How long is too long? David Letterman married his longtime gf after 2 decades!

@babyfuzz (1079)
Philippines
March 24, 2009 1:11pm CST
Boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years now. But I felt I really knew him only after 7 years. People change and it's an everyday struggle to keep up with them. So do you think David Letterman did the right thing, waiting for 2 decades before he married his girlfriend?
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
25 Mar 09
Hello babyfuzz! It's been too long since I see you here. How have you been doing? Going back to your discussion. I didn't know that he married his longtime gf after 2 decades. Oh wow! I guess that's record breaking. My husband and I were together for almost 3 years before deciding to get married. I might be too old if we will wait for 2 decades before getting married.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
Hi aisaellis! Yeah, I think 3 months ago? haha! How about you? How's your marriage? Yeah, I guess it's a matter of personal preference. May I ask why you wanted to get married?
• United States
26 Mar 09
hehehe..my husband and I are doing great everyday although we are still far away.. I want to get married because I want to be with him forever and to live with him..
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Aw.. yeah.. I know that feeling that you just want to be with this person for the rest of your life. But can't you do that without marrying? Like live-in?
@SuzyLong (775)
24 Mar 09
I guess it depends on the couple. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years in May and we've only just decided to get married. His parents have never been married though. If David and his girlfriend felt that the time was right for them to get married then good on them I say.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Hi, Suzy! Yeah... Boyfriend and I are also together for 8 years now and we have a daughter but we are not yet married. Marriage doesn't really matters to me now as long as he's supporting my kid and we're good together. ^^
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@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
Just a Q for both of you and I am just curious on this thing. So here it is, is marriage really needed in every relationship? I know there are so many factors that would involve including religion and beliefs but aside from those two, is there other else that is far more important basis the marriage is necessary?
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
Hi, sirroB! For me, marriage is a matter of personal preference. Not really into it now. I wanna experience walking in the aisle while my man is waiting for me. It's overrated but it's like a girl's dream to be the center of attention. People wanna get married for different reasons. Some security reasons and before here in our country, a child is illegitimate if his parents are not married before he was born. But now, (like in our situation) even if we're not married my daughter got her dad's surname. As for religion, you should have the same religion before you get married. But I'm not really particular about religion too. As long as we understand and respect each other, I'm fine with it. Marriage is an oath to forever that you'll be loving and helping each other no matter what. I hope no one will get mad, but I think marriage is like making things formal, like telling the world, "hey, this person is mine now".
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
26 Mar 09
Well, it all depends ^_^ Some couples married each other barely 1 month into their relationship while some took years.. Thus, it all boils down to how they feel to each other, and how certain they are, to each other's feelings ^_^ Some take marriage as a joke while some see it as a serious matter ^_^ If one wants their marriage to really work out well, then they should not rush into it, and end up divorcing after a few months ^_^ U are right in saying, ple do change everyday.. Even though a couple might be together for more than 50 yrs or so, there will still be time when they surprised their spouse thru some actions and words.. lol =D As for him, i guess he feels that the time is ripe now ^_^
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
Hi, kun! I can't add anything more to say. I agree with everything you said. ^^v
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
27 Mar 09
LOL =D
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
I knew I just have to answer this. Me and hubby just talking about this last night. It is not about David who but about getting married or living together. I don't mean to offend you OK.. and you know that. We both agreed that it is still best to get married. I am not against living together as me and hubby lived together for about three years before we were married. But you see, when things get a bit rough, some people who were only living together find it easier to just end the relationship since they are not married. While if you are married, you try everything to make the relationship work. OK I am only talking with regards to our culture.. here in our country. I know some would tell me that what if you cannot tolerate the situation anymore? well in this case, it would still boils down on how committed a person can be with or without marrying..
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
Hi ate Pehpot! (see I call you Ate now not Kuya) lol I guess you're right about trying to make the relationship work because you're married and that you promised to everybody (including god) that you'll be spending the rest of your life loving this person. Maybe boyfriend is desensitize regarding marriage because of failed relationships in his family. His parents got married for the wrong reasons. I think it's not a good idea marrying someone just because you have a kid. maybe I am too. My mother brought me up thinking that Marriage is holy and that it shouldn't be broken. That's why I don't like the idea of divorces and annulment. It's just plain s2pid. But I also don't get the idea of living together with someone whom you cannot trust nor respect. My parents are still together but you see, it's not happy in the house anymore just like it was before. I think if their marriage fail, the whole family is affected. I guess it's better they live separately. When I was a kid I dream of getting married.. a garden wedding.. a house by the beach.. etc.yeah, such a dream. I guess I'm still dreaming of getting married someday.. Just because.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
24 Mar 09
Hey babyfuzz! Nice to see you girlfriend! Where you been? I think David Letterman is an azzhole! He and his new wife have a 5 year old son together! I think that 23 years being together is a bit long to wait to marry! They should have been married a long time ago, at least when they had their son! And he is adorable! He looks just like his daddy, only cuter! I don't know why David waited so long. I know he was married once before and I guess it was a bad marriage!
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
Hey, Opal! I missed ME too here in Mylot! lol Yeah, been busy with my blog and other part time jobs. haha! azzhole you say? Yeah, I think I've read about a son, but it's theirs? I thought the GF had him from another man. lol I bet you are updated into showbiz. haha! Well, they have their reasons. Maybe he needed someone to take care of him now that he's old. ^^
@walijo2008 (4648)
• United States
24 Mar 09
I think waiting that long to get married is a good idea, that way you've both had time to get to know each other really well, and won't have any surprises after your married, I think more people should wait longer to get married, that way maybe there would be less divorces.
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
Hi, walijo! Yeah, but you know people change. Like me, I am not the same person as I was when boyfriend met me 8 years ago and he is the same. I am still surprised everyday. I think if you wanna jump into marriage then you just have to love this person that you promised to love no matter what. And yeah, i don't get the idea of divorce or annulment. lol
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
I'm not sure but I guess it is just a matter of individual preference and how they communicate on that matter. I don't know this story but if both of them could say something regarding this then we would have a basis. Indeed, it is a long struggle to know our other half that well and that much. The only thing that made me worried about it is when you have decided, I just hope that I am not making the wrong decision. People change, yes I agree, but are we going to wait for that change to happen before doing anything else? Or we just have to do it and just face the consequence later on?
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@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
Oh, yeah.. I have said the same thing. lol (a matter of preference).. Boyfriend and I really don't have plans of getting married. I do wish sometimes, but it's like my childish dream.. like dreaming to be a nurse or a doctor, and like what I said, every woman's dream of being the center of attention. Have you watched Bride Wars? I guess that will explain it. My boyfriend and I have talked about it too. Whenever friends and acquaintances ask why we're not married, I ask him again why he didn't want to get married. He's a very practical person and he didn't want to go through the hassle and preparation. That's fine with me as long as he's honest and supports me and my kid. I see a lot of marriages fail after a few years.. are we being cynical? May be or maybe not. We also don't want to go through annulment process. lol Yeah, that's another thing. If you have decided that you wanna marry this person, you don't want to end up regretting it. It's a decision. I don't get the idea of promising to god or infront of whoever marrying you that you'll be loving them for the rest of your life through thick and thin, and after a few short years, you'll be filing an annulment case. to me that's BS.. Face the consequence later on? It's like you're saying you'll jump with your eyes closed. lol
@celticeagle (117159)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Apr 09
Now days I don't think there is a limit. I was just thinking the other day that I don't think I have even heard of anyone in my circle of friends that is actually even engaged. Does it happen anymore? Now two decades is alittle long but, hey, if people care for one another and stay together maybe the time just wasn't right until then. I think each couple has to evaluate where they are and what they want to do and think they have to fit some norm.