can a married lady be a girl friend of a bachelor guy?
March 19, 2009 2:58pm CST
I observed while chatting or talking or by reading few articles that if a guy is very nice in talking, well behaving with a married lady then she accepts her as a good friend and after sharing thoughts , meeting in public places or talking on phones if a married lady finds comfortable with his friends then she starts loving him as her best friend or boy friend? Is it right to have such friendship although a lady is married? in my opinion if both are loyal to each other and its open to all that they are very good friends then no problem else i feel bit offensive in such manners. What you people think about it?
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19 Mar 09
I think that if you have to ask the question if it is appropriate, it's probably not. I think you are just looking for someone else to tell you that it's OK for you to do this. Look in your heart and if you would mind if someone did this to you, then you will find your answer.
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19 Mar 09
I don't want to do this but yeah i have so many school or college friends in female group who are married now but few of them are even my best friend yet. We meet when i visit the place where they live, we do enjoy party together with their family, i share my thoughts with them too although for many things i have so many male friends but in some cases they help me out more. Do u mean that if a girl is married then she should not have any male friend as her close friend so that she can enjoy party and all. As far as devotion and care is there its ok but if lust comes then i think its wrong .
19 Mar 09
Hello Jassics, nice question you got here. I am a married lady and for me, it is not appropriate to consider more than friendships or having a boyfriend or flings when i am already married or committed . Jesus said that anyone who looks at a woman and lust against her has already committed adultery in his heart, the same way in a woman, if she delights someone more than her husband, that is considered adultery already. What would the husband feels if he learned that his wife is flirting other men, do you think it is a good idea? the same thing applies to ladies, when their husband is flirting or befriending other ladies, it will also be unfair to her. It is not because you have a certain boundary when it comes to friendship, but i am sure that this is a trap made by Satan so that man will fall and sin before the Holy God. If we will set the standards of this world, then they will allow you that and they will convince you that doing relationship with a married person is right, but you see , we must see the standard of God. And we must abide by this rule to straighten our lives. This is my opinion, i am not in a way forcing you what you choose to do. We have given a free will, to do what is right or to do what is wrong. Happy Mylotting!
19 Mar 09
see mam i am agree with you and i am not saying that for lust purpose or to betray your husband or wife . i wish to know only that if people have frdship with married one then can it be good frdship? you are married so will you forget your school college friends . what if some of them were good frdz of yours ? now just you are married will u break relationship with them? friendship with love, devotion care is far different from frdship for enjoyment.
19 Mar 09
hi jassics, good question you have posted.. yes an married lady can be a good friend for a bachelor guys.... but it should be upto friendship only now a days guys which you mentioned in the question was taking advantage of having good talking and well behaving... if both are in perfect way in making friendship it will be very good friendship between them.... In my opion it is not an issue having married lady as a girl friend for a bachelor guy...... Regards RK