Can you make decisions?

@mermaidivy (15417)
United States
April 3, 2009 10:31am CST
Are you able to make decisions or you tend to rely on somebody to make decisions for you? I most likeky the second one. For whatever reason, I don't seem to be able to make a strong decission firmly, I like to have somebody makes decision for me. I now always rely on my hubby, I think the decisions that he makes is good ones. I guess he is training me to be over dependable :-p I don't know if it is good or bad but he helps me solve the hesitation most of the time. Also, Do you make the right decisions usually or you regret it mostly? Let's hear your opinions! :-)
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24 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
3 Apr 09
i make my own decisions & u need to learn to make your own. there are things that come up mostly about my health or buisness that i talk over w/my sons& get their imput. if i sat around waiting for someone to make decisions i'd be up the crrek.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I think I'm being trained to be that way... I don't know if it is a ogod thing or bad thing :-\... Sometimes I wonder if I can survive without those people that makes decisions for me...
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
7 Apr 09
yes ma'am, u can. heaven forbid but some day u might have to. stand up & learn how to do that.i never had anybody to depend on to even help me but i didn't want anybody making decisions for me, i still don't.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
Hi there! I make decisions for myself. I am an independent person even when I was a child. Even when buying a simple toy I decide what to buy and what I want. I also remember my parents not telling me what to do. They always say, "whatever you like". There are times I would ask for advices as to what is better in a situation but still the final decision is on me. Sometimes I take others' advices but most of the time it's always on me. I believe I know what I like and nobody knows me better than myself. Though my decisions sometimes aren't always right, it's better for me not to blame anyone for my mistakes. Ciao!
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
3 Apr 09
When I need to make decision, I can do it fine. But when there is important person around, I will let him/her do the decisions. That's good for you that you are independent, I don't think I can be like that at all... Thanks for your response! :-)
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@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
I guess I was just born that way, being independent.I think it's not really hard to be independent. It's only hard when it comes to paying the bills hehe. Happy posting!
@thezone (9451)
• Ireland
7 Apr 09
I sometimes over think things too much when making a decision and sometimes have my brain in knots I tend to weigh up the pros and cons and then make a decision and most of the time things turn out for the best. I do find that I am better at making big decisions rather than the little ones like what I am going to have for breakfast, I know that sounds weird but its true
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
8 Apr 09
Yea usually guys are better decisions makers of those so I'm the one to decided what to eat etc, he decides the bigger things! Thanks for your response!
• India
7 Apr 09
To make decisions , it is necessary to consult other's opinion. In this case , the person whom you are seeking opinion should atleast know you and your interests. Because some fellows advise simply without any knowledge . So, you have chosen your hubby to make decisions , it is right. But , you have to rethink twice or thrice before making a decision. Experience makes our mind to adapt to making decsions.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
7 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing! :-)
• Tunisia
6 Apr 09
Sometimes it's difficult to make a decision, I agree! But sometimes y ou need to trust yourself and and make; So make it when it's needed and when it's right decision with no offense for anybody!
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
7 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing!
• Hong Kong
6 Apr 09
I also cannot make my own decision. I always think that my decision is bad. My thoughts are wrong. Therefore, when I need to make decisions, I will always don't know what to do.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
You can always ask for my opinions! I can help you make decisions or give guggestions to you la! :-) So don't worry! Thanks for responding! :-)
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
4 Apr 09
Hello mermaidivy, I always make my own decision. Sometimes, I rely on my husband too. But not all the times, I do the right thing and when that happens, I will regret for not asking his opinion.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Thanks for responding! :-)
@ying470 (62)
• China
4 Apr 09
In general,I myself,I decided,was to future without regret
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
That's what lots of mylotters said to me too. Thanks for responding! :-)
• China
4 Apr 09
I like making decisions after i ask the opinion of my friends.I want their suggestions to help me.I know I must make decisions myself,but I always worry the decision I make is wrong.iam not a self-assurance person,i hope someone i trust deside me when i make a important decision.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Thanks for responding! :-)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
Hi mermaidivy. My husband always has the final say when it comes to serious matters. But I'm free to express my opinion and it's always taken into consideration. When it comes to simple matters, then I can make my own decisions. But I still prefer to consult him before making any decisions. Thanks. Have a happy weekend!
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Thanks for responding! :-)
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
im not depending to ask somebody about my decision i'll kept it only in my mine. but sometimes when i don't know what to do i'll kept on telling it to my friend and they giving me how would i react and what to do or you must haved to etc..blahhh but if i think it's right well am doing it. but it's not i haved another way for making decision.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Thanks for responding! :-)
@yanyinju (86)
• China
4 Apr 09
I used to make decisions depending on others.I was always not so confident to make a decision.Sometimes just do as others say.I am a man,I would not do that anymore.So I determine to make any decision by myself,even sometimes the decision is not so wise,but just relying on others is even worse.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Thanks for responding! :-)
@snow_one (202)
• United States
4 Apr 09
i make most of my decsions on my own. some times people like to try to make descions for me but still i make the most important ones.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Thanks for responding! :-)
@pamela80 (37)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
i make decisions for myself sometimes i make desicions for others too.but whatever decision i made i ask to the lord for assistance.sometimes we make false decision but thats the reason why we became a stronger person and we learn from our mistakes.so its okey to make a decision for your own just trust yourself and everythings gonna be ok.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Thanks for responding! :-)
@zedlav23 (458)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
I make decisions for myself but my wife's opinion is always put into consideration. I believe that it is better that way especially since she also has some good ideas that is sometimes out of my perspective. It's good to consult a wife but the final decision is always mine to make as the head of the family.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
That's what I like too, I like him to think about my considerations but he will be the one to make final decisions. Thanks for responding! :-)
@parvezs (106)
• India
3 Apr 09
I make my own decisions always. Its not that that I am always right but then later I don't regret that I lost because I took others views. I make firm decisions. I think a lot before making any final decision and so mostly I am right. I listen to my heart and make decisions. I don't rely on others for making decisions for me.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Thanks for sharing! :-)
• United States
3 Apr 09
I like making the decisions on the "big" things but on little things like what's for dinner I'd rather someone else because it's not that important. Though my indecisivness when we are going out to eat drives him batty! *LOL*
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I can make decisions on my own but most of the time I let somebody to do that for me :-p Thanks for repsonding! :-)
@sayh123 (150)
• Philippines
3 Apr 09
As part of my life, I make my own decisions.. Nobody can make my decision except for myself. Actually, i cannot accepted the decision of anybody even though I am right or wrong. If my decision are wrong I made myself being fight and makes me strong.Well, I am a person not listener other people and fight for my decision. Since in my college life, I am a person being independent, I was trained with my parents to stand alone and dont give up if any circumstances. My school is very far in my house and i traveled it with a boat, thats why I am being alone.But this is the best thing to do in my life and im happy for that.And i am so glad with my parents to trained me and make our self being independent.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Thanks for your response! :-)
@drdivu (1011)
• India
3 Apr 09
well, i usually rely on some one else for most decisions until I strongly feel for something..I used to ask my friends but now since they are all far off and busy so I m taking time for making my decision.. once I make one decision then I never regret it until its grossly wrong..which is rare..as i make my decisions rarely..
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Thanks for your response! :-)
@derry123 (611)
3 Apr 09
I always make my own decisions ,, im not hasty though I do have a good think about best outcomes and find out as much as I can about what ever the issue is .. once I make the decision I stick with it .. if it was wrong I need to learn from that .. But I will only have myself to blame *
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
3 Apr 09
Thanks for your response! :-)