How do you do it?

@krajibg (11940)
Guwahati, India
April 2, 2009 9:56am CST
Well here at mylot many people have their own ways of responding or commenting in the discussions. Some introduce just blankly, I mean without addressing the person they go responding or commenting. Some are there who do address with whatsoever form they like or hits their mind at that moment address like 'hello there', some say "Hi", some say "Hi (name). My question was do you feel a bit different , I mean elated sort of when addressed with your uername or even without the name? Personally speaking I feel nice. For me I feel a bond with the person. Your idea? Rajib. 02.04.09
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
2 Apr 09
Hi Rajib! I usually say 'Hi' and then the username. Sometimes I shorten the username but never unless I have been interacting with the user for some time. Being called by my name does give some special feeling to it but all responses are welcme even if the user does not call me by name. I feel something rally special when the user tells me that I may call them by their real name. That is for me something special
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
3 Apr 09
Very special. I only know one mylotian with her real name but her name almost resembles her user name so, nothing special about it! LOL
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
3 Apr 09
Nothing special about it? EVERY name is special!
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@mathss1 (1181)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Hi mysDianaIT, Your name is really special lol IT has everything special in it Have a gr8 time Njoy
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
2 Apr 09
Honestly, krajibg, I also feel nice when some sort of recognition is given whenever I read a reply or a post in my discussion. Even though they already know my user name as they read along the post or discussion, being greeted still grants me that nice feeling. Then again, I mostly get straight reponses which isn't a bad thing because them making time to post in a discussion or repond to my post also gets me that bit of recognition. (^_^ )
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
3 Apr 09
Hi ratyz, that is common himan longing I guess.
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Perhaps it is so...
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
2 Apr 09
Hi Rajib, (does this sound good), I can't really remember if I ever address anyone with this kind of greetings. Of course I always feel elated and so touched when someone do give me a short greetings before responding. There are many forms of greetings that I received and it varies from person to person and the places where they are from. The westerners are more sweet and electrifying when they address their greetings like, 'hon' sweetie' 'lovely lady' 'dear' and so many that often jumps the heart a bit. Coming from a place that aren't used to such proclamation I do find it uncomfortable at first but am growing to like it more and more as I feel I have personalized my presence in that person.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
3 Apr 09
Hi zandi! I was just about to leave a personal message for you ans you were not around for the past few days. Now its ok you are there and that is fine. Nice to know you are there as usual. What shall I say. That is the way of greeting and hope people would apply this now on. lol. Have a great day.
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@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Hello! Yes, me too I feel special and proud every time members mentioned my name when answering my discussions posted. Usually I start my response with hello and end it with goodluck and Godbless, with these words I want to know that person that he is special and meant to me. Goodluck and Godbless!
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
4 Apr 09
Hi jlamela! surely it gives us a closeness and we feel more friendly. The age difference is sure;ly taken for granted. Thanks for the response.
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
3 Apr 09
The beauty of mylot is that we don't need to address person when we are responding. It is understood that we are addressing the author of that post. Of course we feel good if someone says Hi *user name*. I personally don't have that kind of tendency. i take my friends at mylot for granted!
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
3 Apr 09
If you want to make a beach in your relation with your friends just take them for granted. So my friend think over this and say your say.
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
3 Apr 09
I don't think he takes ALL of them for granted
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
4 Apr 09
Of course some of them are lives in a special lounge created in my heart. Only some of them can live as the size is small you know but taking my friends for granted is bad and I am trying to change myself. Well, may be I will start using hello at the begining because people don't understand the language of heart they can only understand language of words which are being said here!
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• Philippines
3 Apr 09
I like being called by my username there is quite an attachment.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
4 Apr 09
Hi feathers! Its really nice to know your view. Thanks for responding.
@kiran8 (15361)
• Mangalore, India
3 Apr 09
Hi krajibg, it is a thought provoking discussion. I too am guilty of not addressing the member by his/her name. I do it when i am comfortable with the name. Sometimes the names are so complicated that i just start with a Hi..I agree with you that you do feel nice to be addressed by your name , it does make a difference, i will bear that in mind - thanks a lot
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
4 Apr 09
Hello Kiram its very nice of you that you thought it in a rather positive way. Thanks a lot for responding.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
3 Apr 09
I had not thought about it to be honest Rajib but come to think of it, it probably does feel nicer to be addressed by your name and as you said it bonds you to the other person. I often use names with MyLotters I communicate with a lot such as yourself but there are many times, as I'm sure you've noticed that I just forget. It is a good point and I may just make an effort to address my friends properly instead of just responding from now on.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
3 Apr 09
That is it. what else is left as friends among us if there is no feeling of bonding among us. I do not mean that one has to address everyone alike but at least those who are familiar and quite frank with each other at least them we should, as I feel, address or greet.
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@agrim94 (3811)
• India
3 Apr 09
Hi krajibg, no i dont think it makes any difference to me how people respond and though i added hi in beginning here i usually dont. I have seen people starting with Hi and then get on very rude in their response not all but sometimes and i have also seen people starting blankly being very nice even if you tell them exactly opposite of what they said so i would rather have a nice person who wont take offense here unless someone got personal.. than a person who would start with hi and then get rude.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
3 Apr 09
Ok that is fine. But being rude in the discussion is something unwarranted. Thanks for responding
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@sandymay48 (2031)
• Canada
4 Apr 09
Hi Rachael....That is what I always say, right?... Oh I am sorry, its Rajib...I am mistaken again!! Yes it is much nicer when we can, or are, addressed by our names. Its a much friendlier atmosphere and makes that person seem more of a friend. And we dont take them for granted like whats his name said there...I must give him a slap... I dont hide my name. I have no reason to. It is Sandra or Sandy..whichever..and anyone is welcome to use it ....Now I must go and yell at sanadoodoo or whatever his name is!..
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
4 Apr 09
Hi Tess oops I still am in the impression of the recent changeover. Hi Sandy how is life? Now say for example I addressed you means we are quite close to each other as friends and forget about the age differences. They hardly count. I showed that post and we all were laugh and laugh and now she is telling that we would surely visit her ( you ) and I said Ok. How nice it would be. A bit difference would be there as you would be talking in the English accent I will have the Indian but rest assured I pronounce well as I have to teach English phonetics and Linguistic. That post was the post of the decade. lol.
• Canada
4 Apr 09
hehehehehe!...I had to get back at sanadoodoo..thats his new name I gave him!... But I dont have an english accent..People from england have an english accent not me...lol....I know what indian accents sound like as i have some friends with it. How do you know that I dont sound like I just swallowed helium or something.. I think mylot should pay us extra for that post!!!
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
6 Apr 09
Hi Sands, its so nice that we have been pulling legs of each other without any malice. And only for that mylot should pay us some extra cents. If any one else it is we who are keeping this space live and kicking. Is not it my honey?
• United States
3 Apr 09
I do like it when a member answers my discussion with my username. I think it gives a personal touch to the response. I like it but I don't always say the username of the person who has started the discussion.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
4 Apr 09
People are not all alike, hence variation arise. You must be having some personal problem. Happy lotting.
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• United States
4 Apr 09
No I am not having personal problems.
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
6 Apr 09
Hi Still its ok. Have a nice day.
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• India
10 Apr 09
Hello my friend Rajib Ji, It's a great topic to discuss. To tell you frankly, on eday I had to bull-sh$t my both sons, who just replied my mail, without addressing me proper and finishing it, We Indians are taught letter writing, and there have been numerous querries, why I complete my address with suffixing 'JI'. I had to explain. In fact, after you started finishing with Rajib, I tried to relate with your name. It gives special bondage. It is like, that I may ask about your children, but if I ask about them by their actual names, we will have better relations. I hope, I have made my feelings open. May God bless you and have a great time.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
10 Apr 09
Exactly. MGBU jee. These salutation and addresses, greetings indicates our bondage both as human beings and as friends or well wishers. Thank you very much for the response.
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• India
13 Apr 09
Hello my friend Rajib Ji, So nice of you for expressing your inner feelings on my response. May god bless You and have a great time.
@dpk262006 (56105)
• Delhi, India
6 Apr 09
Hi! Krajibg! Good Question! While responding to my posts, many of my dear friends here address me with my real name and I feel happy, when they address me by my real name. I also try to do like wise, however, sometimes in my hurry to post my response, I forget to address the user's real name/log in name. I agree with you that addressing our friends/memebrs with their log in name develops a kind of bond between the respondents and the user. However, I would like to add here that some members are very particular here, even if you know their real names, they just do not want you to spell out their real name in the discussions, they insist on using their 'screen' name and I respect their privacy.
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
7 Apr 09
Hi Deepak! I appreciate your input. You are very right. So far some people disapproving their real name being addressed we have to be as you have put respect their privacy. On this issue we need nor come into any confrontation. Thanks for responding.
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@dpk262006 (56105)
• Delhi, India
8 Apr 09
I agree with your views.
@rashmie (948)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Apr 09
Hi Rajib, For me my name matters a lot. I am using my real name here...though I have added an 'e'... It is said that, in any language the best word for anyone is his name. It always feels good when someone call you by your name. In responding, I start the response by an address, but it is not a rule. Lots of time, I forget to write that..It shows that, something is lacking from heart, or you may say I lack manner. However, I will try to address as a rule now...at least when I am posting my first response or comment on a particular discussion. But, I don't think that anyone will get cheered by reading his username which does not have any relavance to his name.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
6 Apr 09
Thats fantastic thinking Rashmie. I really appreciate them who do not bother to put their actual name and even original avatar. And this is too right that some time even me to forget to greet or address the person I am responding or commenting on.
@maezee (31961)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Sometimes I'll say something like "Hey guys!" or something like that - with the intent of being friendly and casual and getting people's attention. Not sure if it actually works or not, though.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
4 Apr 09
Hi maezee! Yeas that is what I wanted to collect from people . Thanks for your view. And thanks for your response.
• United States
4 Apr 09
Rajib- If I do not know the person's name then I cannot use it. I generally will then simply type their user name. If I do know it, then I will use it if I have permission, because some people don't wish their real name used in such a public place. I do though agree that it's a nice feeling when you're met with "Hi friend". There is something warm and inviting, as if you're sitting down to tea so that you may converse about the world and life. Thank friend for the heart thought conversation. Namaste-Anora
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
4 Apr 09
Hi Anora! I accept their username itself as their names.. So no problem if you wish you could use that what you see, and that's all. In case you do not know or are not familiar with the users what you have put suggestible. Thanks Anora - namaste.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
6 Apr 09
hi! rajib dada truely speaking, i never thought about this, i never addressed anyone while adding a response or comment. well, it surely sounds personal. i may not remember using salutations but try to remember that you feel nice... well while writing emails ect. i take utmost care to address people with greetings and salutations.
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
7 Apr 09
Hi Anu! Is not your DADA a genius to initiate novelty? he he he. Np problem even I forget sometime. But this is a sure thing that salutation as it were adds glue to the bonding. Thanks dear sis.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
5 Apr 09
I think most times I don't use anything to greet a person during the discussions or commenting on the discussions. Sometimes I do use the person's names. I think most times it depends on the mood or depends on the way I think. Sometimes I start with a hi or hello. I also think it is nice to address the user name krajibg. I think I will certainly use it in the future.
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
6 Apr 09
Hi ajithlal! ell this is my way usually when i respond or comment. And you know what? People feel more closed and friendly when you address them with their user name or original name. Thanks foe responding.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
4 Apr 09
sometimes i said "hi there" and some ties its just right the replies of the discussion
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
6 Apr 09
Hi B'shell, everything you say is ok for you are so nice about everything. And even I too forget sometime though now I am a bit conscious about this.