why is it that the one's you love the most are the one's that hurt you

Philippines
April 6, 2009 4:06pm CST
why! oh why does it always happen this way,you love someone a girlfriend a son a daughter a brother, sister doesnt matter they always end up hurting you and you know why, because in life you can't win because the world is being run by the man, and you know what hurts the most is that, like, in my case i lost the one i love she replaced me for someone who has more money and more stored fats, anyways
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6 responses
• United States
7 Apr 09
that's life. People can choose to hurt you, but it's up to you if you want to hurt them back. =)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
paybacks a b-i-t-c-h aint it, lol well thought about it, and it is not worth it
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
It happens all the time and it seems that hurting other people is the common past time of others who are insensitive and idiot. I believe that when you love someone you cannot afford to hurt him or her, because genuine love supposed to be unconditional and does not inflict you harm, so meaning if that person keeps hurting you that means he or she didn't love you that much. ouch!
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
i'm sorry to disagree but i think that if you love someone you should be ready to hurt them in order for them to have a better life or be happy what good is love if you have no food on the table or if you know that she would just be miserable unselfish love means if you love someone you should be willing not just to give her what she wants but most importantly what is best for her or him, but it is painful really kills me each night thinking that someone else is hugging her and everything but it is what it is
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
6 Apr 09
i wonder that myself. it's always the person you love that hurts you the most... love is powerful... i am still finding that out. it's killing. but sometimes things happen for a reason... you will find someone new. if she replaced you for someone who has more money then she's not really worth it. she should love you for you and not how much money you have.. money can't buy love.
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
apparently it could by the persons happiness and you almost alway tnd to love the ones who can give your happiness. i dont get it why is it that everyone now a days feel like love is just a game and what hurts me is that you dont get that person out of your head it's like cancer you die slowly to become a new person you dont lose someone at once you lose them in pieces, am i right?
• Canada
6 Apr 09
Because when you don't care about someone, the choices they make don't have as much of an impact on you. If someone you care about makes choices, they are more likely to impact you, because this person is a bigger part of your life. If you don't want to get hurt by anyone ever, you would have to care about no one.
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
there's a thought, i doubt that it is possible though
@chiyosan (30204)
• Philippines
16 Apr 09
it is true what they say, when you love someone, you are giving them the power to hurt you.. and that is why we always feel the ones we love are the ones who hurt us... because in real sense, if someone we dont care about does something, we couldn't even care less what they did right?
• Singapore
7 Apr 09
I think it's because we tend to feel more transparent to the ones we love, like they can see us for who we really are. When we love them, we also tend to place expectations on how we expect to be loved in return and when our expectations are not met, that's when we feel disappointment, etc. IMO, I think when we are able to love without expectations, that's when we will be much stronger? Like we will be less affected by their actions? You say the one you love left you for someone richer? Not to be mean, but by leaving you for money, doesn't that show that she's not worthy of your love in the first place? You will be much better off without her.