Do you learn from your mistakes?

Singapore
March 23, 2009 2:54am CST
As they say "once bitten twice shy". But i come to realize that some people just don't learn. They get bitten and bitten till they're all bruised up but they still hang on and get hurt again and again. Even standing at the side, it's hard to watch. And here we (by-standers) are persuading and begging, but to no avail. And yes, i'm talking about relationships. I cringe whenever i see my gal pal get hurt by her sorry-excuse-for-a-man boyfriend hurt her again and again. And she still has illusions about marrying him. I mean if i were her, once bitten, i'd run the other direction. FAR FAR Away. What about you?
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@aileen18 (170)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
yes i learn from my mistakes. we all meant to make mistakes and because of that we are growing to be a better person.
• Singapore
30 Mar 09
yea, i think so too...
@laedyan (190)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
When it comes to relationship, I don't like being in the situation where the guy i love did something to hurt me. I'll probably end up the relationship rather than being hurt repeatedly. Its degrading to see someone who still clings to his man after so many painful things that he did to her. Some people might disagree because they might have the saying wherein its ok to be hurt if you love the guy. But what if the hurtful things will go on forever just because of him, will you still cling to that man you love? For me, its the most horrible thing to do.
• Singapore
24 Mar 09
aye.. but that's hard. and takes alot of practice.
@agrim94 (3811)
• India
30 Mar 09
Everyone learns something from their mistakes if they do analysis of why they failed. But i dont think most do it and usually blame on things not in their hand or blame it on others. So no lessons learnt. As far as i am concerned if i make a big mistake which cost me dearly then i would always try to analise where i went wrong but if it is small mistake like running where i shouldn't be i dont take any lessons from it but if i hurt my family, girl or friends then of course i think a lot why and how did i hurt and try to avoid it in future.
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@SmilyQin (180)
• China
24 Mar 09
Ok,talking about your topics,do you learn from your mistakes? yes,I do.I do learn a lot from it.If I made one mistake,then I would pay double attention when I met it again,or I had learned a lot from the previous lessons.So i won't made the same mistakes again. But talking about mistakes in a realtionships,i know little about it.I mad little mistakes in it,maybe I am not that type of emotional girl,i am very rational. And i do believe something inlove. Love is blind. There is neither right nor wrong in love.
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@becnh83 (806)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
yes of course i learn out of my mistake...way back to my highschool life..there was a division activity in our school, me and my classmates thought that we have no class on our next class because the delegates from other schools are all coming so we decided to go to the beach and have some fun w/o knowing that our teacher was finding us for our class attendance and there was this guy told that we went to the beach for fun so my teacher was so angry she doesnt know what to do she afraid that we might disgrace of what we are doing...so what she was planning to us after the division she will call the attention of our parents and tell all the stories we were suspended at that time and my mama was very disappointed bec.thjat was the first time for her that the school call an attention to her and my parents was planning me to move to another school, and that i ask my mama's forgiveness and i promise not to do it again and she accept my apology and never do it again...and that situation i learn that what we are doing is a mistake.....
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• China
24 Mar 09
Ya,we know everyone must make mistake at times,we don't avoid they happen,but we can avoid the same happen again.I get a lesson from which i make mistake,and next time i'll take care to manage.
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@lvjunjie (80)
• China
24 Mar 09
the story you told is so misable .yes ,i like that proverbs "once bitten twice shy ".every time i am droped ,i may look at me in the mirrior .think it for my behavior ,that thing should i blame for myself ? year after year ,i have grown to be a mature girl.
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@Elegant7 (142)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I do my best to learn from my mistakes. Admittedly, I have made the same mistakes several times. However, even I have my limits to how many times I'll make the same mistake before I learn from it. In all, I try to not repeat my mistakes, it just doesn't always turn out that I do every time.
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@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Personally when it comes to things like this such as being Abused from a Lover and such, or even their significant other in Marriage I also wonder why they keep on going back to continue to have it happen time after time and nothing or no one there can help them change their mind. Like in the Case of Rhianna going back to Chris Brown. You just hope that somehow someway someone can help wake them up and see the importance to leaving them for good before something more serious ends up happening to them as well.
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@malsun (1528)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Well I have learned the hard way. So I try not to repeat my mistakes, especially when it comes to relationships. I always feel that in certain relationships you should not follow your heart blindly. And as far as looking at people who are committing that mistake, I know how frustrating it is when you are trying to help them and they would just not listen.
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@carann (262)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I see my son making mistakes with girls. I give him advice butthen do my best to stand back and let him make some mistakes. He comes back to me later. Hesays he should have listened to me. Other times he just can't figure out why what happened happened. I don't tell him I told you so and I am not right 100% of the time. Just make your opinion known in a nice way and hang in there.
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@roxa19 (115)
• Romania
23 Mar 09
in love, we don't see nothing, except the person we love. others see the real faces of the person we love. if they try to tell us, we don't belive them. i have a friend in the same situation like yours, her boyfriend dumped her 28 times at the altar. so, she still loves him. love is blind.
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• Israel
23 Mar 09
Relationships are a bit complex. Sometimes, there's no good or bad even that for us it seems this way. But you are right - sometimes those from the outside can see best. The emotional involvement sometimes blinds us to the truth - we are being used! So what's the wonder sometimes our love-struck friends do things that look stupid to us? The best thing we can do, as far as I can see, is stand by them the whole time.
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• India
23 Mar 09
Hi lotter .i try to do so ,icant say that i always improve my mistakes but yeah u try ,as no one is perfect in this world,so am i. happy my lotting
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
I always treat my mistakes as my best teacher. I have made several mistakes in the past, including relationship, and have learned many things from it.
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@hershiez (464)
23 Mar 09
Yes, I do learned from my mistakes and also, from the mistakes of others. Mistakes make us think. Make us realize what we had, what we've lost and what we've taken for granted. Mistakes make us realize that sometimes, there are no next time, no time-outs and no second chances.
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@reds08 (306)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 09
Yeah, i learn from my past mistakes. I never regret of them, but i will try not to experience the same thing, and make it to be a motivation for being better in the future. Because we have to learn from yesterday. But when heal with feeling or love, sometimes people do unlogic thing, like your gal pal did.
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@drdivu (1011)
• India
23 Mar 09
hi.. well, i do learn from my mistakes..i do try too most of time..!! the girl thing is different issue.. She or rather almost every girl suffers from the same thing..!! even i m going thro the same..wat can i comment on her..!!!
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
I agree with you. Why stay with that kind of relatioship. Being committed means you get the respect from your partner & hurting is not showing respect. I feel bad for your friend but I admire you for staying with her inspite the odds that she's experiencing.
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• China
23 Mar 09
I learned experience from my mistakes.when I made mistake,I would think about it,and try to avoid making again.sometimes,I fogot the experience,and now I write diary everyday. Make progresee everyday! Have a good day
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