I get confused sometimes........!!

@dpk262006 (54812)
Delhi, India
March 21, 2009 3:56am CST
We come across many persons in our day to day life, while shopping, we meet many sales boys/girls or the owners. We keep interacting directly with many shopkeepers every day. Then there are courier delivery boys/postman/newspaper vender/milkman/canteen boy/messengers/acquaintances and such people, who see us, daily. If I see a person other than on his usual/designated place e.g. meeting a salesman in a party or confronting a shopkeeper in a restaurant, I sometimes face a problem, I fail to recall, where this fellow exactly work or belong to? It takes me considerable time to gather my thoughts and keep them in sequence to recognize the person….....LOL! I was wondering, does it happen with me that I fail to link a person on certain occasions, or does it happen with you also that you fail to co-relate a person and identify him/her. I would like to know your experiences on it. Many thanks in advance.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
21 Mar 09
Hi deepak! You are not alone dear friend! haha..I experience the same thing. The face will look familiar but I couldn't remember where I have seen him or her. I guess, it is because we got used to seeing them in their regular attires/uniforms that seeing them in another suit or clothes just confuse our mind a little bit. Take care and blessings to you! lovelots..faith
@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
Hi! Dear! I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. Many thanks for sharing and enriching the post! lots of love and warm hugs! Deepak
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Hi Deepak dear! That is very true and I agree to your posters. Most of the time too, it depends on how much impact or how great the impression one person would come across to us. Or I am just simply forgetful. haha.. lovelots..faith
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
25 Mar 09
We all are alike (more or less) that is why we are good friends.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
21 Mar 09
My goodness gracious Dpk........ ...You mean you cannot remember faces you have seen only once or twice. ...do you fail to recall where you have seen a person before ...does it takes you considerable time to recall about a particular person ...do you wonder whether your memory is failing you and you must be heading for Alzhiemers ? If your answer to all this is YES then believe me you are a perfectly normal person like me................So go ahead and leave all your confusion behind...YOU ARE A NORMAL PERSON......
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
When I started reading your reply I felt that you are going to prove that I am suffering from Alzhiemers or going to suffer it soon..........LOL! You really made me scared. I am relieved to know that I am a normal person and many people also face the same problem like me. Many thanks for enriching the post.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
24 Mar 09
ha..ha.. DPK ...you must know by now I never miss an opportunity to pull your leg.....though its no fun to do so without Aps around..I miss her so much.....
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
25 Mar 09
Rose, I know for sure that you can pull the strings without she being around, you can be in 'double role' (you and she combined).............
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
21 Mar 09
Firstly So you are confused as and when you find it difficult to recognize the person. A shopkeeper looks so familiar in a shop and a waiter in a restaurant and so on. Its like our childhood days when we are being taught how the profession relates to the place they belong to. Human mind and brain is an amazing thing. They work hand in hand with our notions and beliefs. We get attuned with certain worldly facts like the dogs bark, cats meow etc. We dare not question that! Even though meeting someone where he/she is not supposed to belong is not fully similar to this but somehow our brain and mind are co ordinated that way. Obviously, I would find it confusing to trace someone's background and the place he/she belongs to if I happen to meet him/her out of place! Its something more than just memory. Its more to do with our ability and inclination to choose and pick things and remember those. And deepak, only the other week, I was completely perplexed when a lady came up to me with the most nice smiles and greeted me with lot of warmth. And guess what, I was stupefied and could only smile back with a sheepish smile. I did not want to feel more embarrassed for my brain refused to recognize her! And I am still trying to figure out....
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
Dear Mimipi! I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin, where that person actually belongs to. Could you, by the way, find out, who was the lady, who smiled at you or are you still searching for the answers ..........LOL! Many thanks for enriching the post! And Heartiest Congratulations to you on touching 7000 mark.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
23 Mar 09
I am trying deepak, trying my best but in vain! I come across many people daily since my job description involves in interacting with people from various fields. I love that immensely but it kills me when I fail to recognise someone in public. Even though I smile back I avoid going into active conversation. I fear goofing up and since I am an incessant confused kind I try to hold back to stop further embarrassment.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
I can understand your plight, as you happen to meet so many persons everyday, it is practically not feasible to remember everyone's face and if you get in conversation with someone, it really looks embarrassing to ask the question or say that - "I could not recognize you." However, if I feel perplexed and feel like talking to such a person, I better tell him/her - 'I am sorry I could not recognize you, however, I have seen your earlier somewhere or we have met somewhere'
@polachicago (19143)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I am dealing with many people, but I guess I have photographic memory and I can easy remember who is who. I can connect any face with location. Many people don't recognize me, but I can remember people I net years back.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
HI! Pola! OH! It is great to know that you have photographic memory and you do not forget easily a person's face. I should take some tips from you for sharpening my own memory, will you? Many thanks for sharing and joining us.
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@polachicago (19143)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I also can easy remember Avatars, if people don't change it too often....
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
25 Mar 09
Hi! Pola! That is all the more great on your part Warm hugs!!!
22 Mar 09
Yes, it happens to me a lot. I am unable to place the person's face to her work or where I have met her in the past. Many times, I have made the mistake of assuming that they are a past college mate, only to be told that they actually went for some other music or dance class with me. It can be awkward especially when they remember me and I don't! Then there are those faces that seem very common to my eyes. I hope I dont get into some big trouble with my old buddies because of this lousy memory of mine.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
26 Mar 09
I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again.
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@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 09
Really dpk, we always come across lots of people in different places once we step out our doorway daily. Of course it is quite difficult for me to recognize all of them whom we have contacted for the day. I could remember those whom I could see them every now and then, but I couldn’t recall their names even though they had told me before, unless the names are unique or have special meaning and easy for me to remember. Anyway I will try my best to find out the name of the person if it is really important for me to know it, for I have missed the chance to ask him. If not I will smile and talk friendly to the person who knows and talks to me in return. Sometimes I would ask his or her name and the place where they work strait away, followed by an apology for my forgetfulness. So I don’t have to take the trouble to think of whom the person actually he or she is. Happy posting and good luck.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
Hi! Ikbooi! I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. I appreciate your approach about asking the name of the other person or his origin etc., I think we should admit that we have forgotten his/her name and we need to recollect and ask him/her again. There is no harm in asking for an apology. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. Many thanks for sharing and enriching the post!
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@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
21 Mar 09
Hehe, it happens to me to... more often than I would like it to happen LOL It takes a bit for me to kind of remember where I know that person from and it's exasperating when I can't place them. Worse yet, I sometimes pass by someone that I do know and talk to almost regularly and fail to see them. Usually I am thinking about something and hardly recognize the surroundings LOL Often I have people call me on that, or sometimes even getting mad at me because they feel I just decided to ignore them, but it isn't so.
@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
Hi!Arkaf! I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. Yes, you are right, if you do not talk to a person because you were not able to identiy him/her, he may take it otherwise. Many thanks for sharing and enriching the post!
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@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
5 Apr 09
Hi deepak, I am glad that you asked this, because this is happening with me all the time.....I keep forgetting faces of people. As you know I sit at the reception and so many people walk in every time. I welcome them, I talk with them and they exchange many dialogues with me, and yet when that same person enters the office after few weeks I look at him blankly as if I don't know who is he and this really irritates some people. I think the reason is that in our day to day life there are so many important things that we have to keep in memory that we just forget these casual meetings. Besides, today we are not eating what our grand parents ate.....the real healthy food......., we don't rest properly, we are always stressed and worried.....all this together is making us mentally weak and that is why all this confusion. I am sure it is not just you and me.......but there are many more like us.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
6 Apr 09
I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. Is it really so that we do not take the kind of diet, which our grand parents used to take and it has affected our memory? Many thanks for sharing and enriching the post!
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@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
12 Apr 09
I think, our diet does effect, because the other day I was watching yoga program and there they said that eating asli ghee and also taking massage of assli ghee on your head helps a lot to improve your memory.....also eating almonds early in the morning was suggested.....so I am sure there is some truth in this
@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
13 Apr 09
You are right, good and healthy diet does help us sharpen our memory.
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
22 Mar 09
You may not be alone to this problem. There must be many persons like you but I don't think I can forget my milkman, if I see him at different place. It could be difficult for me to recall about persons whom I don't see often but for daily visited people, I won't get confused most of the time!
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
Hi! Sanuanu! LOL! I give you full marks for it that you cannot forget your milkman. I just quoted an example in my post. I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. Many thanks for sharing and enriching the post!
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
25 Mar 09
but I tend to forget the names on my school time friends. I forgot a friend's name when I met him last month or so. We were meeting after 7-8 years and the most interesting thing was that he recognized me but I couldn't. Till date I am wondering what was the name of that friend! Couldn't ask at that time because that would be giving bad impressions on him!
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
25 Mar 09
San! It is very much possible that if we see a person after 7-8 years we may forget his/her name, because during those 7-8 years we came across many others and registered them in our memory. You would have better asked her name with apologies, otherwise you the mystery would remain.
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
15 Apr 09
Well, I do get lost for a minute or two while I try to place the person. But I am quick to realize who the person is. It has happened to me a few times before...and sometimes my son is a great help in this matter...lol
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
15 Apr 09
It is good that you do not face such a problem and your son must be quite sharp and intelligent like you, that is why he recognises the person(s) for you. Thanks for joining us.
@SViswan (12095)
• India
15 Apr 09
I DO face the problem...it's just that I'm quicker to recognize. And even if we happen to talk before I can place the person, my mind does some quick thinking.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
16 Apr 09
I know you are a real quick thinker It is good that you identify the person, instead of asking him/her the question about his/her identity.
• India
26 Mar 09
Hello my friend dpk262006 Ji, At times, I too get into as you feel. But I rememebr something from my "SATSANG", where it says : [b]“If you can roam in crowds, but do not allow your ‘thoughts’ and ’abilities’ to wander stray, and you live with emperor, but do not neglect common man “.[/b] May God bless You and have a great day.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
26 Mar 09
Some very good thoughts from you, I appreciate your words. Thanks for dropping in.
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• India
3 Apr 09
Hello my friend dpk262006 Ji, So nice of your comments. May God bless them and have a great day.
@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
6 Apr 09
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@Darkwing (21590)
25 Mar 09
It happens more and more the older you get. I still recognise the face, but I can't recall the name, on quite a few occasions, especially if I haven't seen that person for a long time. I suppose the more information our minds store, the slower it's likely to put the information back out, after filing through all the links that are stored in there. It's rather like the computer I guess, and the older we get, the more we have stored! lol. Brightest Blessings my friend.
@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
26 Mar 09
Hello! Darkwing! I agree with your views. Also, I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. Blessing to you too and warm hugs!!
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@Darkwing (21590)
26 Mar 09
Yes, that's another point I guess, but it doesn't seem to be the way with me. I seem to remember even the insignificant, quieter people. I am Secretary for a local darts league, which comprises eleven teams at the moment. I know and remember the names of every single one of them, even though we only meet twice a year in matches, and whether I like them more, or less. I couldn't do the job without remembering all 150 of them. So, you can remember the more insignificant people as long as you take note of them and take an interest in what you're doing when you meet them. You tend to "make it your business" to remember who they are. Some of them I remember from thirty-forty years back! :)
@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
6 Apr 09
• India
23 Mar 09
First of all Deepak, if I try to keep in mind all those people we are meeting everyday, I would be more confused that you are. I am not blessed with a photographic memory, neither do I want to be Sherlock Holmes (no pun intended here) so I know that I cant really remember so many faces and I am not much perturbed over it either. However, sometimes it does happen that a person has been unusually helpful or polite or with a charming smile and courteous behaviour. In such cases, I can mostly remember the face (though it turns out that the face has forgotten my face and so my smile registers no recognition, making me feel like a fool!) yet, there have been times when I have literally wracked my brains yet I could not really place it. Very very frustrating
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
Hi! Sudipta! I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. We both do not have photographic memory. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. As you have said that if a person was courteous to you, you do not easily forget him/her. Many thanks for sharing and enriching the post! Deepak P.S. -How are you? What about your son's exams?
• India
23 Mar 09
I’m fine, now that my son’s exams are over and he’s gone over to his grandpa’s house…Oh! What a relief BTW…in this discussion, I also mentioned the fact that there are people whom I remember but who don’t remember me and what I fool I make of myself when I smile at them…has this ever happened to you?
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
25 Mar 09
I am sorry Sudipta, I missed your point that sometimes some persons forget you on the other hand you know about them. This also happens with me but rarely and if I smile and do not get a response, I also feel very bad. It is good that exams of your son are over. So you are waiting for his result? And moreover, you (your and your hubby) both are alone and can have some quality time together at home.
@chaitra001 (3280)
• Bangalore, India
23 Mar 09
Hi deepak it happens to me also when I am in very deeply involved with my work of If I am in tension even I cant recognise some people suddenly it takes few minutes to recall who it is. and ofcourse in our daily routine we meet a lot of people so it will be difficult sometimes. Happy myloting.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
23 Mar 09
Hi! Chaitra! I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. Yes, you are right, if we are not cool and calm, there is more possibility of 'not' recognising the person. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. Many thanks for sharing and enriching the post!
• Bangalore, India
23 Mar 09
yes if you meet the person very rarely or if you feel its not that important then this things will happen.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
25 Mar 09
Chaitra! I endorse your views.
@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Mar 09
I used to be thinking hard and crushing my brain to know who is the guy I am talking with so happily many times without getting a clue most of the time.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
23 Mar 09
Our brain always takes the liberty of registering only the things and images needed.
@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
25 Mar 09
I buy your argument Bala.
@balasri (26577)
• India
25 Mar 09
@riyasam (16582)
• India
21 Mar 09
deepak,it does happen to me(i thought i was aging,thats why i was getting confused.)one month back,a boy from a bank had come to take my signature on some document(i donot what his designation was).few days later ,he again came to my house as my brothers friend and i for the life of me couldnt recollect were i had seen him before....
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@riyasam (16582)
• India
23 Mar 09
thats right,deepak.it depends on the level of interaction!!due to my profession,i meet a number of people,i remeber only significant ones.i,sometimes find it difficult to do shopping in my area,as many have been my patients(especially shopkeepers).i told my husband,i am going to wear a burkha now.
@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
25 Mar 09
Yes, Riya that your profession is such that your patients can give you run for your money and they can confront you anytime and anywhere so there is no harm in wearing a Burka.
@Sreekala (18781)
• India
21 Mar 09
Deepak, It is common feeling, I think. It means we are not familiar with person and we have seen the person somewhere else and can’t recollect easily. It happens with me many times but I will end up my thinking only after locating the place where I have seen the person, upto that time I keep on thinking (lol). We may not be in regular touch with that person that is why we can’t remember them easily and the person must have given a friendly approach with us when we met him/her.
@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
6 Apr 09
Hi! Sree! I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. It is good that you keep thinking and thinking till you get the right answer about the unknown person. Many thanks for sharing and enriching the post!
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
6 Apr 09
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@hmkoct5 (2067)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Yes, this happens to me as well. I often know that I have seen such person before, but I can't recall where or when. We see so many people, as you said, on a daily basis. Sometimes, it is hard to keep track! My husband was a teacher at a high school and sometimes he swears he sees his students, but he can't recall if they were actually his students or not! lol - it's kind of funny.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
21 Apr 09
Your reply sounds quite amusing and interesting. Many thanks for sharing such experiences with us. We all are more or like same.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Oh it happens. I work in a store and have worked in the same store for years. It is so funny to me when someone that I see regularly will run into me outside of the store and not be able to place where they know me from. I'm probably dressed a bit different, no makeup and above all....not behind the counter! we all do it, i think.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
16 Apr 09
Sid556 Hi! Your reply sounds quite amusing and interesting. Many thanks for sharing such experiences with us. We all are more or like same.
• Malaysia
26 Mar 09
I think this is very normal and it happens to most of us. I was at a party recently and a lady came up to me and start talking to me as if she has known me for ages. I just couldn't recollect who she is and while listening to her talking I was trying to remember where I met her. Though she looked familiar but can't remember her name. I plucked up my courage and asked her name. To my embarrassment, she tapped my shoulder and said how could I forget her as she was once working with my dad! I felt very bad and asked for apology for forgetting her name. It was years back so my memory of her has been totally erased from my memory bank.
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@dpk262006 (54812)
• Delhi, India
6 Apr 09
I am much relieved to know that you also face the same problem and you also get confused sometimes, when you find yourself unable to recognize a person's origin. What I gather from the other responses is that it largely depends upon our meeting(s) with that person, if the meeting was good and memorable, we remember the person very well, otherwise, we remain so preoccupied with our thoughts that we find it difficult to recoganise him/her if we happen to see him/her again. Your experience with that lady would have given you a good lesson...LOL! Many thanks for sharing and enriching the post!