Emotional Intelligence and success

@alokn99 (5717)
India
March 28, 2009 1:24am CST
Of the many definitions i came across, Emotional Intelligence (EQ) this one seemed apt. "Emotional intelligence is the innate potential to feel, use, communicate, recognize, remember, describe, identify, learn from, manage, understand and explain emotions." In your views and experiences how much does emotional intelligence contribute towards success in our lives ?
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
28 Mar 09
I've had to do EQ Tests a number of times now for various jobs I've gone for. Usually though, they never share the results, so for all I knew at the time, I was an emotional train wreck about to happen! lol. But I did manage to get the results of my test on one occasion and was remarkably surprised at the relevance of it's statements on one hand, yet also intrigued by some of the results as well. Some seemed very true to how I felt about myself, yet others were a complete surprise. To be honest, I'm on the fence when it comes to putting much faith in the overall accuracy of such tests, but I see no harm in it. I do wonder though, how many employers may choose NOT to hire an employee just because of the results of tests like these? In each instance I did them, I WAS offered the positions, so I guess my emotional stability isn't too bad and I'm not going to be running rampant through the streets with a machete anytime soon!
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
28 Mar 09
I too am not very sure about the relevance of tests, when it comes to jobs, but i would think that EQ has a relevance in dealing with the situations overall whether it be at work, home or socially. At work, it also depends on the nature of the job. I ma not sure of the relevance of it to someone who does repetitive nature of work.On the other hand interaction with people or situations may require it. Thanks James, for the response and for keeping the machete at home.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
28 Mar 09
Psychopaths are charismatic manipulators and great liars. They will easily charm their way into a lot of people's lives and can act what they know others want to see in them but they lack empathy and remorse. Just a thought.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
28 Mar 09
dynamic tricksters??
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
31 Mar 09
I think, most of it has to do with the EQ! IQ is important as much as academic education is important in our lives. We learn through books in initial phases in our lives when our minds are clean slate and the initial impression in important. But what if we cannot implement it in our daily lives? Its as good as just a book! I remember having friends who always used to come first-second in class with great marksheets all through their school days. But recently, I got to know that both are just doing ordinary! Its strange for they were impressive and focussed and ha high hopes of a B school graduates! On the other hand the ones quite down in the academic merit list are doing great! I think, EQ made the all difference. EQ does! Today more and more corporate houses and placement agencies are harping on EQs more than ever. IQ slowly dissolving into EQ. Our mind is like a bank where we deposit the experiences - highs and lows of IQs and later in life we use them. Success is largely attributed to emotional quotient today. It's like being street smart than being a bookworm. And I think EQ is IQ plus our experiences and ability to see and foresee things while IQ is just being book smart.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
31 Mar 09
You have very well distinguised the difference of IQ and EQ Mimpi. EQ does have a very important role to play today in our lives. It's more looked at upon today in careers because of the globalisation as well the increasing competitvity and stress. How well we understand and control our emotions in different scenarios governs to a great extent to how well we perform. Understanding the emotions of others and our ability to empathise and take control of situations will help in our achieving success. Thanks for enriching this.
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
Hello alokn, I also heard before the Emotional Intelligence is more important than IQ. I think it really is, becomes the emotions would be the root of everything. if it is the root to communicate and recognize, then a best communicator have a high emotional intelligence. I hope my child will have a good Emotional Intelligence. take care
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
29 Mar 09
I'm sure your child will red_amethyst. Good communicators do indeed have a high EQ. Thanks
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
28 Mar 09
Right now, my emotional intelligence deters me from contributing a perfectly thought-out insight to this discussion. But this I know, it sure does affect how we go about our lives. It depends on how you define success. A lot of people are successful in their careers but then again, they are Siberia-miles away from their own emotions. Right now, my EQ is telling me I am babbling again so I had better stop.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
28 Mar 09
You are right in saying that it depends on how we define success. It even goes beyond the area of careers and at the same time the relevance of EQ has been debated. Thanks for the response.
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@zhuhuifen46 (3486)
• China
28 Mar 09
Our children are spending so much time on all kinds of subjects, but nothing or very little on how to behave correctly and smartly to gain emotional advantages. IQ is important, but EQ is usually the critical factor for success, and nowadays, people come to learn the importance of FQ more than ever before.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
28 Mar 09
Yes my friend, EQ needs to be given importance as well. To some of us it comes naturally with our exposure, but some need to be trained and made to recognise it.
@vipinl (802)
• India
28 Mar 09
hii akon99, These characteristics i think contribute a major part in our lives, if one is successful or not all depend on the behavior of person, which you describes as EQ. I heard for this term for the first time, but yes it has major role to play in our personality and with it in success. Thanks for making me learn a new term..lol. happy myloting
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
28 Mar 09
Thanks for the response vipnil. We do not come across the term to often, but the characterestics are something which we come across everyday.