Is it ok for a girl to propose to a guy?

@agrim94 (3811)
India
March 19, 2009 9:05am CST
In good Old times it was a mans job to propose a girl but times have changed now and girls are doing what was traditionally reserved for guys.. they became pilots, joined army and do everything a guy does except shave their own beard:). So is it ok for a girl to propose a boy she is interested in or shall she wait for the guy to propose to her?
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@moondancer (7434)
• United States
19 Mar 09
This is totally up to the person. Some girls still hold to tradition. Some say they will ask as they love this guy. And be really some guys won't ask for the fear of being told, "no'. Well the girls do have the same problem. It's the same about asking them out on a date. This was typically the man that did this. Woman must work to make the family life easier for all concerned. They have a lot of responsibility, why not also have some of the rewards in all aspects of life. Woman before took care of the children and home. But it was a thankless duty. Guys feel it's their job. These things are also done by men now as times have changes. It should be mutual and equal responsibilities and rewards.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
20 Mar 09
I understand what you are talking about and both should take responsiblities of home and kids since women are also contributing to family financially. but it is not what i wanted to know..i just wanted to know what girls feels about proposing.. are they comfortable proposing or they still feel it should be the man to do it.
• United States
20 Mar 09
Yes, Like I said it depends on the person. Some girls will and don't mind doing it. They have the same fears as a guy, being rejected. Some girls hold onto tradition and wait for the guy to ask. Sometimes though the guys just wait too long for some girls, maybe it's the fear of hearing "no".
• India
19 Mar 09
i wont propose to a guy.but i'l give him enough hints to understand the i like him.if he likes me,he'l propose me.if he doesnt it wil be fine wid me.i want a guy to propose me wid ring n roses n bent on his knees n stuffs.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
19 Mar 09
so if a guy comes to you with roses and ring and is on knees u would accept him?
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• India
19 Mar 09
no, i wont accept any guy,even if he comes wid a ring n roses n bent on his knees.i'l only accept tht boy's proposal whom i like n i want him to make the first move.
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@luvmysons (497)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I dont see anything wrong with a girl proposing to a guy. Its not a mans world anymore so why not.. I think it takes a certain type of girl to propose. She needs to be strong and independent. Most girls would probably want the guy to propose. I know that I wanted my husband to propose.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
19 Mar 09
Thats y i am asking because even today hardly any girl propose even though she may be standing tall in a traditionally men's world
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@peterjtd (76)
• India
19 Mar 09
its absolutely fine for a girl to express a feeling, atleast she will get a clear picture in mind about what the guys thinks about her. by not doing so, i hope she may not regret for life for not having the guts to speak up.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
19 Mar 09
ok so has any girl ever proposed to you if ur a guy and if ur a girl have u ever proposed to a guy?
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@Krissta (90)
• Canada
19 Mar 09
I think it totally depends on the couple. I dont know if I would want to propose to a guy because I am a closet romantic, and want the roses, ring, and him on his knee. I think now a days, its more a agreement that people come to, to get married, then it is a proposal. I think people mutually decide they are going to get married, rather than accepting a proposal.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
19 Mar 09
Yes right ..i was just curious what people think about this subject. thx Krissta for responding.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
19 Mar 09
I don't see why it shouldn't be, after all you need to know just where you stand and if you want marriage and this relationship is not leading that way you need to know.
@ank_47 (1963)
• India
23 Mar 09
yes time have changed.so why can;t girl propose. she can express her own feeling,after all she is also a human being,she has also right to tell . and she has also feelings . as i am lady , i feel good if any lady proposes first to a guy .this is good change in this world. If the man is liberal enough then the lady can ask him for marriage but that would also depend on how long you have courted and how much you know each other.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
24 Mar 09
hmmm yes times have changed and with change in time all tradition of human race and cultures would change so why not this one too. I am not against any lady proposing to any guy but i wanted to know how many would actually do it.. have you done it urself or if ur not married yet , would u do it urself b4 the guy ask you?
@ank_47 (1963)
• India
24 Mar 09
yes i propose now,if i love any guy. but it is not possible for me,as i am not a teenager now . if i feel that he is true lover,i can propose now also.
@ank_47 (1963)
• India
24 Mar 09
yes i can propose a guy ,if i like anybody now. but i will respect my married life now. if it is not well ,i can see some new guy. but i will not hope to go for new relation.
@happy2009 (330)
• China
23 Apr 09
I think is the same ,It only depend on the love. Love can be the strength pull the person to do anything they could so ,why can't for the propose? girl or guy ,not so important ,just go ahead,because love!
• India
23 Apr 09
u r absolutely right happy2009
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I might sound very old-fashioned but I think men are supposed to be the one propose to girl traditionally. In our home country, way back to 2000 years old, women cannot say "I want to marry to somebody!" unless the men propose it to the women's family and they are compatible to be together. I personally think men should be the one to propose to women and put on the ring on her finger. I wish I had this experience but I didn't and it is such a huge regret in my life.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
24 Mar 09
I am so sorry that you didnt get the pleasure of being asked on one knee. I feel men asking girls to marry is best thing as he has to take responsibility of each and everything in home and no one would ask a lady , at least in India. but these days woman in some home earn far more than men and have more recognition than their men so it is ok if they propose too but for me i wont like my girl to ask me for marriage, it would be such a big turn off.
@jezblog (202)
• Philippines
20 Mar 09
Cheers agrim!! well, why not. that's the society nowadays. It grows in complexity and diversity. Everybody can do everything regardless of gender. Moreover, it is a discretion of all to express their feelings in that way since there's no way around to show it. It's also nice to have someone being open. At least she was able to express herself although there's no success result in it. Happy mylotting.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
20 Mar 09
yes there is no harm in it.. i just wanted to know how girls feels about it though if a girl did it to me on one knee i would be embarrassed i know
@jshekhar (1563)
• India
20 Mar 09
As you have stated, times have changed and the roles that girls assume in a society have also undergone a lot of change. Thus, I see no wrong in a girl proposing a guy. It has happened a lot here in India, though largely it will still be men proposing women rather than the other way round.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
20 Mar 09
Hi shekhar we know how things works in India..95% of us get married through our families and poor girls parents are always on knees but i would love if all marriages in india are love and people ( all of them)have right to find partner for themselves and do find them.
@kedves (728)
20 Mar 09
it's strange that in all other aspects of life most women insist on equality however when it comes to romance they insist it is the mans job to do the running and do the romantic gestures .. like proposing :) I am a modern man in my outlook and I think if a woman feels strongly enough then she has just as much right to propose as the guy .. tradition is fast becoming an outdated idea. I don't know if thats a good thing or a bad thing ..
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
20 Mar 09
It is ones thoughts what to do and i feel that it should be left to individual couple to do things how they want it but for me i am a romantic traditional fool and i would go by the book and propose on one knee.
@katfish86 (146)
20 Mar 09
I don't see anything wrong with the girl asking the guy, but I am secretly a biiiiig romantic, and would want my boyfriend to propose to me. I'd want the diamond ring, him down on one knee... I'd want the excitement of showing people my ring, telling people that he'd proposed etc, as shallow as that might sound! But I know couples where the girl has proposed to the guy :)
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
20 Mar 09
No i dont think it is shallow or sound bad. These are normal human feelings and every girl would do that and wish that this is first and last time this thing happened to her. Yes if i ever propose to any girl i would do it traditional way. Anyways in India we do exchange rings on engagement day and well girls like gold here more than diamond..i might be wrong but i think girls are crazy about gold here
• United States
20 Mar 09
i think its ok.. its not for me though.. i had had 1 or 2 exs before my husband propose and they totally didnt mean it so i needed it to be the guy to do it so that i knew i was thinking we were more serious than we were.. i think if i had done it i would always wonder if he felt the same amount of love for me and wonder why he didnt do it first
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
20 Mar 09
so it is not for tradition but for you to know if he loved you enough to be with you whole life and one way to tell you is to ask you if u would marry him? that is a nice reason to wait and let the guy ask u when he is sure of his feelings.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
20 Mar 09
I don't see why not. My husband proposed to me and I did enjoy that but I think if he hadn't I probably would have done it myself. I don't know if I would have got down on one knee or anything like that though! I know my husband wouldn’t have minded. Some guys are a little funny about it because they like to be the one to do it; they should get with the times, things have changed!
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
20 Mar 09
Yes times have changed and changed a lot. No i dont think girls should go on knees if they plan to propose.. Yes some guys do mind if girl proposed to them and judging from response most girls would want their man to propose to them too.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
19 Mar 09
Hi, agrim94! It is okay, but it looks better for a man to propose to a woman. That is how I feel about it. It seems like the woman is too needy for a man when she proposes to him. But, what can I say, when you are in love, you are in love.. Do as they wish!!
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
20 Mar 09
well if a woman love someone enough then she shdnt think that she if she ask then she would be taken as desperate..ofcourse everyone shd be desperate for the one, one loves
@xhaylea (363)
24 Apr 09
Fantastic discussion by the way. I am not too sure to be honest, as i think it all depends how the relationship is really, i would prefer the man to propose more, as it seems more real and special if you know what i mean, and it shows he is committed to you and everything. Also, i hardly even hear of women proposing to men, it just doesn't seem right for some reason, but a man proposing to a woman just goes nicely, if you get me, abit hard to explain really.
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I think for a woman to propose it is totally up to her. But men usually are the ones who are not ready and by them proposing it insures that the relationship is ready to go to the next step. I once considered being the one to propose. I panicked. I rather wait untill a man gets down and does the deed.
@landi927 (657)
• China
23 Apr 09
I think it's okay for a girl to propose to a guy. If the girl really love the guy, it is not a matter for the girl to be the one who more initiatively.But personally,I won't do so to any guy.Firstly,I'm too shy to do so. Besides, I love romantic things, I want to have the romance that each girl can gain in her life. I hope I can enjoy the happiness of being proposed from the guy I love.
@russvy (22)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I don't see anything wrong with the girl proposing to a guy, as long as they love each other and they respect one another. Right now with modern times what a guy can do it can be done also by a girl.