How do you choose a friend?

Nigeria
March 30, 2009 9:55am CST
Someone once told me that there are two kinds of friends: "There you are" friend and the "Here I am" friend. I think the meaning behind that is self explanatory. But does it work for everyone. I find it easier making friends with ladies than guys. How does it work for you?
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@Baron59 (22)
• Indonesia
30 Mar 09
I am making friends with anyone,so i never choose an important person is comfortable and are invited to speak.
• Nigeria
30 Mar 09
well, different things mean differently to different people
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
30 Mar 09
I didn't choose most of my friends and that's why I lost them long time ago. If I could bring back the hands of time i would choose a friend who shares the same interests as I have, who is honest to goodness no matter how much truth hurts, and who will be there no matter what. I was used by some of my old friends and was criticized for being brutally honest and so we parted ways. Compatibility plays a big role in friendship.
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• Nigeria
30 Mar 09
Compatibility! yea, thats the word. Friendship is not by force, but by choice.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
30 Mar 09
I say the best way to get a friend is just simply to be a friend. A lot of people feel the need to be accepted and that is just natural. I don't discriminate how easy it is to make friends with either gender, man or woman. I am a woman I like people and like to make friends wherever I go. I just like to treat others in the way that I like to be treated. Sometimes it is hard to make friends if you don't know where to look but after a while there are those that come to you. I suppose there are two types of friends now that you mention it. I consider the fact that some people will come to you and befriend you or you just need to put yourself out there for people to see and make yourself available. Good friends are sometimes hard to find but when you find a special person then the friendship could last a life time. There is an unconditional type of feeling when you find the right person to share your time with. Take care and good luck.
• Nigeria
30 Mar 09
very impressive! Theres a special friend for everyone, and when you see it, you'll know
• Nigeria
30 Mar 09
Very well said! I like the tree perspective you painted. you gotta water the friendship or with time it'll wither.