Can you show your feelings

@savypat (20247)
United States
March 21, 2009 1:35pm CST
How comfortable are you showing your feelings, the ones that can expose you to even unspoken ridicule? Can you cry, hug, kiss and even take a compliment or criticism? Do you accept the full input of your feelings?
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@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
25 Mar 09
Not always. There are times I am not comfortable being very demonstrative of my feelings. And I don't think one person can be branded as "pretentious" right away just because he is holding back. I guess what's important is that when you do something, you have to be comfortable about it. If you try hard to be showy of your feelings and in the end feel shrunken because you felt ridiculed by people, then for me that's still pretending.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Have you ever really had people ridicule you or do you just think they are going to if you show your emotions? Don't over think things, just go for it, what can they do? Laugh, point at you, make cutting remarks? So what you know your true self and Do you really think they would do these actions and chance a confrontation? Doesn't this look silly on paper? This is what our minds do to us. Blessings
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
25 Mar 09
Maybe the source of the discomfort is the fear to be ridiculed. Well yeah, you are right. We all have to be free to express ourselves but as for me, as long as it makes me feel awful about myself, I just won't do it. Besides, I have true friends, and loved ones to whom I can truly be myself. That's enough for me. :-) Same blessings to you, savvy. :-)
@zabawaus (1732)
• United States
21 Mar 09
hello savypat, I show exactly what i feel, I can never keep inside,If i am upset i tell why i am upset and my mood is very bad during theday, but if i am happy i am so hard to handle i just sing, smile,. I can easily, smile, cry, kiss , hug, shout ,yell, hit. Sometimes over react but this is what i am :)
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
21 Mar 09
Lucky you, most of us are not that self confident to do this. Blessings
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@zabawaus (1732)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Hey savypat, Thank you so much for best response , You made me happy . Have a wonderful day!
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I don't show my feelings... I'm not comfortable opening myself up to anyone. i have a really hard time expressing myself. I wish i could show my feelings to others. I want to be able to talk to others about things and what not. but i don't know what happens to me.. why i feel like i can't say what's on my mind. why i'm so scared or nervous to say it.. i feels so stupid sometimes because i just can't get it. I can tell myself that it's fine, just say it! it's not going to change how someone feels or sees me...but i always fear it will. I fear that i wont be accepted for who i am... and i think most of that is because i never was as kid. so i don't know how to accept myself let alone know how to accept that someone else does accept me for who i am.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Try writing it down, picture the situation, visualize yourself and the other people exchanging words in what you think is a normal conversation, then write a list of what you fear will happen. Somehow the mind builds things that are only mouse size into elephants. But when you see it on paper you realize it's only a mouse. I know it takes courage to talk to people, I use to get sick every time I had to do it but doing what I told you before got me over it. I had to do this many times but it was worth it. Blessings
@riyasam (16578)
• India
22 Mar 09
i am a extreme person.i show my feelings so much that sometimes the other person feels suffocated.so,now i try to withdraw myself,although i sonot show any feelings on the front,i do show my feelings when i am alone or with another friend.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
22 Mar 09
It is hard to reach a middle ground on this, keep trying, don't shut down, just curb you reactions a little so you don't scare people.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Hi pat! I am quite able to show my feelings no matter what they are! I am able to laugh, cry, hug, kiss all without any problem or hesitation! I can take critism without a being offened. I do have a bit more problem taking a compliment though. For some reason, that to me is a bit more difficult.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
22 Mar 09
If we have a problem with any of this it's a self worth problem, i know because i have always had problems with all of it. I know I need to work on self worth, but I just make baby steps.
@pricelis (86)
• United States
21 Mar 09
For some reason I've learned to only show some feelings when I think its safe. Not sure if thats wisdom or fear.
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@savypat (20247)
• United States
21 Mar 09
I am afraid many of us suffer from this. Hang in there.
• United States
21 Mar 09
Oh, my friend! I am one huge ball of emotions and they show all over me. My students tease me about having a rubber face, but I don't realize until they point it out that I'm doing it. I find a hearty laugh the best thing in most days. A good cry clears away the blues most of the time. I don't think I could hide my emotions if I tried, and I don't try.
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@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
Most of the time I really don't like showing my feelings especially to those people I know. I have to stop crying first before I tell them how I feel. I don't know, I just simply get embarrassed. I'd rather let my tears flow while I'm outside and let people I don't know see me. Than letting people who knows me see me that way. I hate people who are asking too many questions about me.
@savypat (20247)
• United States
30 Mar 09
many of us feel like you do, we just feel to exposed to show much emotion in view of others.