If you thought your friend was taking things from your house; what would you do?

United States
November 10, 2006 9:56pm CST
I have a friend that comes over and everytime "she" leaves there is also some little things that seem to also take leave. If you noticed that this happened every time that your friend came over what would you do?
8 responses
@stori1 (331)
• United States
11 Nov 06
If it were me I wouldn't say anything until I got good proof. You need to set that person up by leaving something lying around and make sure when the person is visiting that no one else is visiting at the same time. Then, see if that person will take the bait. If you find it to be true then you need to let them know but you have to be ready to possibly lose that friend. If they won't admit to it then I would keep a distance from them because a real friend would not steal from you.
• United States
11 Nov 06
Thank you so much..I have been pondering doing the very same thing that you have written..I am a very sensitive person..so I find it hard to do anything that may cause pain to another..)+
• United States
13 Nov 06
I agree with you Stori1. It is a great idea to stage the house and just see if anything comes up missing when that friend leaves your house. At least that way you would have undeniable proof of that friend taking it and no one else. thanks for sharing your thoughts
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
11 Nov 06
I dislike confrontation and I would become very uncomfortable every time I had this person over. I would simply start meeting this friend outside the home.
• United States
11 Nov 06
I am so much like you in this matter of confrontation..I have another difficulty..is that I hate to hurt anyone ..even if they have hurt me..Even if I don't intend to hurt them.. So yes not having them over the house may be the answer..but they would pick up on this too..and my heart which is so sensitive would break knowing they are hurt:(+
• United States
11 Nov 06
I would confront her. If she is taking something, guess what? She isn't your friend.
• United States
11 Nov 06
I don't know it is her..but have narrowed it down to her..my two cats..or some ghost that may have taken a liking to my house and wants me out;)+
@Faye88 (1009)
• Singapore
11 Nov 06
Put a video camera hidden somewhere in the room where you can view the room. Or you can say something like.I remember I put it here and comments on certain item is also misplace or not found nowadays saying that it is of some merories to you etc,or it is always here and it is nowhere to be seen or found?Erm ..I wonder where is it?Looking around for it than say I guess I look for it later.If your friend get the hint.Maybe she put the things back one by one if not I don't think she is your friend.
• United States
11 Nov 06
You know I am not too sure how to work video cameras..I havent even gotten a digital camera yet;)|
• Janesville, Wisconsin
11 Nov 06
I would tell them, that some of my items came up missing and how upset I was that I could not find them. Give it a certain amount of time, usually a friend will return them. Some people like to borrow eachothers clothes and do not realise others would be upset by this... depends on the item. I would make sure the misplaced item was for surely missing, ask other friends and relatives if they have seen it if no one has, tell them all I was going to report the missing item to the police... and then give it about a week to see if it reappears, then if not report the missing item...
• United States
11 Nov 06
Thank you for your input on this very real matter.. I appreciate all the time those who responded have taken to give some suggestion or remedy to our problem.
@lbinkley (1078)
• United States
11 Nov 06
I like stori1's post... a real friend would not steal from you. I think they have a great idea in setting something up to make sure that this person really is. If they are, confront them about it. Tell them that you know what is going on and you don't appreciate being used like that. If they were a real friend they wouldn't steal!
• United States
11 Nov 06
I have tried confronting her..but she gets really upset..and vocal..so I am wondering how to solve the mystery without getting her to terribly upset or hateful+
• Australia
11 Nov 06
well...id ask first because some people are just careless yah know taking things that they think you aprove of, if i know for sure she took stuff from my house then.. i dont know depends i mean she could be a metally ill or whatever and itd depend on the situation
• United States
11 Nov 06
Thanks so much for your input..it helps to see what others would do in a situation similar to mine;)+
• India
17 Jul 13
We couldn't point anyone as a thief unless until we have the evidence for it. I would suggest you to install spy cam, so that he/she clearly captured on the video. Source:-
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