Do you feel like you can talk to your partner about anything?

@JenInTN (27565)
United States
March 21, 2009 7:23pm CST
Some people are very open and talk to their partners about anything and everything. Other people say it's better that you don't. Maybe it's something that causes jealousy or even just a different point of view. What about you? Husbands,wives,boyfriends and girlfriends..can you talk to your partner about anything. If you don't have a partner..are you an open talker or more reserved?
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@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
yes. we talk about anything under the sun. name it we sure did talk about it one time or another. sometimes i know she will be asking just for the fun or sometimes she is asking just for curiousity but i know she will be laughing at what ever my answer would be. i in the same way once we talked about it and i know of it already then i will not ask it to her anymore. she is sometimes the type that even she knows it she will ask it again.... specially about exes. har har har
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
LOL...I think we all are a little curious about the exes. Musicians often attract alot of attention from the women too It's really good you and your wife are able to talk so openly. I think it puts insecurities to rest when things are open and honest. Take care and thanks for responding.
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• Philippines
22 Mar 09
well i can say that you are right with that point that musicians attract a lot of women, but my wife is a professional singer and you can imagine how many guys fall for good voice . har har har. she even always has lots of flowers after every gig. the only problem is her followers does not know that she is allergic to pollen so we really dont bring it home. har har har.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Oh my! I had no idea your wife was into music too! That's terrific! Is she a part of your band or is she in one of her own? I do understand she must be drawing attention too! Wow.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
22 Mar 09
well, i'm glad somebody finally realized there ate partnerless people out here. lol. i don't think anyone could ever say i was reserved. if something needs to be said out it comes.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
LOL..I really like that about you too! Thanks for the response jo..oh..did you get my message on TN friends? LOL
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
22 Mar 09
i don't think i got it , jen. u know my peabrain.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Ok..I'll send it to you again.
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@bubbletush (1334)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
I can confide with my husband with almost everything. There are some issues that we do not agree with but I still find it helpful to seek his opinion because at times his point of view is more logical than mine. I could be stubborn on certain issues and he could make me see which is better.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I think it is very important to have another point of view sometimes. It's great you are comfortable to confide in your hubby about anything. Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
elro thanks for the link. i find the website very interesting and helpful. i even bookmarked it.
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
yes Jen, it really is very important to be open minded with another person's point of view. Because sometimes we think that we know best but only to realize there is something better.
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
22 Mar 09
My partner is my best friend so we tell each other everything. We talk about evertthing, sometimes we disagree and that can be good sometimes. We trust each other 100% and there is not one subject I can think of that we would not discuss.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Hi thezone! That's terrific! Sounds like you have a very good relationship. It's nice to have a partner and bestfriend rolled all in to one. Thanks for sharing!
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@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
22 Mar 09
Yes she is the best and I am not afraid to say it even after ten years, I would be lost without her
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
That's awesome!
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
22 Mar 09
See, I am a little reserve person and if I would hear something from my partner about her past bf or partner, then I might become uneasy with her. So, my suggestion is that you should not share each and everything with your spouse unless and until it is absolutely necessary. I also can't tell my wife that I had cyber *** with a girl who is still a very good friend of mine.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Oh my...that could cause a lot of trouble. There are a lot of people that are reserved in what they tell their partners. There are also a lot of people that are uneasy with their partners past. Thanks for the honesty and take care.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
24 Mar 09
The only reason why I could share this with you is the fact that you are one of the finest friend here at mylot and the other thing is that I am talking to you with any eye contact! That made me share it with honesty with you but I feel I can't do this with my gf because I will have to see in her eyes!
• United States
22 Mar 09
To be honest with you when I was first in relationships I wasn't to open with the person I was with at the time; simply because I felt that they would use my thought and feelings to hurt me. Now in my marriage me and my husband talk to each other about any and everything. We were always like that with each other even when we were just dating
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
You found the right one then! That's great. Trust can be a huge factor in opening up completly. Thanks for the response!
@23uday (2998)
• India
22 Mar 09
Hi friend, Yes,i want to talk and feel to my partners every thing and any thing. Talking any thing they will suggest in a good way or if we are in some trouble they will help to us.My partners are not jealous feelings,no cunningness,friendly nature always,open minded nature. have a nice day.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
That's great! I think it's better if we are open. At least if you don't have to worry about jealously. Thanks for responding.
@dpk262006 (56484)
• Delhi, India
22 Mar 09
It'll depend upon the level of understand between the partners and their mutual trust. If either of the partner is not broad minded he/she won't appreciate the other one talking about his/her boy/girl/woman friend. The jealousy factor is common trait amongst many of the partners and if a partner talks openly about his/her exploits with the opposite gender, jealousy factor may come into picture and suspicion may start growing. As far as I am concerned, it is difficult for me to discuss or say disclose each and every venture with my partner, as she might not appreciate some of my ventures......LOL!
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Ventures huh? Well..maybe we should keep those to ourselves...LOL. Thanks for the response Deepak!
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
i can talk to my boyfriend about anything and everything, including politics, religion, feelings, personal problems about family, stress at work and a lot more. he is my best friend and i feel free to talk about everything. happy mylotting!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
That's great! You are very lucky! I think it fulfills us to be able to share and have our opinions respected. Thanks for the response.
@MisterPlus (1917)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
There are some things you need not say to your partner. You have to be very careful of what you might say. Sometimes when you tell your deepest secret to your partner it may be the signal of the end of your relationship. So be wise not to tell everything about your life to your partner. You would be lucky to have someone who can understand everything about you.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Hi MisterPlus! I hope you have been well. I think if you have a deep secret..it is probably best left that way unser most circumstances. Either that or just get it out of the way right at the beginning. We would all be lucky to have someone to understand everything about us. Thanks for the response.
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
Hi jen! I am very open to my husband anything about our kids, money, needs, wants feelings and insights. You know, when you are open to your husband, conflicts and disagreements has no place in your relationships. but really it happens sometimes or often times, but it is not worse of getting divorce or annulment when both of you don't understand each other anymore. Both of you will understand each other in all aspects if you ask and consult him first about anything especially if this is about a very very serious and complicated decision making about you and your family.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Hi annalou! I agree that growing apart and not understanding each other is a big cause of marriages ending. I think it's a great idea to stay as open as possible with your mate. Thanks for responding and welcome to myLot.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Everything except money. I think talking about that somewhat strains the relationship.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Money can be a strain. Marriages end all the time over money. Thanks for the response.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Hey Jen! I can talk to my boyfriend about pretty much anything except of course him! He is very easy going and I can say whatever I need to say to him. He never loses his temper or gets angry. I am the one with the temper. He may not say anything, but he does listen. Sometimes I do talk a bit too much and I think that he gets annoyed!
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
That's great Opal! It's nice to have someone to talk freely with. Him being easygoing makes it easier I'm sure. I'm glad you have someone like that. Take care and thanks for the response.
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
22 Mar 09
For the most part I think I can. Although sometimes I feel like I'm walking on egghsells.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Hi Shar! I hate feeling like that but I can relate. That's the feeling that keeps us from being open sometimes. Thanks for the response.
• United States
22 Mar 09
I can talk to my partner about a lot of things. The one thing I choose not to talk about. Is the things that go on with my friends. That would be crossing the line for me. He could judge me later on for something that they are doing. I feel your spouce should not know what your friends are doing. Especially the friends who were yours before you met your spouse.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I can understand. I have a friend that is well..kind of lost and does things that I wouldn't or that I agree with. I don't want to be judged by what she does and I don't want her to think I talk about her with mt partner. He might slip up and say something in front of her that would hurt her feelings. Thanks for the response.
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
22 Mar 09
There were times you don't feel like talking, it depends on the mood you both have. Honestly my hubby is so meticulous that sometimes irritates me. That's why I seldom talk to her everything and anything. I just pick what I would like that we could talk about..that's it...cheers
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I see what you mean It's hard sometimes when your mate is very picky. Sometimes it's best to chose conversation. Thanks for the response.
@dodo19 (33604)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
22 Mar 09
I prefer to be opened and straight forward with him. I don't like to hide things from him, at least not the important things. I don't think that it helps the relationship, if the partners can't talk to each other about at least the important things.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Good for you dodo! Nothing good ever comes from hiding things. I think that sooner or later if you try to hide things..it will always come out. Little things can be great big things if they are hidden. Thanks so much for responding.
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@balasri (26553)
• India
22 Mar 09
I am lucky to have an understanding wife with whom I can talk about anything.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
That's great balasri! I'm very happy for you.
@balasri (26553)
• India
23 Mar 09
And I am thanking you for that friend.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
22 Mar 09
honestly before when i am new with my husband i cannot talk anything with him but now we are 9 yrs yes i can talk openly and it helps a lot to our daily life by open each other. we become best friend now and that point i love him even more
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Hi bombshell! I love your honesty. I'm the same way! It takes me a while sometimes. It's good that you and him are best friends now. It definately makes things more comfortable.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
23 Mar 09
thank you Jen.yes we are best friend now no money but happy with honey
@zhuhuifen46 (3486)
• China
25 Mar 09
For partners in good relations, it seems alright to talk on anything you wish, but something better keeps to your privacy, say your past experience in love, or impression on other females, I would not like to listen. If ever heard, I cannot shake it away, esp. when both are in tension. Everybody needs to keep to himself something to reduce burden to the other party.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Thanks for the response. I think that is best for some people too.