I'll never have a relationship again!
By blue65packer
@blue65packer (11826)
United States
April 3, 2009 10:13pm CST
This is so true! There is no point for me to have one! Why? It is a little complicated but i'll try to explain! Everytime I have been in a relationship it never lasts! I get involved with the wrong guy and there have been to many! I think I need to be with someone and I'll be happy to be with someone! For years I thought getting married was the way to go! I would act like my mother in these relationships like she did all those years married to my jerk of a dad! I was always expecting men to understand me and then everything would be perfect! I wanted men to put up with me no matter what and in turn I would put of with nonsense when I shouldn't of! I can't trust men! I can't trust myself to work on a relationship even if the other person is doing their part! I'm very lazy about stuff like that and love to give up way to easy when it comes to alot of situations including like this one! I have gone looking for men and tried see if they would come to me! Both disasters! I'm going to try again! I'm better off being by myself for the rest of my life!
13 responses
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
I don't think so, maybe you're just being negative. If you want to have a relationship that would last of course you would change your attitude. By now you'll be learning from the past relationship. You know the reasons why the past relationships did not work out so learn from those. Do the reverse, learn to understand men, don't think of yourself always, treasure more those who give you importance. Trust your partner and believe in yourself that you could keep a relationship last. You'll never have a relationship, however if you decide not to have one again.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Men have NEVER TRIED TO UNDERSTAND ME! I ubderstand them better then they know themselves! I have male friends and worked with alot of men over the years! Believe me! Very few men and add some women to the least want or do try to understand me! It has happen to me so many times I have lost count! Most of the guys I dated turned out to be a** losers! It most be written all over me where I can't see it! This is no joke!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
The door is closed and my eyes are shut! I have had enough! I'm better off alone! Period!
@hustonphotography (569)
• United States
4 Apr 09
If you never put yourself out there you will never find love. I know it doesn't feel like it but it is worth it. Your not living if you don't take risk. Love is out there. Sometimes it takes a few tried to find it. You will get your heart broke but that is a part of life. It just means it wasn't meant to be. You have to pick your self up and get back on the horse.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I rather not put myself out I there! I am not out going and never will be! I could go on line to look but I won't! I can't afford it and it scares the hell out of me! So I won't try again!
@erica1221_112 (275)
• United States
4 Apr 09
All your relationships have failed because you havent found the right person. I am sure you will find the right person for you. It may take some time, but usually it happens when you least expect it & when your not looking. So relax & take your time. I hope you find your soulmate. Good luck!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
There is no one out there! If he was I would of found him or vice versa allready!
@zapood (54)
• China
4 Apr 09
Relationship between men and women are more difficult than ever before.If you got too much disappoint,you may feel like it will be impossible to find a parterner with whom to share your life.This does not to have to be the case.You can find the man that is right for you if take the time and make the effort to meet the person you will be share the rest of the life.Good luck!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
It won't happen! I'm destine to be alone for the rest of my life!
@tamildude3 (409)
• India
4 Apr 09
Relationships is not liking the person for all his good nature but liking him inspite of knowing his grey areas. Everybody have their own grey areas. It takes some patience on the part of both the partners to understand each other and forge a good bond. Patience is a virtue here. Everytime you fight both of them should be willing to give up for the sake of each other. For this u need to zero in on the right person. Never hurry choosin ur partner and when you choose someone try maximum not to give up. Give a chance for relationship to work. Men are not that bad :)
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Men never have had patience with me! They never were understanding! If they did it wasn't much!
@spoiled311 (5500)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
hi blue65packer!
i swore off relationships in the past too. i had a pretty bad short one and another pretty bad long one. i just wanted to get married period. sometimes, i think now that in the past, i would have just jumped into any relationship just to get married.
but when i changed my attitude about the whole thing, the whole world changed for me. anyway, i am now married to the guy who i had been for the longest time--almost 8 years. and we have a wonderful marriage. making a relationship work is not just dependent on one person. it takes two to tango. you gotta find the person for you, and you gotta be the right person for the other one as well.
i don hope you find the love of your life as i have found mine. i am so blessed by the marriage to the man i love--God's appointed for me.
take care and God bless you!
happy mylotting! :D
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
God has been telling for a long time there is no one for me and I really believe it! There is no one out there for me! I guarentee it!
@jolope (987)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
you'll find your match someday..
i tried telling myself the same thing..but i dont think that people would really prefer to live alone..
having someone to talk to by the end of the day could really help in so many different ways..
as for now, you, rather, we should just be happy with what we have..
enjoy life because there might be no tomorrow for us to spend..
i feel you..
we'll find our contentment soon enough.. :D
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I have alone for along time and I like it! Sure it gets lonely but I rather be alone then in a relationship! I know it sounds harsh but it is better this way!
@arkansos (545)
• India
4 Apr 09
It seems crazy to say such a thing. The problem in your case was that you went all out looking for relationships. You should take a break from it. Wait slowly for things to happen to you... I have the same problem as you do. My relationships never last.. So right now I am taking a break from all this. When someone really interesting comes my ways and tries really hard to woo me, I'll go with it
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
It isn't something crazy to me! If you know me in person you might understand were I'm coming from!
@torchablazed (3218)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
Good for you. But on the contrary, I would say, that you couldn't say it has to be the rest of your life, who knows someone might come along unexpectedly, someone who you can share the rest of your life with. I mean we don't know, we aren't certain of the future. If you think this is best for you then go for whatever would please you. Have a wonderful day !
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
It'll never happen! Believe me! No guy out there wants to be in a relationship with me! I'm better off alone for the rest of my life! I know God wants that for me!
@donnakristel (1704)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
sounds sad.
i understand your part.
but did you ask yourself what seems to be your problem?
if that is happening to you, there must be something wrong with you...no offense but i too realized that now. maybe something is wrong with me. you have to discover your faults and find the cycle you are making.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
5 Apr 09
There is nothing wrong with me. I just know there is no one for me in this world! Period! I known this for along time and now I'm admitting it!
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Few things worth while in life come easy. Never force things but stay open for love. True love shows up when you least expect it. Some people don't find it until later in life. People think true love is nothing except a bed of roses. I have found most disagree alot. The couple grows together. Don't worry. If it's true love, they might leave you but they won't be gone long.Chemistry is the glue. I knew this couple that fought so much that they were divorced and married three times to each other before they decided divorce wasn't an option.This might sound like hell but they were hot together and NEVER A DULL MOMENT! We should all be so lucky.
