Steve harvey's 5 Questions

United States
April 5, 2009 10:54am CST
Steve Harvey was on both Oprah and Tyra talking about his new book and he has 5 questions a woman should ask on the first date.Here they are: What are yoir short term goals? what are your long term goals? How is your relationship with your family? Your children? What are your spiritual beliefs? What do you think of me? and a day later? What do you feel about me? when I first heard these I thought,this the reason I don't date. But then I thought, I should gfive up my woman membership because I don't care about any man's answer to any of these questions. Short term or long term , I don't care what his goals are. If they are really his passion, he will tell me, I won't have to ask. If it is a dream, he will describe what he wants. Spiritual beliegfs? Steve said on the one of the shows that if he doesn't go to church, he isn't the right man. Well, I am not Christian, And your religion is a choice, I don't want a man trying to appease me by saying he wants to follow my teligion just to be with me. And steve implied that if the man is a athesist , he is immmoral, Wrong! That's why I rwouldn't discuss religion, period.There too many immoral Christians and moral non christian s for that to be the judge. As for the other two, As long as I am being treated the way I want, then I will know the answers,If I feel respected, that's everything. If a date Has to be a quick quiz, then I am not going.I can have a great time getting to know a guy Without knowing what he does for a living, unless it is his passion, what relugion he practices , or if he speaks to his mother. I reallt don't care. my questions were more important and they aren't a major quiz. During the course of the date, I will probably ask about yhis faveorite sport, your faveorite team, favorite movie and what you like to do when you have some fre time.And what you just can;t stand, what reallt turns you off. i can get a feel for who yu are from these answers.
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@neha2k94u (408)
• India
5 Apr 09
Even I feel asking about short term or long term goals seems as if he is giving some interview, I think I would have asked about what he does in his spare time, whether he would like what usually I love to do, like singing with open throat, or dancing and everything else and not the stuff that you just discussed above...
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• United States
5 Apr 09
I agree.If a gguy and I can find a shared interest, that is the best ice breaker and even if we can't be lovers then we can be friends.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
12 Apr 09
I don't like a first date to be like an exam in school or an interview for a job, it should be spontaneous, that is where you find out if there is any connection with the person or not. answering questions is too sterile unless in the course of the normal conversation a question or clarifying should come up, like oh you like paintings too, do you paint yourself or do you just look and appreciate the works of others? it is light and breezy and it gives you some information about the person without feeling like he is being grilled.
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• United States
12 Apr 09
When I satd I really didn't care about a guy'ds answers , I really meant it. I could be with a guy for years and Never ask him any of these questions.the only important questions are , what is you favorite movie and do you like hockey?
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
13 Apr 09
well that is sad if all one knows about the guy is what is their favourite movie or favourite hockey team, but they can be good questions for a first date and you were talking about a first date. nobody wants to feel like they are being interrogated by the FBI, so that is why I say not on a first date unless it just comes naturally, sometimes it does, there are several dates before a person makes a decision of if this person is for them or not, if the initial get along was present on the first date. for me I needed to know if the guy was racist, because that is the biggest turn off for me, you can find that out indirectly through a conversation without coming right out and asking, things like, I read today in the paper that poverty is up in the black communities, and you get an answer like those lazy blacks, wouldn't know a hard days work all they want is handouts. that tells me what I want to know. I will also need to know what kind of dater is this person, a conversation about dating can reveal this a person that says I date but I will never settle down is out for me, I need a person to say I am looking for the woman I will spend my life with, he doesn't have to say it is me because he doesn't know me yet, but he has to want the same thing that I want.
@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
5 Apr 09
Hi. I wish no girl follow the Steve's way and if those are the talks you are going to have with your date then you surely will enjoy the talks. There is no point is looking for the answers to those questions listed above.
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• United States
5 Apr 09
I agree.I don't need the answers.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
5 Apr 09
Well....I don't think I would ever go on a date and ask questions like that either! I think that's about the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Yes...you want to get to know someone but on the first date? Who cares? I want to get to know him a little bit at a time....and if he is a good man I'll make the decision! What a crock!
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