Where does the baby sleep?

Philippines
April 1, 2009 7:45am CST
Hi all! Do you have a new baby or have had children? When they were born and you just brought them from the hospital, where did you let them sleep? Did you have a separate nursery room or just placed the baby in a crib beside your bed, or did you put the baby between you and your spouse? For us, the baby is between my husband and me—well at least for now. Then maybe, we will get a crib and put her in the same room where we are staying. But that is only when she gets bigger. We like the idea that we can immediately attend to the baby’s needs and easily wake up when she fusses because she is just beside us. Also we think that she is too small yet to put in a big and deep crib. I am not a big woman, so I would have to bend down much to pick her up. In the process, I might lose my balance and drop the baby, God forbid! This is because we don’t have our own crib. We will just borrow. So beggars can’t be choosers. Hehe so for now, the baby stays with us, or literally between. But it is okay, we still can’t do much anyway because I underwent c-section. So it will just be about time when the baby is quite big enough, we can already move her to the crib. Take care all and God bless you! Happy mylotting!
19 responses
@carpenter5 (6786)
• United States
1 Apr 09
We had a cradle for the baby when they first came home. Sleeping with us was dangerous because we had a water bed. It wasn't good for baby at all, because they could have sufficated in the mattress. Also doctors' say that it isn't good for them to start sleeping with you because they they get used to hearing you breathing and don't want to sleep in their beds. Could you get a bassinet where you didn't have to bend over much? Also, have dear Hubby check your mattress. You can usually raise and lower the mattress on a crib so that you aren't all the way at the bottom when they are infants. When baby starts pulling up, then you lower the mattress so she can't fall out.
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@luvmysons (497)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I have 2 boys and when they first came home from the hospital they slept in bassinetts next to my bed. They were both big boys so they only fit comfortably in the bassinett for about 1-2 months and then they slept in the crib.. I dont think its safe to put the baby in bed between you and your husband because either one of you while your sleeping could roll over on to her. I think its alittle dangerous
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@wiby05 (15)
• Indonesia
2 Apr 09
i'm waiting my son born. my wife now 9 month, just countdown day
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Congratulations!!! it'll be an awesome experience. I remember when my daughter was born. I can't describe how happy I was.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
6 Mar 10
We usually have the baby with us in the same room in a crib. But invariably, most nights, they end up with me. My husband is a sound sleeper and it's not very safe to have a baby between us because he might move in his sleep and his might land on the baby. We had a crib..where one side opens to our bed..so it was like an extended bed.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
4 Apr 09
My oldest son slept in a play bead cot that was made out of beech. He stayed in that until he was two years old then he went into a single bed. My youngest son slept in a moses basket upstairs and a pram downstairs. When he was two months old he went into an pine cot and he is currently still in that. He is now 22 months old so it will soon be time for him to move into something bigger. He has spina bifida and is unable to walk. A cot bed is not much bigger than a cot and he might fall out of a toddler bed. I am expecting my baby girl to be born in June 2009 so she might be able to have a cot my sister is getting rid out of her brother's cot. For her first couple of months she will be able to sleep in her brother's moses basket so I have a while to think what is the best option.
@jimbelle (485)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
I really advised you to put your baby in a bassinet or crib.Try to improvise a crib that is not too big or put something under to make it not too deep for you to get your baby. As your baby gets older you will not have problem on it. Baby grows very fast in the first 6 months. Sometime it is difficult to put your baby in between you. Perhaps in one side of the bed if you have no crib or basinet . The danger of putting your baby between you is if you are asleep you really do not know you might sleep on your baby - it is quite dangerous. Hope things will turn out fine with you . Congratulations for having a new baby.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Letting the baby sleep with you is a safety risk. You could accidentally roll on top of her and kill her. It has happened to people before. I usually had a bassinet for my babies. It's not as big as a crib, and it was perfect for them for the first few months. Bassinets can be placed anywhere you want, so sometimes we'd put it on my side of the bed, sometimes on hubby's, or sometimes we'd bring it into another room.
@shaggin (37723)
• United States
2 Apr 09
When my daughter was just brought home from the hospital she had severe acid reflux that would cause her to choke and gasp for breath so we had her sleep semi-upright in an infant carseat on the floor next to our bed. This way I could hear her if she stopped breathing or anything. After a few months we moved her into her room which is connected to our room. She slept in her crib but we had to prob the two legs up with cans to elevate one end of the bed so she wouldnt choke on the acid reflux. She slept in there until she was 2 1/2 I think then my father in law gave us a toddler bed that she slept in. We moved her room across the hall when I got pregnant with my son so that way she could have the bigger bedroom and the new baby would be sleeping in the crib in his room that was attached to our room. This way he wouldnt wake her up when he cried in the night. She was afriad of her new room so she has been sleeping in my bed since then and she is almost 5. My husband sleeps downstairs on the couch so its not a big deal but I would like to get her to sleep in her own room but its hard to get her to stay in there. My son sleeps in his crib in the room attached to ours.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
2 Apr 09
i kept both my girls in a crib or bassinet next to or at the foot of my bed. close enough for quick tending, but not in the bed where one of us could possibly roll over and squash and smother the poor little thing. they stayed in our room until they were at least a year, and then moved into their own rooms.
• Australia
2 Apr 09
For my daughter's first week at home, she slept in a bassinet beside my bed until I could get a cot for her. Once we got her cot, she went in that in her own room. My daughter is now 23 months old & we have since moved into a big house & sharing with 2 friends so she is sleeping in a single bed next to mine. When we move again at the end of the year, she will go back to having her own room
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
My daughter is now 1 year 2 months old. When we first brought her home from the hospital she slept in the crib beside our bed, but sometimes as she grew we realized that she sleeps much sounder when she feels us close to her so we sometimes put her between us in bed. We make sure that there are no pillows that might fall on her and we do our best not to move to much. Now that she's 14 months old she prefers to stay in the bed with my wife and I.
@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
2 Apr 09
My son was born two years ago,then we let him sleep with us for half a year and now he sleeps with my parents.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
2 Apr 09
My kids all spent their first several months sleeping right next to me. I really had a hard time putting them in their own beds at night because I was afraid I wouldn't wake up when they cried. Plus, I always rested my hand on their bellies so I could feel them breathing.
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
After giving birth and arriving home from the hospital I and my husband put our baby in his crib. That is because our room has been set up even before I gave birth. When our baby is awake he is beside us and we play with him. But when he is sleeping we put him back to his crib which is big enough that can still carry a 5 year old kid. The crib is big because my husband want a big crib. It is also adjustable according to the age and the ability of the baby to crawl and climb. I do not have difficulty in getting the baby because the bed in the crib is high. Anyway wherever we place our baby as long as he or she is comfortable and safe that is what is more important.
• United States
2 Apr 09
Well I have 2 daughters. With my oldest daughter, when we had her, we were living with my mother in law, so we had a pack & play in our room with us, but alot of the time she slept with us. I regret that. When we tried to get her to sleep in her own crib it was horrible she would scream & throw fits & make herself sick. I couldnt get mad at her because it was our fault. It was so hard to get her to finally go into a crib. I had to let her fall asleep & then move her. Now she is 3 & she has a twin bed & she will never sleep anywhere but that bed. LOL. Now my youngest daughter slept on her own in her crib. She didnt want to be bothered. She was such an easy baby when it came to her sleeping situation. She is 2 now & finally outgrowing her crib. She is learning to climb out of it. How old is your baby? I would suggest getting a crib or putting a pack n play in the room with you & getting her to sleep in there as young as you can because it is definatly not easy to teach them they have to sleep in their own bed. There are so many risks having a baby in bed with you like rolling on them or them falling off of the bed if one of you gets out of the bed. That happend to my friends little boy & he broke his arm & had to have surgery. Hope this helped. Have a nice night!
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
1 Apr 09
when both of our daughters came home from the hospital, (i had had a c section both times too) both the girls slept in their own rooms. my oldest sleep through after 6 weeks but it took longer for my youngest. it wasnt easy but it was ok.
@cupkitties (7442)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I would be very careful on that. I'm not sure of the laws where you are but a friend had told me about a couple who had their baby taken from them by Social Service after a neighbor friend reported them for having their baby sleep in the bed with them. You could try looking at bassinets. They might be cheaper than cribs. My girls cribs were given to me by an aunt of my then husband. They were adjustable according to the babies development which was pretty cool.
• United States
1 Apr 09
I have two kids, a girl who's four and a boy who is 19 months old. When they were newborns, I kept them in a bassinet next to my bed. At around 3 or 4 months they became too big for the bassinet and then went into a crib in their own rooms. I never kept them in our bed because I was afraid my husband could roll over and smoosh them and I was also worried that they could get smothered under the pillows or blankets. Its really a personal decision for the parents to make, if you and your husband are light sleepers and careful about the pillows and blankets it's probably OK but you may face difficulty from your child when it is time to put her to sleep by herself in a crib.
@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
1 Apr 09
Both of my girls were in a bassinet when they were newborns. My girls both spent maybe 3 months in my room in it. By 3 months they were in their own room. My girls were sleeping through the night by 2 months old (8hrs at a time). I am now currently pregnant with my 3rd daughter and I plan on having her in a bassinet beside by bed until about 3-6months and then transfre her to her room. Both of my daughters didnt go into a crib until they were about 5months. They seemed so much sercure in the bassinet.