What am i doing wrong?
March 30, 2009 3:45pm CST
I do not understand what I am doing wrong or not doing that I should be. My girls are overall very good kids but seem to listen to others more than me. They will not listen to me and will not stop getting into things that they know they aren't supposed to. I tried putting them in the corner but they don't really mind it! I have tried spanking and threatening with the plastic spoon but though all I have to do is show it to them for them to stop doing what they are doing wrong, as soon as I turn my back they go right back at it. I find myself stressed and raising my voice a lot because they won't listen, I have to tell them 5 times to come here before they do and then they do right for a few minutes and go back where they were told not to go. If I give them a bath I can't even walk out to put their clothes in the laundry and come back because they will have already got my floor soaked and poured all of my shampoo, conditioner, tooth paste and or shaving cream out. What can I do? Why won't they do right? I also had to start locking their door before bed because they will sneak out of their room and go to my neighbors house or will climb on top of the counters and refrigerator or simply get into everything. One morning I got up with my husband for work and our youngest daughter was on top of the refrigerator eating cheese while my oldest daughter was standing in a chair trying to wash dishes and flooded my floor. What do I do? I have another one on the way.
• United States
30 Mar 09
It sounds like you need to watch that show "The Nanny." There are also some very good books on child discipline. One that comes to mind is "Have a New Kid By Friday" by Dr. Kevin Leman. Here is a video to help you get an idea of what he teaches parents. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NX_7lw-BZoU&feature=related I like this because he puts the humor back into all of the stress.
• United States
31 Mar 09
Remember that change happens over time. I especially like Dr. Leman because of his humor but his stuff also works. I have used his stuff over the years and found it to be very helpful. He had a radio show at one time that I listened to almost daily. I think what you want to accomplish is in his program. I love the fact that my daughter respects me and knows where the line is but we can also be friends once the rules are set. God bless you too.