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@scgodess (105)
United States
April 2, 2009 8:34pm CST
To me it's intereseting to see how marital relationship have evolved over the years. The old good housekeeping magazines are almost appalling to today's women. When my husband and I were just dating I told him upfront "i'm not a housewife. I believe in sharing duties...there's no his/her chores." I figured if it didn't scare him off then i'd have a good man. My now husband agrees. He says he never wanted a "subserviant" woman. He wanted an equal. We have wonderful intelligent conversations. We both pay the bills, we both raise the children, we both do the household chores. Is your relationship similar? Do you prefer the woman stay at home? What's your opinion or situation? I think it's interesting to see different people's point of view.
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4 responses
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
I am a stay at home mom for three years now. Before I gave birth, I was a working wife. It's not easy to be a stay at home mom.
@scgodess (105)
• United States
7 Apr 09
that's true too. I did try to be a stay at home mom for 4 months with my oldest but it just wasn't for me. It is a lot of work as a stay at home mom as well. I agree.
• United States
7 Apr 09
I am a housewife, but I still feel we share the duties, and in no way am I "subserviant." He works to make money while I take care of the kids, house, yard (2 acres), and do most of the repairs. He helps when I ask and on the weekends he will takes care of the things I can't do alone. I have worked, but with 3 kids, it's very hard on us and I am not comfortable with daycares. We are still equal. He does not treat my job as less important. I have no problem being old fashioned. It works for us, but not everyone. Everyone finds their own way.
@scgodess (105)
• United States
7 Apr 09
so true. You have to find what works for you. As long as it works for the two of you that's great!
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
12 Aug 10
Well i stay at home and take care of my husband and kids and my husband give me all equal rights and we share our duties
@Samanthavv (1395)
• United States
9 Apr 09
I think that in today;s society, marriage should be more about give and take, rather than just taking. Couples need to find an arrangement that works for them, and stick too it. Sometimes it may seem unfair, but it's all about compromise and negotiation and making sure all things are completed. No "his" or "hers" about it!