Im longing to get married!

China
March 29, 2009 12:42am CST
I wonder how many of you out there are single,married,or go back to single stage after divorce?Well,what do you think of marriage?Do you expect it or are you afraid to get married?I see friends of my age get married by and by,have their babies and their own family whilst I remain single even without a lover yet.I really wanna get married.I dont wanna live alone.I wanna have my own family and be a great mom.All singles here,whats your stand about marriage?And for those who are married or divorced,did you expect marriage before? I look forward to know how you think.
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31 responses
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
29 Mar 09
Thats great. Go get married but before tying the knot make it sure that the person is not HIV positive or have no other fatal disease he suffers from. +Rest of the things you can rectify later with your martial art. lol And so far marriage, this is necessary for three reasons - to satiate your biological need, to procreate and to have a life long partner. So there is no point getting late.
• China
30 Mar 09
Nice say.There is no point getting late in marriage,but I dont wanna be alone anymore.I wonder where my prince is.lol
@krajibg (11936)
• Guwahati, India
30 Mar 09
All the best...
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
yuh!right.marriage is sacred So fine your to love so that you will not regret of being married.
• China
29 Mar 09
First thing is find a good partner be your husband!this is most important .I wanna marry to .But we must have enough money first!
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
yah right how can we get married if we dont have money.we cant afford to pay for the expences of getting married.it's too much
@iamsolucky (1243)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
Dont think of marriage yet when you dont have a guy at the moment. I think you have to concentrate how can you get the love of your life than pressuring yourself to marriage. happy mylotting and smile always
• China
30 Mar 09
Hi,iamsolucky,to tell you the truth,I do have someone who I want to marry,but he thinks he should make his fortune first.Maybe he doesnt love me at all.Actually,we are not in real relationship.Well,thats another story.I may tell by and by if you keep focus on my discussion.lol By the way,your username is so cute.I like your avatar,too.
@modstar (9610)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
Hi sweetyethot! I'm longing to get married too! I'm already 29 and i think i've had enough of singlehood. I want to experience the life of a caring husband and a father. My problem now is i don't have a girlfriend yet. I want to invest some time with my girlfriend before settling down. I don't want to be with the wrong person. Maybe we can go out? Lol! Just kidding sweety!
• China
30 Mar 09
You are so nice.Its great to have our own family.I think you think the same way.Good luck to you.
@milk2002 (24)
• China
29 Mar 09
now i am still single,i still do not find the right person i shall fall in love with.about marriage,i am afraid of it,for after get marride,we shall have less freedom,but more responsibility.if you wanna get marride,find a right man.
• China
30 Mar 09
Thanks for your responding.I'll very careful choosing my husband.
• China
29 Mar 09
I share the same feeling as you do when my friends around me get married one by one. Seeing their getting married is a torturous thing to me. Suddenly, I realize that I am all alone by myself. Wherever I go, I go by myself. While there is always a lover accompanying my friends. Sometimes, I really feel lonely and long to find my lover, even get married. In that case, we'll always be together, cooking together, eating together. But the most important point is that I have someone to share my miseries and happiness. I don't know where my Mr. Right is, but I'm waiting and searching.
• China
30 Mar 09
I dont contact much with my married friends.They are now all moms.I guess they are busy.Unlucky for me,I dont even know who my best friend is.Sometimes,I spend all the weekend alone.Thats too bad.
• China
29 Mar 09
now,i am single. my attitude about marriage is find the one you loves. if you can't find him,then find the one loves you.i am a college students. even now i am not fall in love with othetrs. or my attitude about marriage isn't mature.what i know is not to get married for under pressure of your parents or relatives. it is your life. you should control it
• China
30 Mar 09
Thanks for your participating.You are young,so enjoy your single life.Good luck!
@maissj (111)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
like you, i felt that way when i was still single, i even thought of adopting or that i am destined to be single all my life, since two of my aunts in the father's side and one in my mother's side are still single and they're in their 50's! but then, i got tired of waiting and wanting. and i think, not looking for a lover or a partner worked for me, because out of the blue, came my knight in shining armor. i was not even expecting him to court me, and four months after we met, and 3 months of being a couple, we got married! 3 months after, we had our church wedding. i guess, you should not look for it, it will come at the right time. so SMILE, and live your life to the fullest as if you're getting married tomorrow!, MAI
• China
30 Mar 09
Good for you.Yes,sometimes I think maybe Im destined to live my life alone.Marriage will come eventually out of expectation.lol
@veejay19 (3591)
• India
29 Mar 09
hello sweetyet hot, your time to get married will come too. Everything in this world comes at the apppropriate time and moment and we all have to have patience.Sometimes things happen quickly and sometimes they don`t.The point is that when something happened quickly it was because the time had come for it to happen and when something is delayed its time had not come.Marriage is not a bed of roses and there are plenty of thorns on its path but if you keep a loving and patient relationship with your husband then marriage becomes heaven. I am single not because i wanted to but because health problems forced me to be so. That does not mean that i am not enjoying life. I am having a great time in my own way and i have no regrets at being single.
• China
30 Mar 09
Thanks for your nice words.Yes,I have to be patient and wait for my time to come.I expect my wedding party a sweet one.
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
Just wait for the right time. Remember, haste makes waste. There is somebody destined to be your lifetime partner, or you could also be destined to be single forever. We don't know. Just wait. .. .
• China
30 Mar 09
Wait,wait,wait,Thanks for your advice anyway.Best wishes to you!
@elghrasya (501)
• Philippines
29 Mar 09
I got married last December at my very young age 19. Honestly I am afraid to get married before when I was still single and we just got married because our parents thought I ran away with my boyfriend. They don't know that I was having too many problems that I don't want to go home and I want to stay in my friend's house. To make the long story short they planned us to get married. And what can I say with marriage relationship? Well it's nice and cool but it depends on your partner. It's not that easy to be in this kind of level of relationship because it links to many tough responsibilities. And I suggest that if you want to get married you should prepare yourself in different aspects of life. Like physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and most important is financially. You should have a stable job so that you can support your family and your children in the future.
• China
30 Mar 09
I know that marriage means a lot more responsibities that singles dont have to share.Im financially independent now,just cant find the right person to marry.lol
@eLsMarie (4146)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
i'm very young and i'm not in a hurry to get married... marriage for me is a promise of love between two individuals with God as their witness... if ever, in the future, i would get separated with my husband i won't expect to be get marry again because i would first think of my child's sake rather than my personal happiness... :)
@rusty2rusty (6762)
• Defiance, Ohio
3 Apr 09
Why on earth are you longing to get married with such a high rate of divoreces? Can't you see marruages do not work anymore. People are to busy to have or spend time with a fmily. The worse part is they realize it after startinga family....its a little to late than. I amrried for th seond time. I use to long for marriage. I thought that is what I wanted. But I was a fool to think marriage is what I wanted or needed. I thought when those would be said, it would be forever...but I was a fool for believing or even thinking that.
• Australia
1 Apr 09
the life road is very long. We can not know exactly to be happen in the future. I am single and freedome. I love my life and do not want to get married. I cant understand why people are hurry to get married, to be loved and after all, they feel tired and return single life. Others often say love, but they really love and feel the true love or just joy in lifecycle.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
31 Mar 09
I am married and when I was younger I didn't necessarily long to be married but I did want someone to love me; it did not matter whether I got married or not, although I'm glad I did now that I have a child; it's nice to be a family unit all sharing the same name. I'm sure you will meet someone that will want to marry you one day. I think the trick is not to look too hard because it usually happens when you least expect it!
@savypat (20245)
• United States
30 Mar 09
I don't know what you can do in China, here in the USA you don't have to be married to have a family, a single person can have children or adopt them, they can foster children. Can you work with children, being paid or not? Can you have social activities without being married how much freedom can you have without a man? Can you take classes, art or drama or join clubs with people of like interest? I just don't know what is acceptable or not. But marriage isn't all the answer, sometimes it's much worse if you don't get the right person.
@dragon54u (31653)
• United States
30 Mar 09
You will never have a truly happy marriage if you can't be happy by yourself. Why do you want to be married so badly? You should enjoy your own company, be able to entertain yourself. A man doesn't want to marry someone he's obligated to keep happy! He wants a woman that can fend for herself most of the time, not one he has to work to keep happy and hurry home to be with because she is lonely. I understand your wanting children, too, but you need to grow up a bit. Needing to get married is a sure sign that you are not ready for marriage or children. Relax, enjoy your life! You have plenty of time, so learn to enjoy being single and quit looking for a man. When you look, you never find what you want but if you relax and enjoy your life as it is the right person will come along when you least expect him. I had my first child when I was 33. I made a mistake marrying the father. The marriage limped along for 19 years and we were both unhappy. I love being single--my two sons are grown ans I love them so much, I'm really blessed to have them but they are the ONLY good thing from that marriage, aside from learning that marriage isn't all that we expect and we're usually better off without it!
@substance (588)
• India
30 Mar 09
yes!! everybody wants to get married at one point of their life as it is a natural biological process that have been going on and on for ages.
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
30 Mar 09
I'm a widow for 17 years and I think I'm no longer longing for another marriage. It's alright for me with my children being single. However others said we will be miserable without anyone besides after the children got their own families. I'm also thinking of this by just having someone as a companion in getting old, There are so many things to be considered, so I finally conclude that it's alright, if I would not married again. I have my children and grandchildren, anyway.
• United States
29 Mar 09
Sometimes I think the same thing. I am 27 years old with no kids yet, and I know people that are my age or younger that have children already. I am engaged to be married, and getting married in May of 2010. I have been with my fiance for almost 5 years, and when we get married it will be almost 6 years. I'm hoping to start a family pretty soon after we get married, so we will see how that works out. Just be patient, and you will find someone when the time is right.