Do you know what you want.........

@HelScream (2822)
Philippines
April 2, 2009 8:48am CST
They say love come eventually in ones life I believe that and they say that in every person there someone for them I know this is true but if you are to decide for your life do you know what you want to do with your life or just go with the pattern of life get married have kids go to work same pattern all over again. I am in the verge of moving forward and deciding what I want in life I guess all of us have to face this ones and for all when that time came do you really know what you want to happen in your life or do you live your life right now an unexpected life that you never expected to happened or did you planned everything that is happening in your life right now?
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@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 09
You know what you been through and now that you've decided to move on you have to decide what you want to do with your life, what is acceptable to you and what is not. When you have establish that then you can move on in the direction you want, when you don't know what you want, then you will settle for anything which might not be a good thing for you. I also believe that love will find you, and when it does you will know it.
@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 09
I made a mistake once and I cannot undo it now. Relationship wise, if you want to venture into a relationship for longterm, both of you have to be friends, share common interest, do not date someone whose self esteem is low or who does not have a goal to achieve in life when you want to achieve great things it just will not work. Socialise a lot, talk to people, be nice to people and soon someone will show an interest in you. Also do not date anyone that always agrees with what you say or do, he or she will not be able to hold an opinion on anything that you ask. Never be littled yourself, think positive all the time, think of yourself as a great achiever and you will surpass any mountain that is in your way. On the job or business side, find out what you want to do, what kind of job you are good doing, get yourself certified or qualified if you are not then send your application to the various companies who you want to work with or better still, create employment for yourself. If you have a skill you can sell your skill or talent (that is called services) to others who will pay you in return for your services. For example, if you can type well, set up a Professional Typing Services and charge a fee for work done, of course you will have to make your services known. There are a lot of positive things that you could do that could bring some success and satisfaction to your life. I do hope I am making sense here, and that it is applicable to your situation.
@shebeck (114)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 09
Life is unpredictable and as such do not always go the way we want it to, but we should be flexible and be able to make adjustments where necessary in order to survive anything challenge. The most important thing is that when we get knock down it is the ability to get up and start again that counts.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Thanks for analyzing me my friend but I want to hear from your side in this way I may know and do a little comparison on my part.....
@drdivu (1011)
• India
2 Apr 09
hey.. I m going thro the same thing right now and dont know wat to do and whom to take guidance from..!! DONT KNOW WAT I WANT IN LIFE AND WAT I WANT FROM LIFE...!!! I have to take the long awaited step now..more so because i dont understand whether the guy i had been with loves me or not..?? he tells me often to move on..I have not touched my books since two months now and COZ I M CLUELESS ABOUT MY FUTURE..!!! i really dont know wat i want in life..
@drdivu (1011)
• India
2 Apr 09
well, thanks alot..I still have to learn to do this planning stuff...!! how can one make plans alone..?? more so i m finding it hard to either move on or stick with the situation..
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
well planning is really easy for me my friend its the doing it that is hard but if yiu take one step at a time you will be able to achieve your plans in life remember you wont go that far if you are not able to make a single step to your goals...
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
one things for sure dont drdivu that I learned in life make your own plans for now and dont expect to much into your relationship start making plans for yourself first then you will see lots of opportunity will knock into your door.
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
2 Apr 09
Hello! Everyone have a choice what to do with our lives or whom to be with. But there were times also that things happened unexpectedly. That's what happened to mine. I have loved and been loved and I thought it was the right person for me and I was wrong. I kept dreaming of what I want for a guy or an ideal man to be my husband. Sometimes, I choose what I want and sometimes I go with the flow of life. I planned to get married in the age of 26 but I ended getting married of 23 to someone and to be in a place that I have never expected. It is better to have things happened unexpected. I always tell myself "Expect the Unexpected" lol. We do have choices, and if things happened, it has its own reason why. Happy mylotting!
@drdivu (1011)
• India
2 Apr 09
well, i too wanna get married at 25 or 26..parents want me to get married now sometime..!! I m just 23 right now..dating a guy who still is studying and if possible pls read up my story part 1 and part 2..going thro strange nature of things right now...
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
yeah things can happen in life the least we expect them to happen that the beauty of it all what lies ahead is a mystery to us all.
@yanyinju (85)
• China
3 Apr 09
I think that most people just repeat the life that their parents have experienced.Most of them have never found out that life could be different.Your view is very good.Someone even doesn't know what he is doing.I think one should have his own life that is different from others'.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
thanks for the complement yanyinju care to share more about what you want in life and your life right now...
@neknna (63)
3 Apr 09
They say that we are destined to somebody else or vice versa. But, without effort this is useless. Also, we can't have what we want in love just by staring or thinking of the one's we love. We need to move in order to win that someone. On a personal note and by way of experience, even though i know what i want, but i don't lock it that secured anyway. I still have the options to choose and eventually decide.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
thanks on sharing your views nekna and I too believe on what you say but for now I continue to learn everything maturely in what life has in stored for me.....
@vickycity (154)
• China
2 Apr 09
OK. I think life is just life. It has so many thing will happen. something we can expected, something we can't expected. that's nothing, who care? just live in life. taste thing in life.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Yeah this is true anything can happened and what your are saying has a bit of truth but if you have this opportunity would rather just leave your life and dont try to control over it?
• China
3 Apr 09
yes there are something that we can't control over.but that doesn't mean life is just life .we can change it to some extent. so tasting life ,changing life.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
yeah you can do better than what you have right now my friend that's the beauty of life
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
2 Apr 09
Very expertly I had planned my life, that first I will submit my thesis and then will get married will have kids and will lead a happy life. But everything went haywire the moment the person (ex)told me that he does not want kids. I was so unhappy that my marriage rocked and I became a divorcee and today I am a self sufficient women with no inclination of marriage.So regarding my personal life what I had decided did not happen destiny had something else stored for me.Now I feel which is good.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Oh sorry to hear about that my dear....Just curious why didnt he told you this when you where still not married that he dont want any kids?
@Abbyey (760)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
After college I simply follow the flow of life's pattern. Day after day, work after work, relationship after relationship, I simply treat everything as how it is. Then I came to the point where I went to a vacation far from my place of work or home, I realize that I'm actually lost in life. Lost in the sense of not knowing what I really want in life. Do I want the job I have? Is the person I'm with right now is the person I want to be with forever? Where do I really want to be after several years from now? When I started asking these that's when I was able to focus on building my life's road map. I wrote everything that I want to do and what I am just doing because of necessity or because it's just there. Then I made drastic decisions that changed my life. Change was for the better. I have a road map for my career & a road map on what I want in terms of having a family life. Where am I now? I'm half way already and soon I know I'll be where I want to be. I hope you will find what you want and where you want to be in life. For me, I found HAPPINESS and CONTENTMENT! :)
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
wow I am happy for you my friend for finding what you want and you are not afraid to make that first step towards what you want. just curious what is that drastic decisions that change your life if you dont mind me asking.. I really do want to know how you made it so far ..I am happy for you for finding contentment and happiness.pls do share more i am interested on your story...
• United States
2 Apr 09
Well for me I am a planner. I am interested in the business world and take joy and planning for the future unlike my husband he lives day to day what comes his way is good for him. but I feel life is what you make it and I want to be successful I want to own my own business and create a foundation for my family. right now I am trying to get into business school graduate program and in hopes of graudating in two years
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Your the type of women who want to be in control in life but takes joy on what lies ahead.....your husband is the exact opposite of you and this will balance your relationship my dear....good luck on your dream and may they all come true.
@sanuanu (11235)
• India
3 Apr 09
Be very careful what you want because you don't know what to do when you get those in your life. A famous quote, I don't recall the writer name but it is true. It has happened in my life. In my school time, I always wanted to talk to a girl but when I get a friend and fallen in love, I couldn't tell her when she was expecting it from me. Was a shy guy that time and couldn't open up my mouth. She went with another guy later. So, these days, I don't know what I want. I have learnt to accept things when they come in my life.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
I also believe in this my friend but since I am a grown up person and can handle this maturely everything I want would somehow come to me for it would depend on how much you wanted that thing to be yours or that plan to be realized.Just one step at a time.
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• Philippines
3 Apr 09
really nice topic you got here.. what i want.. i think i got everything i wanted right now.. i have a very sweet husband and a cute baby girl.. before i got to this stage of my life, you know settling down.. I was a happy go lucky person, a party girl..i'm always out with my friends, drinking, bar hopping, doing all the crazy stuff i even became a mountaineer i went to places conquer every mountain always looking for an adventure, but one night i get home saw this man in our balcony fell in love and got married.. so what I'm saying is, you just need to live your life do the things you haven't done, like sky diving, go to places you never been,don't plan things you will do the next day for this day you should have fun and live.. discover the world and eventually you'll be able to meet someone who will love you for the rest of your life just like what happened to me...
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Its nice for you to share your joys in life my dear and I am happy you are happy with what life had offered you hope you will have many good years to come with the your love ones.... yes life is great and it has lots of things to offer you ......
@cindyhxf (1446)
• China
3 Apr 09
i think i don't always know what i want.it is sure that i know what i need sometime.afer got married before.i felt i lost something but i didn't know what really it was.puzzle most of the time but life went on.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
life always move on my friend even if you just sit there still it moves even if sometimes I want time to stop but I have no such power to stop time but what ever that is that you luck in your life I really do hope that one day you will find what it is....
@wxo200345 (101)
• China
3 Apr 09
to my point of view,every person should have a long term goal and at least three or four short term goals, this can avoid the blankness feelings and lead to a sense of accomplishment . because every day even every hour,you know what you need to do at the moment according to the clear goals. to be specific, i plan to earn enough money to buy house and get marriaged three or four years later, at the same time ,for my occupation management,i should have necessary skills and experences by then which can support me to climb to a higher step in my field.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Yup you are right their wxo200345 but sometimes people make plans for their long term goals and forget how to do about it they are so into it that they forgot how to go about it that would lead their plans to be only a dream... they forgot to take make short term goals in order for the long term goal to be realized....this is the usual mistakes of every goal achievers... I am glad to hear your aiming for a higher goals in life good luck my friend I know you'll make it to the top if not to the top to the level in which you are happy......
• China
3 Apr 09
I'm a person who always plan what i will want to do,but usuallly the facts demonstrate that the plans are not better than changes.however,i still like to plan everything well that i may feel securely.i think a person used to plan evertthing can do well in their work.
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
its easy to plan but make sure to do something about your plans so it would be realized its the doing that is though.