What lession have you learnt from your past relationships?

@ajithlal (14568)
India
April 5, 2009 2:26am CST
I have learned that no matter how hard you love a person, if she doesn't love you you have to let her go. What lesson have you learned from your past relationship?
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@Darkwing (21588)
6 Apr 09
You will still love them when they are gone... believe me! I've always lived by the rule that if you love somebody who doesn't love you, then you must let them go free, for if your love is meant to be, they will be back someday. They just have to realise that they love you more than their freedom. Brightest Blessings, my friend.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
29 Mar 12
I also think we should give freedom for someone who does not love us. I think it is better to love someone who really love us than someone who does not love us.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I am old so I have learned a lot of lessons along the way. One is the one you mentioned. I have learned to pay more attention to my own feelings. It's not only important how the other person feels about me...It is important how I really feel about them. I have learned to be more open and communicative in what is important to me rather than suck it up to keep peace. I have learned that speaking up before you blow up is what really keeps the peace. I have learned when to say "this is just not working for me" even at the risk of hurting someone which I hate to do. I found that such honesty maybe is difficult at first but in the end, is respected and most times we are still pretty good friends. I have learned that if you don't trust someone....you may as well move on. It doesn't matter if your doubts are real or imagined. If you don't trust the person, your very lack of trust will make the relationship intolerable for both of you eventually. If he hits you once...run for it will happen again and again and get worse and worse. The list is endless and useless because you can tell someone all that you know to be true but until they have experienced it for themselves....they are not going to listen. you live & you learn.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
1 Apr 12
I think experiences teaches lots of things in our life. I think sometimes we have to consider our feelings also.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I have learned to just let it go if it does not work out from the start. If they cheat, do not take them back. They will not change.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
22 Apr 12
I also think that most people does not change and while some people do changes.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
5 Apr 09
i learned there are alot worse things than living alone.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
20 Jun 12
I also think that are there are things we cannot change and we should try to do things we like in our lives. I think it is always about finding the right person in our lives and people who love us and we should spend time with people who love us and care us.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
5 Apr 09
Yes now that's the question. Really the past experiences really teach us a lot. But yes, it depends on how you look at it. I mean, like the case of the half-full glass or half-empty glass. I learnt that, there's nothing anything like love. It's only lust of the opposite member's body. And really really nothing. Because real love teaches us sacrifice. In this blink love we just want something from the others. So, better not to love and keep moving on.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
21 May 12
I also think that we have to see the life in more optimistic way and sometimes we see life as half glass empty and we do not see the half glass of water in it.
@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
i learn alot from my past. i learn to love my self first before anyone there. i learn to haved patience cause love can wait. i learn to forgive and to forget i learnt to trust him and love him. i learnt to love more my Family. I learnt to moving on and i learn my few activities which are good. I learn also not to make first move to a guy cause it's hurt if they used you only.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
7 May 12
I think you have a lot in life. I think patience is something we need in love.
• India
6 Apr 09
I had learned a lot from my past.. 1. Don't trust anyone blindly. 2. It's better to live alone. 3. If you are in love,then don't over expect from the other one, or it may cause a lot of pain
• Canada
6 Apr 09
One thing that I have learned is that I would rather be alone for all the right reasons than be in a relationship for all the wrong reasons. I've also learned, unfortunately, that when someone has a tendency to lie, they will always have that tendency. They might apologize but that apology will be pretty hollow. I've also learned that a selfish person, who puts their own satisfaction and needs before yours, is always going to do so... no matter how many times they say they will "try to change." I'm not saying this is an absolute truth for anyone else... just a reflection of what I have "learned" from past relationships.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
8 Sep 12
I think experience helps to do better in our lives.