How long of dating before a guy should propose?

United States
March 22, 2009 12:28am CST
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 years. (june 28 makes 6 years).. We talk about getting married, ALOT. Even down to what we'd do with our wedding and what not. But, i'm buggin out. Almost 6 years!! He's goin to be 35 this year and i'm 27 .. We even went and picked out our rings. I love him to death and KNOW he's the one.. I know some people that were together for like a year or so and they are married within that next year. Makes me cringe because what's his deal.. We dont have children so maybe thats why he doesnt fill the rush.. So how long do you think a guy should wait til he should propose?
5 responses
@Jennlk84 (4219)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I'd be going crazy waiting for the proposal! lol You seriously do not look 27, FYI. haha There is no doubt in my mind that the two of you will get married, he sounds very serious about it especially with looking at the rings, but I hear ya girl...it's tough waiting! Heck I had to wait about a year longer than I wanted to and I was going nuts. Maybe ask him when he sees the two of you getting married? and maybe start working towards getting married in a certain year and then from there say hey...why not "this month of such n such year." Just to get his reaction.
@lexi19 (25)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I agree with hinting on dates. My fiance and I always talked about marriage and planned everything out including the date and got our rings and everything, but he never proposed. It was just a thing where we both knew we were getting married so he never felt the need to "get on one knee and ask". But I would definitely say, "hey I'm going to start setting aside this much money every month towards our wedding, and by "2012" (or whatever) we should have enough saved to get married, or something in that aspect... and just see what he says. This will eliminate a little bit of the "financial stability" IF he is using this as an excuse to postpone the marriage.
• United States
23 Mar 09
i agree to the both of them!! very much soo!! thank you!!
@mkchaves (533)
• Canada
22 Mar 09
my boyfriend and I have been in this relationship for almost 4 years now and he havent proposed yet. i like him to propse already but i guess, we have lots of things that we still need to do before tying the knot. or what. hehehe :) we also talk about weddings and what to do and all.. sometimes i just can't wait for that to happen. but... things come in the right time.. i just need more patience. :) he keeps on reminding me that he needs to be really financially stable and then thats the time he will propose. so... yeah. ^_^
• United States
22 Mar 09
that totally sounds like my boyfriend. he says that to me all the time. and i just always say to him, NO one is EVER goin to be financially stable to be married and have children. but, guess that doesnt matter. i need to learn patience.. i lack it, in MANNNY ways! lol GL, i hope that he proposes to you soon! :)
• United States
24 Mar 09
It took benji almost 7 years!!!!!!!!!! Your day will come hun....he loves u & u 2 are happy...it will happen! :)
@Andi2004 (19)
• United States
23 Mar 09
everyone is different. maybe he is not ready to tie the knot yet. you should give him time maybe throw a hint in sometimes. i have seen people together for 10 years and not married and people engaged for two years and still not married it just depends on the person.
@SKYRYNE (100)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Hi..! we been in 7 years for a good relation with my BF. So far we never intend for brake up for that years. He's going to be 30 this year and i'm 27. Now we are planning to get married before this year end ( hopefully hehehe). But before we enter that we need to prepare it. We wont like to our parents to spend money for our wedding. So we need to prepare it financially.