calling all friendly mylotters!

@berrys (865)
Singapore
April 5, 2009 6:00am CST
calling all friendly mylotters! I'm terribly depressed. Would any of you like to help cheer me up? Here's the situation: last Friday at exactly 11.45pm I felt as if my heart got ripped out and taken away. My boyfriend of six months went on a 15 day trip back to his home town to celebrate easter with his family. Yeah it was nice to spend the entire Friday with him, cuddling and all. We almost forgot that we were going to be apart for 15 days. He said some things that made me gushed and felt all warm inside. but when 11.45pm came, our hearts which was filled wit joy suddenly fell out. It hit me, his leaving =( I wont be able to see him, call him or cuddle with him. He told me how much I meant to him. and even with technology's advances I won't be able to contact him, in my home town, my parents do not like the internet. and so have vowed never to own it. the only form o communication in that house is a house phone, one with a limit! so fellow mylotters can you help cheer me up? and gosh I'm going to go back home on Monday at noon. so I have till then to read your wonderful post. tell me a joke? share a funny story? or a time where you went through something similar? help!
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18 responses
• United States
5 Apr 09
Long distance relationships combined with old-fashioned parents is NO fun. Trust me, I know that much first hand LOL I hope you find some ways in which to pass the time. If you keep busy, the time will definitely go a lot faster. Good luck and happy Easter :D
@berrys (865)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
Happy easter to you too!
@uicbear (1903)
• United States
5 Apr 09
It's two weeks. That's all, two weeks. I believe anyone can deal with any type of circumstance for a temporary period of time, and this is only two weeks. You are going to be fine. Call up some friends and hang out with them. Go and buy a couple good books or check a couple books out from a libray. Rent some funny movies. Start a new exercise program. Do some things you like to do. Relationships are wonderful, and being in love is a great way to be, but you have to be ok by yourself too. You should be happy in that you know you are loved and you know he's coming back in two weeks. Just think about how nice the reunion is going to be.
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@berrys (865)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
my gosh after reading your response i feel so positive, your right I should hit the gym and shed the weight, look even better for when he does return! two weeks seems much easier to hear then fifteen days. just 2 weeks. THANKS
• India
5 Apr 09
hi lotter i am touched to see your love ,can any joke ,funny story or anything else make you happy now ,i dont think so.So you betterremeber the good times you both spent together ,thats the best way to cheer up for you i guess , be happy always .:)keep smiling
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@berrys (865)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
now this is what you call SWEET advice. thank you!
@Wizzywig (7859)
5 Apr 09
I have been through 'long-distance' relationships where our only contact for weeks at a time was by letter. With hindsight, I would have used that time to pursue my own interests to become a more complete person in my own right. I know it seems a terrible time when you just want to sit and be sad but, it just makes the time go slower. Try to enjoy the company of the people you will be with. I wish you happiness.
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@berrys (865)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
you know i feel your kinda right in a way. I should take this time to appreciate others in my life. catch up with others and all. Thanks a lot!
@max1950 (2313)
• United States
5 Apr 09
tell me what you want to say to him here and i'll email him for you, hows that ??
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@berrys (865)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
lol what a nice gesture but i think i wanna try the snail mail. it seems quite romantic in a way
@athinapie (1152)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
Hi there! I am really sorry to hear that. I understand how you feel. I don't know how to cheer you up though but I could suggest a few things you could do to keep yourself busy so that you won't be sad. Like you could maybe write a letter everyday to your boyfriend by telling him that you miss him. But don't mail it to him immediately. Just keep it and give it all to him when he returns. That way, he would know that even though you were apart, you never forgot about him. Hope that helped.
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@berrys (865)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
thanks for your suggestion. that is a really good idea
@Emceeric (70)
• United States
7 Apr 09
Hello berry, How are you today? Hope you are doing great. If you are bored,you only need pen and paper.Make a diary,write your daily feelings you have felt without him and don't forget to write the date on it so that way when he gets back you can read it to him.Go to the mall,buy something nice for you or just window shopping or lookin around.Watch comedy shows in theater or tv and read some love story pocket book,I think that's romantic that what I did before. Hope that helps..cheer up pretty girl!
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@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Personally in a situation like this, it is really up to you. You need to find ways to think Happy thoughts, and find things to concentrate on to keep you busy and take your time from thinking about him. 15 days is not really a long time. It is just enough time maybe for both of you to really think, and allow your feelings to grow stronger for each other as well. Find a Good Book to read or take up a craft or something, and next thing you know you will be back together again and it will be better for you as well.
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@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
5 Apr 09
awww..I'm sorry you have to be apart from your lover for 15 days, that's really long to me. I get the feeling so well, my boyfriend had been away almost that long too. Well, we tried our best to keep in contact and i know your situation doesn't allow it but i'm sure your boyfriend knows deeply how much you'll miss him and i'm sure you know he'll miss you too. But the amazing thing about being away from each other is that your hearts will grow fonder of each other, i am sure of that :D So you see, it isn't that bad? Your love for each other will gorw even stronger. So cheer up and look forward to his return and plan something great for him when he gets back. :D Take care dear.
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@rakesh284 (1473)
• India
5 Apr 09
Well I think it happens in love. You should be happy that he is caring a lot about you. You should remember all the precious moments you spend with him. More than any joke or funny things, I think these things will make you happy. You can remember all the sweet moments. How did you meet first time? Some moments when he made you laugh! etc. I think this will definitely help you out to be happy in his memories.
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
I am also sad about your story but don't worry too much just think that two weeks is short so that you won't get depressed and you will be busy by this time.
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• Tunisia
5 Apr 09
Keep yourself busy to avoid vbeing depressed, and specially don't smoke, because that will increase depression!
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@Gladys22 (416)
• Philippines
5 Apr 09
don't bothered it. Pray to god about that matters. only your self can solve it. and people and friends are one of key for you to make you feel good.
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@forslahiri (1042)
• India
5 Apr 09
Hi, It's Ur TEST.Test of Depth of Ur Love/Relationship. 15days will deepen that Love. Wait for his call in House Phone. In the meantime,scribble down Ur every moment's feeling without Him. Let him return,U also spend Ur time with Ur Family-members.Don't email/write letters. Jotdown all the experience/thought U'll have,present Him as the GIFT on return. Quite extra-ordinary but it will be appreciated.U will be a sure Winner,in his eyes. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
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@dsrtrose (166)
• United States
6 Apr 09
Just remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder and how much more " lovin" you will get when he returns.!!! Should be GREAT!! Start planning now something special for that time, it will give u something to focus on and end up with a very "special" return for both of you!
6 Apr 09
i guess you should do something to make your own day happy go out and have fun and don't worried about your boyfriend he is a sad case he only cares about himself as for me i am not that desperate in having a boyfriend they are so controlling and they are so useless
@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
6 Apr 09
Hi berrys! I know it will be hard since you always seems to be together but just take it as a challenge. You will miss each other more and once you see each other again it will feel really wonderful, it will feel like you haven't seen each other for a year =) For sure you will cuddle more that day and will exchange sweet messages. For now just think of what you will prepare for him once he comes back, like preparing a great dinner. It will be alright, just keep yourself busy for now.
@marciascott (25554)
• United States
6 Apr 09
cheer up he will be back, do you all plan on getting married? Sounds like you really love him, when he comes back surprise him with a nice dinner. Give him hugs and Kisses and tell him how mch you love him. have a nice week!