An abortion?

@maximax8 (28558)
United Kingdom
March 25, 2009 8:24am CST
A lady spent four years trying to get pregnant. Then she was overjoyed when she became pregnant. At her 12 week scan she was told her baby had Edward's Syndrome and she was advised to have an abortion. The lady was so upset and managed to seek a second opinion. She had an invasive test and the news came back that her baby was healthy. She continued her pregnancy and her baby was born normal. Her baby is now 6 months old and she sold her story to a national newspaper in my home country. I think that some ladies would have had an abortion after believing a consultant. What do you think about this?
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@sandymay48 (2031)
• Canada
26 Mar 09
I have learned with my own health issues, always get a second opinion and a third if you can. Most medical issues are just guesswork anyways. There are no cut and dry answers to a lot of health problems that arise. Other than that, I cant say what I would do. I dont like to offer my opinion on circumstances like that unless I lived in her shoes. Whats right for one, may not be for another, and all too often, we are too quick to judge. Therefore I stay on the side of caution and say nothing.
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25 Mar 09
Hi maximax8, Gosh that is so frightening, it just show it pays to have a second opinion, I am so glad for this lady that she went for second opinion, otherewise she would have aborted a healthy baby, she can sue the firt consultant. Tamara
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@tontunan (255)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
I think any woman who could be in this situation should prefer to undergo careful check up because this is not a minor problem. This is handling life and life should be given importance by anybody else.
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@tschu8 (136)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I think that when ever getting any kind of bad news like this there should always be a second opinion. But if a doctor outright advised an abortion then I think that this is plain wrong. It does take strong and patient parents to raise children born with such a disease but there are also alot of people out there who would also love a child born as such and it would be unfair to abort the baby for this. I have 3 children and if told anything was wrong with them while I was pregnant I would not have a doubt in my mind that I was going to give birth to then and love unconditionally.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
25 Mar 09
I was told at 36 weeks my son has spina bifida and I carried on with my pregnancy. My son was born, spent three weeks in a special care baby unit and he had two operations. I think is is wise to give a baby a chance to live rather than abort a baby that is thought to be disabled. I was told about my son's condition in my local hospital and then I got a more detailed explanation at the fetal medicine unit in my nearest city.
@tschu8 (136)
• United States
25 Mar 09
I am really glad to hear that all has worked for you and your baby and that you made the right desicion. Children are a blessing.
• United States
25 Mar 09
A lot of women would have just listened to the doctor. We all to often just listen to people who are supposed to know what they are talking about and do as we are told rather than question them or get another opinion, be it about a case like this or treatments for cancer or vaccinating our kids. We as a population need to follow her example and be more proactive about our care, ask questions, do your own research get at least a second opinion, more if you don't like what they are saying. We need to fight for our health, and the health of our children and stop believing everything we are told, just because they are doctors.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
25 Mar 09
I know most of us would accept the opinion of a professional about our health. A baby during pregnancy can only be seen through ultrasound scans and sometimes in those mistakes can be made. I think a second opinion is necessary even if he or she will say the same as the first consultant.
@ip5217 (1656)
• Philippines
28 Mar 09
It was God's guiding hand that directed her to the second doctor. God doesn't want to let go of a healthy life bound to enjoy the beauty of life. It is so sad that the first doctor wasn't even careful on his prognosis. I can say this is indeed a miracle in God's will.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
28 Mar 09
I would never have an abortion no matter what the Dr's told me...I don't believe in them. For those women that do, I suggest they get a second and even a third decision before thinking along those lines. Once it's done it can't be undone. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
26 Mar 09
I saw this on the front of the paper as I was coming back through the airport but, didn't read the fll story - I guess I am kind of split on this as yes the doctors got it wrong but, if she had had the abortion she would never have known that the baby was in fact healthy. I guess one that will stir a lot of responses!
@HelloMickey (1663)
• Hong Kong
26 Mar 09
The lady was so lucky that she has had an invasive test to find out her baby was healthy and she was so brave to continue her pregnancy. She was so right to have calmed herself down and made a decision. Many person would have consulted more than one doctor if they were told their babies was at some risk. I think I would have done the same as that lady, double check it.
@irene66 (1671)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
well, doctors are also human. even if we say that they are consultants or expert in their field,at one point in their life they make mistakes. Patients are also advised to seek second or third opinion and decide which is best for them. abortion on the other hand, has its therapeutic effect too regardless of its ethical point of view.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
26 Mar 09
I think she did very good job by going for second opinion. In many cases it is required. the single doctor may not be correct.
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
i am proud of the lady. for i belived that every human being that is being conceived within the womb of a mother is already an individual. and one should and must be aware of this.. and also, we should not just believe any sort of findings right away. we must and should verify it. if possible, test it more so..
@Trace86 (5033)
• United States
26 Mar 09
What a blessing for this woman! Whenever you get bad news like that, it is best to get a second and maybe a third opinion. This can prevent needless worrying and also prevent you from making a snap decision that you may regret later.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
26 Mar 09
Hi maxine! I am glad that lady did have a second opinion. I am also happy that the baby is just fine. Personally, if that will happen to me, I will have a second opinion and a third probably. But whatever the results will be, I will still continue with my pregnancy. It is not for me to decide. I believe that the baby is my blessing and if God gave the baby to me, then I will accept it with my whole heart. Take care and blessings to you. lovelots..faith
@kprofgames (3103)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I think it's sad that a person would go for an abortion after only one opinion. If you were told tomorrow that you had something wrong with your heart, but you felt fine; you would get a second opinion wouldn't you? Same goes for this. I'm so glad that she used common sense in getting more answers. I just can't imagine a person taking one person's word over something this important. Kudos to her too for selling the story too.
@agrant10 (1446)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I'm so glad that she received a second opinion. It really saddens me the the people who wuld have taken the iirst opinion and would have treminatd their healthy baby. This story really has a happy ending. This should be a lesson to us all always get a second opinion.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
25 Mar 09
It is actually cruel to tell a lady who has been trying to get pregnant for years that she should have an abortion. It is like saying that she should not have even tried to get pregnant and she would never make a good mother. I am sure that the doctor who advised her knew of the trouble this lady had trying to get a baby and decided that maybe God did not want her to have one and he decided that God needed help since HE had forgotten to give the lady a miscarriage. That is why I do not like a doctor even advising any woman to have an abortion.
@1hopefulman (32558)
• Canada
25 Mar 09
I think we should take life the way it comes and make the most out of it. Things can happen at any time. Who's to say that since one has this condition or that condition that this life should end? Exodus 20:13 (New International Version) 13 "You shall not murder.
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
25 Mar 09
I think she was smart to get a second opinion. I think that a lot of doctors think they are God and that we should believe everything they say. I have had the same doctor for about 30 years until recently. After going through some bad health, still am, and having gone to my doctor of 30 years, she told me my problems were all in my head and that I need professional help. I went to a different doctor to find out it wasn't all in my head and I do have some very serious health conditions. It is all based around my ears and I am slowly going deaf and there is nothing that can be done about it. I have some kind of degenerate disease that is slowly eating away at my eardrums. There is a fancy name for it and there is no cure for it. So I don;t go to my old doctor anymore, the one I had for 30 years because I think that she thought she knew me so well that she didn't have to even diagnose me or send me for any tests. I think she took this personal when I went to get another opinion and I had the new doctor send her the results and she said that the doctor was crazy and there was nothing wrong with me. So I went to an ear specialist and he came up with the same diagnose that I have this disease.
• United States
25 Mar 09
It's just sad. We know so much more than we once did about disorders today and a great many children we didn't think would do well say 50 years ago have relatively normal lives today because of our medical advances. When I was 18 I had an issue where a doctor did an abortion. They clipped the cervix open so that I'd miscarry later on. I still remember that miscarriage and it devastated me. There was nothing wrong with the baby, just someone's thoughts that I was too young to have a child. I think that each life is precious no matter how they come into this world, and they should be allowed to spend whatever time they can with us. Namaste-Anora