in love he can do no wrong and you may as well be blind because nothing is clear then! It is not until the insanity of being in love settles down that we can see the other person for the imperfect human that they are and love them anyway and that's when the magic really begins!
@mansha (6301)
• India
19 Mar 09
I think I have learned how to love from him , he loves me despite my all faults and my naggings and my laziness, if I do not do a task because I am busy with my two year old he will complete the task without a smirk on his face, He has pampered me a lot, I must say and he loves to irritate me just to see me flare up and I know its all done in a friendly teaseing way, I think he has taught me to love wothout any expectations what so ever.
@Jezebella (1447)
• United States
19 Mar 09
That is one of the things i have learned in my dating experiences: not to try and find mr perfect because he doesnt really exsist there is just seeing perfection within flaws and looking past flaws to see someone for who they are and standing by their side like you said.
@hanah87 (1846)
• Malaysia
19 Mar 09
I still learn about my partner...
@delkar (1716)
• Romania
19 Mar 09
well, i really think that you`re right. As for myself, i learned a lot of thing from my ex-girlfriends. From each girl i learned something, and i`m sure that i`ll learn something from now one too. Each one it`s different, and think different. If someone sais that he/she knows all about a relation, they will lie ,because all your life you are a learner. You can learn even from thouse that you consider that you don`t have anything to learn from them. The most important thing that i`ve learned from someone, it`s the power to love just when you want, and after that, to have the power to say...it`s enought, or if the other said that, i learned how to pass on, because i can control my feelings now. If i want not to love a girl that i was loving for a wile, i really can do that. But sometimes, i really think that i`ll meet the true love, the one that will make my feelings go up up up...
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
19 Mar 09
That is so sweet! The first time my boyfriend and I met, I was never really attracted to him and I only see him as a friend but then he proved me wrong. He made me realize how much happy I can be if we are together. He has his shortcomings and so am I but despite it all, we remain more in-love with each other!