Have you ever said bad words? Do you think people with bad words are bad people?

China
March 26, 2009 6:48am CST
I think speaking bad words is a very bad manner especially for girls! Today, some girl asked my suggestions about her academic dissertation. I thought she was really disgusting since she blurt out so many bad words like ...damn it! Thus, you know, I couldn't help her anymore! Sure, I guess it is not a big deal to make a joke in this way! But she also talked about something more dirty, ! Since then, I have been sort of suffering from lack of appetite now. It weirds me out. Can you stand that a girl spoke so many dirty words? Have you ever said bad words? Do you think people with bad words are bad people?
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@jayguar (273)
• India
27 Mar 09
I have used bad words and still use them. I definitely don't think people who speak bad words are bad. It is just the situation that makes people use them. I use bad words when I really mad and frustrated. It doesn't mean I am bad. But it is really bad when a person uses and swears bad words all the time.
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• China
2 Apr 09
I agree with you! Some bad words are just too hard to stand! For example, I can't tolerate of someone uses others' mom as a bad word.
@Dorrdavy (277)
• Jamaica
2 Apr 09
in my little island people say bad words to greet, say goodby and everything in between.
@cupcyke (363)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
In the world now i do believe that saying bad words is just an expression to anyone although it is sinful. on my part a said bad words sometimes. i try not to say those words but still i forgot sometimes. but i will promise you i can't or never ever say dirty words in my entire life. speaking those words will not improve you as a person.
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• China
2 Apr 09
Haha, good for you! If dirty words are not inclued in bad words, I guess it is ok to say it!
• United States
27 Mar 09
I dont believe in bad words...who were the people that sat down and decided that F***, S***, D***, B****, A**, D***, and all the others were bad? if all of a sudden the words love, family, the, we, and am all were said to be bad words would you just randomly stop saying them because OMG they're bad words? I doubt it, I doubt anybody would. I really dont understand where vocabulary and someone being a bad or good person is connected at all. Did you know charles manson was well spoken didn't really curse at all? look at him he's an alter boy isnt he? Words are Words thats it, if they were really all that bad, there would be laws against them.
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• China
2 Apr 09
Some bad words are kind of innocent. Some bad words may hurt other people. Of course, D.. is not that serious.
• China
27 Mar 09
Sometimes I say s-word, but I think it is just a way of expression when I'm freaked out by something!
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• China
2 Apr 09
Oh, really? Haha, some people think it is cool to say some bad words especially when they are very angry! Some bad words are of course acceptable.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
26 Mar 09
she also talked about something more dirty,! Since then, I have been sort of suffering from lack of appetite now. okay, seriously...it upset you SO MUCH you can't eat?? I'm sorry but thats awfully strange to me..Why are you letting it bother you so much? Sure you dont care for it, but now you know she uses that language so you know to stay away from here on so just let it go.... Can you stand that a girl spoke so many dirty words? Have you ever said bad words? Do you think people with bad words are bad people? doesn't phase me in the slightest....I swear to the point that it could make hardened criminals blush! does that make me a bad person?? NOPE! In fact I'm one of the most gentle, compassionate and loving ppl you'll ever meet...
• United States
26 Mar 09
You can't talk that way and then in the next breath say you are gentle, compassionate and loving. Just not the case.
• United States
27 Mar 09
I disagree, how you talk, and how you act are two totally different things, just because someone doesnt swear means that they cant be thieves, murderers, rapists, or just all around bad people? Just because someone swears they cant be compassionate, gentle and loving? listen to a rap artist, and then see how they act with their kid, on cd they might be like "F this and F that" but when they're with their son/daughter they are a totally different person.
• United States
27 Mar 09
Good people shouldn't let ugly language come out of their mouths. It just isn't right and it is disgusting. It is a HUGE turnoff for me. God bless.
@liviurus (155)
• Romania
27 Mar 09
Talkin' bad things (up to certain level) is a good thing: 1. It relaxes and ease your suffering. 2. People who use to say bad words to you are more likely not to hurt you physically or to harm you other ways 3. You find the real opinion about you from the source and maybe you'll be able to talk things over.
• China
2 Apr 09
Oh, your response is great!It is a pity that I didn't find it earlier! I think it is very reasonable!
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@liviurus (155)
• Romania
2 Apr 09
don't worry, it happens a lot to me... LOL and cries I guess... Damn all of it!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
26 Mar 09
Hey hiddenwing! I don't really think that if someone says bad words that they are necessarily bad people! I say bad words sometimes and I don't really consider myself a bad person! I guess it all depends on your upbringing, where you live and how you act. I live in NY which is a rough state! People here are tough acting and tough talking! We might say bad words, but that doesn't make us bad people! I guess it depends on how sensitive you are too. You might be more sensitive to certain words then others and that's ok. But, just remember that they are only words!
• China
26 Mar 09
I have read your discussions for a long time! I know you are a good person! haha Some Chinese speak some very terrible bad words. They use others' mom as a bad word! They may say blur your mom! Sorry, here the word "your" is not something about you! It is a word! I want to tell you what these people say and what I can't stand! But I just can't say they word! Best wishese!
• China
26 Mar 09
I have read your discussions for a long time! I know you are a very good person! haha I just can't tolerate some Chinese speak some very terrible bad words. They use others' mom as a bad word! They may say blur your mom! Sorry, here the word "your" is not something about you! It is a word that I tell you! I want to tell you what these people say and what I can't stand! But I just can't say the word! Anyway, the word that I don't mention is a crime! Best wishes!
@hanah87 (1846)
• Malaysia
28 Mar 09
I think girl or boy should not say bad words.It is a bad attitude.I said a bad words when i really really angry to someone or something bad happen.It is not because for a play or joke.I not always say that bad words.
• China
2 Apr 09
Yes, we should draw a line between words. Some of them are nice to use while some of them are better to be avoided.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
27 Mar 09
Oh goodness! If I were to be paid a dollar every time I used a bad word, I'd be rich! lol. I do have to admit though, that swearing coming from a woman just doesn't come across very well at all. I know it's a double-standard, but it's not nie to hear a female cussing at all. I definitely don't consider people who swear to be bad either! Them being classed as bad or not is more related to their actions, not their words.
• China
2 Apr 09
I have read lots of "bad words" in your discussions! However, I don't think they are bad! There is a line between bad and "bad". Well, you are familar with Chinese things! So, do you know the most terrible Chinese bad word? Haha It is something about mom! I hate to hear people say those "three words"!
@salonga (27957)
• Philippines
27 Mar 09
It does not really mean that those people who use bad words are bad people but it only goes to show that they were not raised properly and have been accustomed to bad surroundings. However, like you, I am not comfortable talking with people who always mix bad words in everyday conversation. The Bible in Colossians 4:6 states: "Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man." Well I am not perfect but I believe all persons whether man or woman, child or adults alike should speak with grace. With girls talking in bad words, it is really very disgusting to men. A woman should be an epitome of grace and modesty and if not she could not merit respect and admiration.
• China
27 Mar 09
Most of the time, small girls tend to behave! Young ladies are more polite! There is no gender discrimination though! I don't know why it happens. It is just meant to be
• China
27 Mar 09
Well,honestly,i have ever said bad words,but cos i'm so angry with what happen,i can't take it,so i said.And other time i keep smile.and i don't think people who said bad words doesn't mean they're bad man.This can't compare with,i think
• China
2 Apr 09
Sure, it makes so much sense! If I am mad at somebody, I may sort say bad words as well. However, there are different types of bad words. I guess I will never say some of them! Take care
@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I dont know how old you are but damn it is not that bad of a word and I am wondering what you are thinking is such a dirty word that it made you sick. I use bad words at times when it is appropriate or appropriated for me. Not that it really ever is appropriate. When my children were young I did not like it when adults would use the F word around them or talk in that way. I dont think it is ever appropriate to talk with cuss words around small children. They are like sponges and the next thing you know they will be spurting those words out. And always at the most inopertune moment.
• China
26 Mar 09
Sir or mam: I don't think "damn it" is that terrible! I don't like some people say "F*** someone's mom"! They are very "popular" bad words for some people! I think you are a good person anyway!
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
26 Mar 09
The problem of profanity has gotten so bad that some people cannot speak a complete sentence without using at least one bad word. It is a bad habit that is difficult to break. I hear small children using such words and am sure that most have no idea what they mean. They just know that they have heard their father or mother use them, and (horror of horrors) they frequently got results. I would that everyone that is offended by such words (as I am) would have the gumption to speak up and let it be known that such speech is not appreciated. The problem is that we will not speak up for fear of being considered a Goody Two Shoes or worse. We try to just ignore the bad language, but it seeps into our subconscious. After a period of time, we begin to think the words and maybe to use them ourselves. I believe it to be an epidemic that few have any desire to curtail.
• China
26 Mar 09
Thanks a lot for your great response! I really like this response very much and I am gonna save it in my computer! Best regards!
@nannacroc (4049)
26 Mar 09
I don't use bad wordsor rude words. My father told me that there were enough words in the English language not to have to swear or use rude words. I don't like to hear anyone swearing. They are often not bad people who use these words, they may be thoughtless, stupid or trying to look good in front of their friends. I just refuse to listen to people who swear.
• China
26 Mar 09
Hey, glad to meet you, nannacroc! Yeah, thanks a lot for your response, which makes so much sense! I have to go now! Best wishes!
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
26 Mar 09
Hi hiddenwing, I don't like to hear anyone use such words but it probably has to do with my upbringing. There was a time when like you, I felt that it was more discussing to hear such language from girls but I realize now that we are should not think this way. We are all equal and this only puts more pressure on girls, while boys can get away with it. I guess we also have to remember that for some people, such language is part of their every day talk and they may not even notice that they are doing it anymore. While I still don't like to hear such talk, I try to remember that such people are often the very opposite in their actions and sometimes are among the first to reach out to help another. Blessings.
• China
26 Mar 09
Hey, nice to meet you, Pose123. I think the girl was sort of underbred. I am not that serisous about some words! You, some people like to say "hell" or something like that! There are some words........that are way to difficult to stand! Some people may use others' mom as bad words! They say...blur blur someone's mom. Anyway, the thing that I don't mention is something about ...
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
26 Mar 09
It depends what you consider bad words? and oh My God! girls speaking bad words? Jeez man where are you from? and on top of it all loosing your apetite? and would you please let us know what those bad words were?, and remember what sounds dirty to you it may not be so to others, so please share!
• China
26 Mar 09
Of couse, sir or mam, I don't thing something like "oh man" or "my god" are bad words! It is quite nomal! You know, some people people even use others' mom as bad word! For example, they may say ...well, I don't mean you, I just repeat what they say! For example, it is too hard to say it! I am sorry. For example, they would say...damn your mom! It is not "your". It was just what she said! Isn't it savage or what? Also, I don't mind people say "what the hell" or something! I just can't stand something more serious! You know,.... I can't say it
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
26 Mar 09
I have used and said bad words once in a while but I have to be very mad before I will use them. I do not like to use them at all and do not like people who uses bad language quite often either. It just does not sound very nice at all.
• China
26 Mar 09
I think it is not so decent to use it on some occasion. They should be more polite somehow! Haha Best wishes!
@Melbee11 (233)
• United States
26 Sep 09
I say bad words almost everyday. I don't think it make's me bad though. It's just words? I usually get yelled at by christians or my parents. Well I don't care. I can use it whenever. I know not to use it in front of children. I only use it in front of siblings. Well the older siblings.
@dknkyle (447)
• Singapore
25 Sep 09
I think its not necessary that whoever utters or use vulgarities when speaking are consider ill-mannered or rude because sometimes when people got so damn piss off that they lose control and as a result words of vulgarities or some profanities just come out from their mouth. As for girls that use vulgarities in her speech, I'll think its so 'unlady-like' of her to do so because I think girls should be more gentle and lady-like instead of being so vulgar. Even for guys, I do think that guys should be gentlemen as well and refrain from using so much of a vulgarities which tarnish their image.
@Daae92 (75)
• United States
10 May 09
I am a girl and I can swear along with the best of the boys, I can swear like a sailor when I get upset or am with my friends. But when I am at home with my baby sister I am gentle, caring, patient,loving, and I watch my language. I don't think swearing makes me a bad person, I know not to swear around the ,little ones and to watch my mouth around elders, but when I am with my friends I'll swear to express myself. Does that make me a bad person? No, because I am still the same caring, gentle, and compassionate person.