Getting to the Top.
April 5, 2009 6:50pm CST
In life we have to climb to where we want to go and we cannot get there by climbing over others, although some try but are never happy and have to keep watching their back. Rather we get there by climbing with others, side by side, and even pulling some others up with us. Are you willing to do that? If you are, you may get to that high place, and others will be happy that you're there - and that my friend is exactly what will keep you there. Comments please.
7 Apr 09
I am not sure. For one, do you really think that ‘we cannot get there by climbing over others’…I have seen so many people who trample others on their way, right there at the pinnacle of whatever they wanted. I will not talk about happiness coz I have never reached the top, I have always been on the sidewalk, I have never been able to keep pace…so I don’t really know whether it’s a happy feeling or a sad one to have reached the top! Maybe like sour grapes I can say that its not all that a clear conscience once you reach up there but do I know the feeling? NO. on the other hand I see people (my friends at school and colleges, colleagues in office) who have really made a huge success of themselves…should I dishonour their achievement by saying they trampled a few weaklings like myself on their journey? And about their longevity…well they are all the masters of the game and surviving alright…clawing each other and then applying the balm too…but clawing for sure, no charity there. Life for me is over…at 36 I have it chalked out OK and resigned to whatever I am. Now my thoughts to you are should I teach my son compassion or clawing? He is only 9 and quite ‘compassionate’ if I may say so, or rather ‘stupid’ as per my assessment (as stupid as I exactly was in my time, always putting ‘friends’ before self and so on)…so should I let him as he is and learn by mistakes or should I try and mould him after the go-getters?
7 Apr 09
Hi sudiptacallingu, Thank you very much for responding as you have to this discussion. You have made your point very clear and I don't know your circumstances, but for most people life should not be over at 36. Thank you too for being so honest in expressing your opinion, so I hope that you will also consider mine. I will be 70 years old this year and my youngest son will be 36. I have never been at the top of any organization but have watched others move up. Some sadly did so by pushing others down, and I know that they are not happy despite their high position. Others has risen through the ranks while helping others at the same time, and many have remained friends despite the fact that one may have a better position than another. I didn't rise to the top because I did not have the qualifications, but that didn't mean that I could not be happy for others. I did not let others walk over me, nor did I walk over others, but did my work honestly and well and today I am happy and have many friends. Isn't that what life is all about? Getting to the top is fine if you are the best person for the position, after all someone has to be there. How you raise your son is your business but I know that you want to see him happy, whatever his position in life. Money and prestige isn't everything in life. Whatever he chooses to do in life, I hope that he finds real and lasting happiness. Remember too that a go-getter doesn't have to trample over others. Blessings.
6 Apr 09
absolutly right thinking of our own back people try to stop us to go high.but climb and pull them up besides is main funda to be a good achiever in life.by this there will not be pain of leaving our dearones and also we will get climb. am i right
5 Apr 09
As a child, I was never taught to have a competitive spirit. I guess some see that as a good thing and some see it as bad. All I know is that I would never want to step on anyone to make it to the top. I feel that there is plenty room at the top for everyone.