Check up on things

@talker96 (154)
United States
March 22, 2009 1:36am CST
I have a tendency to snoop through my girlfriends phone messages. It's habit. I don't think she's doing anything but it drives her insane. Now, I don't do this to other people, I'm not the kind of guy who goes into a bathroom and snoops through their medicine cabinet. So why do I check my girls? My question is this, do any of you do this kind of behavior?
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5 responses
• China
22 Mar 09
of course not, I never see my girl friends phone messages, she also trsut me. many guys like you, as I know, one of my friend has the same habit with you.
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• United States
21 Apr 09
I do it on sometimes but not too much... I am not doing it as much anymore, but like you trusting the person you are with is not the problem. It is others, that as I call it play games. My boyfriend had a girl call him every Saturday at 2 am to see if he would come out drinking. Yes we would be in bed sleeping when this would go on. He not wanting to start any fights would never say anything about it. It made me feel like poop. I finally told him to basically to tell her to !@#$ off and I will not stand for this to go on. He did finally She never calls him as far as I know. from now one if his phone goes off in the middle of the night, he hands it to me, since that is a major pet peeve of mine people calling all hours of the night. Since they have a child together it is kinda hard never to talk to the other one. I am sure if she is with you she wants nothing to do with him. it is just something everyone has to deal with.
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@xkaraix (596)
• Australia
22 Mar 09
If you were my boyfriend and were habitually going through my phone messages I'm not sure you'd be my boyfriend anymore. It shows a lack of trust in what she is doing and who she speaks too. I have access to most of my boyfriends email and phone messages but that doesn't mean I look through them and I hope it means he trusts me enough not to look through mine.
@Lee_Rites (845)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I think everybody has done something like this at some point. Sometimes curiosity just gets the best of ya. Even people who say they'd never do anything like that probably have snooped before. Why do you tell her? I know I have been snooped on before. I don't care if my husband looks. But if he looks and then starts making accusations based on very little misleading information it irks me. I have nothing to hide. It just makes me feel a bit smothered if he wants to know every little thing. When you go through her messages, do you do it in front of her? Do you ask a lot of questions? Do you accuse her of things based on what you read? Did you stalk her before or after you started dating? Details man. We need details.
@talker96 (154)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Stalk?! Yeah, back in the day I was known as Stalker 96. (for all those that are not bright, I was kidding. Not you Lee, for you I need to type slower) Okay, I do it because I want to see if her ex has been calling.....there, I said it.(Talker96 goes into a fetal position and crawls into a corner for an hour repeating to himself over and over, "I feel pretty") Seriously, her ex, as soon as he realized we were serious, started embedding himself into our life. It is so annoying. I trust my girl, everybody needs to understand this, but I don't trust him. And she sometimes would not tell me if he called if she thinks it is something not worth talking about. They have a kid together so, he's always around. She hates his guts though, so at least I got that going for me.
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• United States
23 Mar 09
Whoa, you seriously do need to type a little slower. Any way you make the words a little bigger? Maybe add a few pictures? Ok, I think I am all caught up now. I had my son come and read it to me (btw, he thinks you need some serious help, but that's another story). So, what you're saying is that your girl's ex is a stalker. I think I follow. I totally understand. I've been there before. I've been stalked a lot. But for as beautiful, funny, and just plain awesome as I am, I don't think I've been stalked nearly enough! It really does a number on my self esteem when I don't have stalkers peeking through my windows and sitting outside my job checking up on me. Enough about me, let's talk about you. The girlfriend's ex is an intrusive pain. They have a kid together so she can't cut all ties and it irritate's the crap out of ya. I have been there, actually I am there. My husband has two daughters from a previous marriage. I used to check the phone calls and even the emails. I don't check anymore and you shouldn't either. You're just torturing yourself. STOP IT. There is nothing you can do about it.
@ank_47 (1963)
• India
30 Mar 09
if u;r girlfriend knows about u;r snooping,think of it ,what will she do. and i doubt about u;r relation also,whether it is good or bad ,after she knows about u;r snooping. i will also see my husband's phone messages. infront of him or backside. he know my attitude and don;t ask why i am seeing.sometimes i doubt about his phone messages. i doubt whether he is getting any the ladies messages. he will in control for his messages. he sometimes deletes some messages .