New baby?

@tlb0822 (1412)
United States
April 4, 2009 1:42am CST
My fiance and I talked tonight about having another child. We are planning on getting married this month. So after my birth control we are just going to let whatever happens, happen. Yes we have had some struggles with money, yet i don't see what family hasn't. We discussed tonight about having another child. I mentioned tonight that i wanted to have another child, and to my surprise he wants another one too. He said that he has wanted another child for awhile now but hasn't said anything. How do you know when the right time to have another child is? Do you go by instinct?
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@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
4 Apr 09
If the both of you are ready and your instincts tells you that the time is right, go for it. Babies are wonderful! Yes, every family has their issues at one time or another. I think that as long as you have a steady income, you will be fine.
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@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Thanks for the encouragement. Babies are such a wonderful gift. Happy mylotting.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
4 Apr 09
Well for me I really dont know yet since I am single but my sister do she is pregnant 7 weeks already and we just knew this 3 days ago its her second one.This was great surprise to us all. She told me that her first son is already in the right age and she pity his son so much that he has no playmate when he is at home and when she asked her son if he wants another brother or a sister he innocently answered with a big smile on his face "mommy me want a brother but its also ok if you give me a little sister" with this she knew that her little baby boy has grown already and having the second baby is needed for them to be happier.....
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@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
5 Apr 09
That is really wonderful. I wish you and your family the best of luck. It sounds that your sister is defiantly ready for another child. Best wishes.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
4 Apr 09
It is lovely that you are about to get married so congratulations. It is superb that you and your fiance both think that it is almost time for you to have another pregnancy. How old is your child that you have already? It will be superb for him or her to have a brother or sister. I have heard that pregnancy is more likely to happen if the couple trying are relaxed. So I believe just letting it happen will work unlike getting really stressed about trying to conceive. I have a son aged nearly 14 years, a son almost 2 years and I am pregnant with a baby girl due in June. Good luck.
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@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Thanks. Our daughter is 15 months old right now. With our daughter we didn't try at all, and we were able to concieve her. So with trying with the next one, we are just going to let it happen. We are going to "try" pursay, but not try. I am just going to get off my birth control, and just let whatever happens happen. I think that its the best way. Congrats by the way. You'll have to keep me updated with that babygirl on the way. Happy mylotting.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Hi tlb! That is wonderful that you both want to have another baby, but don't you think that you should get your job situations straightened out first? You are still young and can have a baby anytime. You know that having a baby costs alot of money. Do you really think that financially you are both ready for another child?
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@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Hi Opal. Yes we have considered our financial situation, as of right now I am working five days a week. He has started working for his cousins company, and is making good money. We aren't going to start trying at least for a few months. One for us to see what our financial situation is at, and right now I am on the depo avera (birth control). I just got it, and it last for three months. So we are going to wait a bit. Thanks for the advice.
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
4 Apr 09
thats good news!!!i usually go by instinct,i too wanted a third child for quite some time now but my hubby doesnot agree as we already have two kids and to raise up a kid is very expensive.
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@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Oh yes, raising a child is very expensive. We are going to consider all that before we start trying to have a new baby, as well as going on our instinct. Thanks for the advice...Happy mylotting.
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• Philippines
4 Apr 09
having a baby is a blessing, but it is a lot of responsilities to ponder. you need to be prepared coz in the end both of you will suffer. its not bad having many children as long as you can support all their needs.
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@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Oh yes another baby is going to bring a lot of responsibilities. We are defiantly ready to take it on though. My fiance is very supportive, and was with our first child. Thanks for the advice, and happy mylotting.
@Informer (803)
• India
4 Apr 09
Hi Friend, It's always good to have a baby. I believe that you both must have considered some of other things as well before a baby. I would go by my instinct as well as I also will have some money before having a baby..
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@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I agree having money set a side before having a baby is a good idea. I think that we will have a lot of money saved by then. Thanks for commenting. I will keep everyone posted on what happens. Have a great day.
@fran429 (503)
• United States
5 Apr 09
hi tlb0822, yes! I'd definately say you go by instinct. And also, as you've already done, by making sure it's something you BOTH want! I wish you the best of luck!!!!!!!!! And keep us posted on what happens!
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@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Thanks for the advice. I will defiantly be keeping you guys updated on everything. Happy mylotting.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 09
Hello tlb0822, I love to have another baby as my son is already two years plus. I think he needs a company. But, my husband thinks that it is not a right time to have another baby. We don't have a financial problem but the problem is, he thinks that it is hard for me to have another baby as I am a working woman and I don't have a maid or helper to help me at home. I do everything on my own. My son, is a very active boy and most of my time at home, I just taking care of him.
@Annmac (950)
6 Apr 09
I don't think there's ever a 'right' time to have a child and no matter how well planned life has a habit of twisting things in ways you don't expect. When you consider how much it costs to raise a child, for most of us, there's never really going to be a time you can 'afford' it! I say follow your heart or 'instinct', as the important thing is that you both want another child and that you are both sensible and aware of what having a child really entails. A child coming into a family like yours is going to be a very lucky individual, being wanted and loved is something we all need to feel. I had a two year planned gap between my children but I don't personally feel that it was any more a struggle financially than if there'd only been one. I took jobs that fit in with their schooling which kept child care costs to a minimum which helped! I wish you every happiness in your marriage and whatever you decide may you be happy with those choices. Good Luck.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
6 Apr 09
wow congratulations how exciting. I would love to have another baby myself but with the economy the way it is right now I am too worried to. Of course I already have 2. I have been trying hard to save money and I think I have been doing pretty good. Today I'm gone pick up some huggies diapers for $3 a pack which I think is really good. Check out my blog if you want to learn more. I seen a baby this weekend when we went out to eat and got the baby fever. Then I remembered everything and said wait a minute I only have 2 hands what will I do with 3 kids. Women should of been made with extra sets of hands and eyes lol. Good luck. I hope everything works out for you guys. Congratulations again on getting married.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
if you have talked about having another child and planning to get married, i'm sure that you are more or less prepared for a child. although of course, you must always be ready to expect the unexpected. as for the right time and all, i guess it's when you're prepared mentally and financially i guess. i don't think i'd go by instinct though of course, in the olden times, they usually let nature take its course. but no matter how tough it is, they're a blessing. it's worth it all i feel and this i say from experience with my 2 young kids^_^
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
Well, that's good news. But you should marriage first. I think with your commitment with each other, you can find a way to settle your money problems. but remember in order to survive, you should know hot to manage your money and save a lot than what you are saving now.
• India
5 Apr 09
Yes consent for a child from both guardians is a very good sign and the second most important thing is bank balance or the financial planning about the future of the child.
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
5 Apr 09
i haven't had any child yet until now ever since i am already married for more than 3 years... me and my hubby still have many domestic problems that we have to settle first before we can plan to have a baby... otherwise, we are afraid that the baby will suffer... good luck with your planning for the second baby... take care and have a nice day...
@snow8515 (170)
• China
5 Apr 09
I want two babies, one boy and the other girl. Although I haven't even a boyfriend, I love children so much. They are all quite cute. I always imagine the future I will be bring up my babies, teaching them and playing with them. It's so interesting! Have you already have a little boy? What gender do you want to be your next child's?