What will you do if you found out that you're an adopted child?
April 6, 2009 11:57pm CST
You are having a beautiful and peaceful life with your parents then one day a couple showed up and approached you. They say that you're their child and how sorry they are for giving you away.Then, they want you back to be with them again. What will you do?
7 Apr 09
I think there is nothing wrong if ever I found out that I am just an adopted child of my parents. In the first place I should be grateful to my original parents because they didn't think of killing me when I was young. Though, I will ask them why they do it to me, because as their child I have the rights to know the reason behind. As for you, you have to be thankful to them also because if not for them you're not alive, if not for what they've done you don't experience the life you have right now. You should be happy because you have two pairs of parents. Forgive them for what they've done to you. Be happy :)
8 Apr 09
^_^ I'm not an adopted child. I just want to know if that's the case what will I do and what will you do if you're in that situation(comparison.) That's all. And...correct you should ask them why did they leave you. Anyways thanks for the good answer ^_-
8 Apr 09
Excuse me, why should I be thankful to my Biological mother??? Just because she was screwing around and had not taken responsibility for her actions??? I am sorry, I am not grateful. Many times I wished she would have killed me! Being adopted is not easy all the time. Sometimes you feel left out. You can not explain why. But somehow I have always felt different. That has not always been easy. And now I should be thankful??? I am thankful to my adopted parents for putting up with me and loving me as there own. They are the ones I am thankful too. I don't mean to be rude, this is just very sensitive to me. Take care.
7 Apr 09
I would say you become parents by the love and understanding you give a child and not b ecause of your biology. If I knew I was adopted, Id not feel bad. I have had a loving relationship with my parents and if two people out of nowhere come and say they are my biological parents, id say hi, nice knowing you and thats it. Id love my adopted parents more for taking me in when I needed them the most.
7 Apr 09
I am done with studies already and working in my own. If they are going to say that to me at this moment, well, I guess they just shoot me at the right time. There's nothing wrong with telling the truth. Thus, the next thing to do for me is to look for my real family, if ever they are still existing. I am still thankful to them for giving me life and everything that I need during the time i stay with them.
7 Apr 09
I know of a REAL case. A family had three daughters and they wanted to have a son. They adopted male child as their son. The adopting-family had a lot of money and property. And in the mean time the male child became quite young - 15 yrs. At this stage intention of the husband-wife who adopted the child, changed. Thinking that he will become owner of the property, they start abusing the child, and ultimately shunted him out of home. The boy had to take solace with his real parents back after fifteen years who had to face great difficulty in adjusting himself with his real brothes and sisters. God bless him, now he is well settled and doing fine business.
7 Apr 09
I will accept the fact that they are my biological parents but i will never leave the parents i grew up with. They were the one who raised me and worked hard just to feed me and send me school, i guess it'll be unfair for them to just leave them and sure it'll be hard.
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7 Apr 09
Thank my wonderful mother for taking care of me so well and teaching me so much about life even though I'm not one of her own. Being adopted wouldn't change me one bit because I was raised by an amazing woman that I call my mother. She is the one I love and I just want to be able to make her proud and hopefully someday treat her as well as she has treated me. I really just want to be able to give her the world.
7 Apr 09
The first thing I will do is to ask my parents, the ones who brought me up, if they really adopted me. If they say yes, then I would be really grateful to them and I would like to live with them forever, but if they want me to go with my real parents, I will honor their wish and go to live with my real parents.
15 Apr 09
I wouldn't really mind if I found out that I am adopted in your given scenario. Like you said, I have a beautiful life with my foster parents and I am thankful that they were willing to give me a good life even if I am not really their child. About my real parents, well, my real mom just gave birth to me but she doesn't know me because she was not the one who raised me up, I don't know her either so I guess it would be pretty hard for them to all of a sudden try to convince me to go with them and leave my foster parents who took care of me and loved me all this time
12 Apr 09
I think i would be kind of mad at first but eventually i would exept. For me parents are those that spend their whole life with us and that love us, not strangers that show up and say that they're sorry and want me back. I would accept but stay with my family.
8 Apr 09
I am adopted, and my (adopted)parents told me when I was 9 years old. I wish they had'nt. But on the other hand, I did not have people come to me and surprise me. I think that would be terrible! You think you are a natural child and someone comes and Tell's you you've been adopted by the people you call Mom and Dad. I think that would be very confusing! Want me back? NO WAY!!!! I believe the people that raise you, are your real parents. They wanted you before anyone else. I love my parents, the ones who adopted me I mean. Sure we have our differences, but I have meet with my biological family too. I cannot get a long with my biological mother. And the rest of the family is just not my family. I don't fit in with my biological family. Actually I don't really fit in anywhere! But I fit more by the Mom and Dad who raised me. They did there best and still do. I love them dearly! Take care, have a nice day!
9 Apr 09
So you are adopted. Anyways, you are still lucky for having a parents(the one who adopted you) like them. They treated you like their own child. I guess they just tell you that fact because they believe you need to know about it. So in the end you'll never blame them for not telling you. ^_^ Have a nice day.