am i being selfish if i don't say how i feel?
March 31, 2009 2:13am CST
i don't know. my brother and i had a fight. it's a silent type though. we didn't talk to each other. then, i couldn't contain my anger anymore 'cause he said things like 'F.U all' and 'what a useless person are you'. i was really angry and that i didn't talk to him and besides he has become so disrespectful to me. i am older than him. just a year though, but i still want even just a little respect. i said that if he has problems with me, he tell me and not use 'all'. then he said i am selfish, because i don't say how i feel. he said i never did so why would he tell me how he feels. yeah, i realized that i've never told him how i feel but that is because i thought he knows how i feel. when i feel angry, sad or happy whatever, i feel like i don't have to say anything because you can see it in me. besides, i am not comfortable talking to anyone in my family how i feel especially when i feel bad. i don't want them to worry. i'm the eldest child in the family so i feel like i have to always keep strong. am i being selfish? i thought my brother already knew me. after everything we've been to together.. guess life is getting harder as you grow.
31 Mar 09
It is really hard having a dispute with a family member. I suggest that you'll have a heart to heart with your brother. Make a list of all the things you want to discuss with him. In that way, you won't be missing out important details. But please be calm. Raising voices and yelling will only make the situation worst. Please remember that whatever happens to you, only your family will stand beside you. Life is short, filled it with great and happy memories. God bless you!
31 Mar 09
Maybe your brother feels left out of your life and feels that as you do not share anything with him that you don't love him or care about him. Maybe he sees you hurting sometimes and does not know how to help because you keep your feelings to yourself and close the door on him. You know its ok to keep things to yourself but its also ok to share them with people close to you. We all feel happier when we can help people we love .. maybe your brother is sad because you won't let him in and won't let him help you when he sees that you need it sometimes .. neither of you are selfish you just need to find a way to communicate :) good luck I wish you both well :)