Are guys attracted to "Bad Girls" like girls are to "Bad Boys"?

United States
April 5, 2009 3:02am CST
you always hear about how girls want the "bad boys" but yet a lot of the times people are negative towards the "Bad Girl" types and act as if some one is like that NO ONE would want them.. if girls are attracted to bad boys why wouldnt guys be attracted to bad girls? is it the whole double standard bs or are guys put off by the bad girls because they think they are a threat or something? ugh i hope i wrote this out correctly lol.. i know some peoples idea of the Bad boy/girl is probably different but i am not meaning like serial killer but just crazy/wild etc lol
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21 responses
• India
1 May 09
I think girls are considered to be good when they are beautiful, a bit shy and knows how to carry them self. All these things can be seen in "good girls" only, while a male to be considered attractive has to be strong and powerful and these qualities are best shown by "bad boys". It is the question of more attractiveness. In case of girls, good girls are attractive and in case of boys, bad boys are attractive.
@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
no. i guess this is not true for most guys as they like wife material ladies who is able to get around the house, cook, prepare.. and eventually become a good mom. he he he
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
6 Apr 09
I know what you mean and I think you are right. I work with this girl who is actually beautiful and most guys think is "hot". Now all of these guys will talk about her like she is a slt and all and yet any one of them will be right at her feet if she so much as glances their way. It is really pretty sad. she is also a friend of mine and I love her to pieces. I can't go so far as to call her a slt because what she really is is a beautiful girl who thinks she can't do any better or get any better. This weekend she had a date with a guy who actually did not try to jump into bed with her and treated her respectful. She doesn't know how to relate to him at all. she is out of her "comfort zone". She is actually getting treated with the respect that she deserves....that everyone deserves.
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• United States
6 Apr 09
i bet shes really shocked that some one respects her since a lot of guys dont seem to anymore
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
6 Apr 09
yep. She is all tongue tied and twisted. It's cute but I'm sure she'll do something dumb to destroy it & justify ending it. She doesn't feel she deserves anything this good.
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
I am pretty much intimidated with bad girls. It' just that we don't know what they are capable of doing. You know like when you're together and somebody bumped on her and she might react violently creating a little scandal. Bad girls are usually upfront and we'd be arguing all day. I have nothing against bad girls. For friends, no problem. I think it's fun but not the type i would want for a girlfriend.
• United States
5 Apr 09
interesting.. i was wondering if guys were intimidated by them or not.. and yeah i can see what you mean
@modstar (9612)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
Yeah lol! I'm a laid back and quiet person and a bad girl would really push me to the limit, something like living on the edge.
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@cupkitties (7372)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Must be a Nashville thing cause thats not what I've experience. I see guys all the time dating some female who is just a straight out b**ch to them and runs around cheating with every guy in the neighbor hood yets he stays with her because "I looove her" but if she was faithful and treated him the way he should be he would cheat and leave her in a heart beat. The nice guys go about whining "Girls always go for jerks.boo hoo" Well the girlst they are talking about are usually the bad girls. Thats more hypocrtical really than double standard.
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• United States
6 Apr 09
seems like a lot of the time the bad girls are dating people that dont really care about them so them cheating on them isnt a big deal (as in they both sleep around etc) to where i guess i dont hear anyone complain since they are doing the same thing...
@flyrock (58)
• China
6 Apr 09
To some point ,bad boys have more ideas than good boys,everyone want interesting life always,to some girl a funny toy is better than a dull toy,it's human nature,but for a long relationship,as for marriage ,a good boy may be better.
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• United States
6 Apr 09
it seems like a lot of women like bad boys but end up marrying good guys
@mhuy2x (47)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
It all depends on what type of girl/boy you want to go out with really. I know someone who likes to date a bad girl because he thinks that dating one is going to be a challenge and a lot fun.
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• United States
6 Apr 09
lol thats one way of looking at it
@uicbear (1903)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I have had experience with guys wanting the girl who didn't want them. So, I don't know if this would neccessarily be a "bad girl" type, or just a bad girl for them. I've always heard that guys want the bad girls before marriage and the good girls to settle down with. I think that's a bunch of garbage. I think everyone just wants someone that they can have fun with and laugh with, who they can talk to, who they can trust and feel safe with, and who believes in them. I've always wanted the good guy. I think it's because growing up, I hung out with the boys (I was a tomboy) so I never saw them as more powerful, or as the one to take charge. So if a guy ever treated me badly, or made me feel bad, I would break it off.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
i love how guys want to mess with one kind but take home to momma a different kind.. its so stupid
• United States
5 Apr 09
What i see in most guys is that they want a girl they can take home to mom, but yet keep in the bedroom. So if it obvious she is a bad girl, they cant really take them home to mom. It doesn't seem that girls have that same problem. We pick the guy and expect them to be liked because we picked them, bad boy or not. But then i am the one who goes for geeks instead of bad boys.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
it would be funny if parents were against geeks as much as badboys lol..
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
5 Apr 09
i know i am not attive to bad girls kind, never has been. my wife must like the bad boy type she married me. lol. but i think most female who like the bad boy type dont get alot of attiontion for a father figure or even a mother figure. my daughter had dated a few bad boys type that i just hated, but reminded me so much of myself growing up. thank god she pass the stage in her life.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
that could be true since it does fit a lot of people i know with the bad boy complex
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
5 Apr 09
it surely depends on the person, not everyone is attracted to bad girls just like not everyone is attracted to bad boys. but I heard it often about attraction to bad boys. I think guys don't want to admit attraction to bad girls, if they do have any. It could be guys pride or they just want a 'safe' relationship.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
yeah that could be it
@dany2391 (129)
• Romania
5 Apr 09
Bad girls are not my thing.I like a girl to be sweet and gentile.I don't mind a little craziness but only in a good way.Girls shouldn't be too good because guys would get bored with them.It's much different in the case of boys.I think being a bad boy makes a girl wonder weather she should be scared of you or not,and it gives you a little mystery because she never knows what to expect from a 'bad boy'.I don't think there is such thing as a good girl or boy.It's all just an act to be accepted by others and be cooler.
• United States
5 Apr 09
it seems like guys want to be able to bring home a sweet girl to the family where as girls seem to like what they like and catch hell from their family lol
@teeger (46)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
Good question. I've never thought of it that way. I like bad boy "looking" types. Maybe guys were just intimidated or can't handle bad girls.
• United States
5 Apr 09
or im thinking maybe they just dont admit it because they think they may be teased or something
• Indonesia
5 Apr 09
If you offer someone good contract and bad contract, which one they will choose? Logically they will go for good one. Point #1 Man work with logical mind so they will go with good one woman work with emotional mind so they will go with their emotion. I think this is always come to guys mind, "why she want to go with that jerk?" From logical road block, woman is insane :D I don't mean it in offensive tone, but that is the reality :D Point #2 woman see bad man need help, they want to convert this guy into a good guy, that is the nature of woman that I think play major role why woman like bad man. for man, I think they like feminine aspect and want to rule over the woman, "not being ruled" by the woman. maybe you are right about the threat aspect.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
that does make sense.. im sure some people wouldnt like it but typically it does seem tht women would be more apt due to the rescue aspect where as guys would think why bother with something difficult..
@zhpshql (695)
• China
5 Apr 09
Hi, so you girls like "bad boys", or just you call them bad boys. Iff they are really bad, will U like them?? Noone will like "bad girls", because they are bad.^^if I like a "bad girl" , it means only one thing, the "bad girl "is not bad.^^ Am I right??^^
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• United States
5 Apr 09
i think some bad boys/girls are more bad to the narrow minded or reserved people and wouldnt be to me but some would be to anyone. i think it just depends on the type.. if its just a adventurous person or if they mean really bad like a criminal.. etc
@magnel (2263)
• India
6 Apr 09
It all depends on what type of boy/girl you personally are. Because most of the time we tend to be with people of our type and they gel with each other well. But there are instances where some bad boys/girls get attracted to good boys/girls because of their behaviour and they change themselves just to be with those good ones.
@skyla26 (285)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
some people that they will like the bad boys or the bad girls..i think they felt that they are cool..
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
5 Apr 09
You are so right....there is a double standard here like there is in almost any "situation" that relates to this.....if a girl is bad they want to stay away or maybe do things with her behind closed doors but not out where anyone would know about it....at least that's what I see.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
I guess it would all come down to personal taste. There are men who like meek, timid girls. Probably to satisfy some desire to overpower someone. Other men like dominatrix like women who will walk all over you. It's all personal likes and dislikes.
@narayan2006 (2955)
• India
5 Apr 09
In the matter of choosing boys or girls for partners of love and friendship, one should keep in mind that " all that glitters are not gold". Physical appearance do not always reveal the nature and behavioral aspects of a person.It is wise to interact more deeply and intensively before jumping in to a relationship. Good or bad are relative terms. One must be very clear what one looks for while making a relationship. With open mind and positive attitude , it is possible to take matured and effective decisions. Thanks.
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