Is kind hearted teasing good for you?
April 7, 2009 10:16am CST
I want to thank both a rerun of the View and my friens Karl for the idea for this post. Is teasing that isn't mean good for you? For me a tease is a tease, if you tease me I assume you want to hurt me and I will Never forget it , ever, and I will wish you ill for the rest of your life ,How about you?
13 Apr 09
there is a difference between teasing and taunting, taunting is meant to be hurtful, teasing is meant to be lighthearted, and if the person gets upset a simple I was just teasing you know I don't mean it makes it all go away, taunting doesn't go away it is meant to be hateful, like calling a fat person piggy when you know they are sensitive about their weight, that is meant to hurt, but calling a skinny person piggy when they ate a lot may not be, especially if the skinny person rarely eats a lot. They understand the comment has no basis in reality. sara if you take everything to heart that people say and people will say dumb things at times, you will be miserable, if you let the minor teases blow off and even laugh about them you will be much happier as a person.
• United States
13 Apr 09
I do take everything that is said to me to heart and I wouldn't have it any other way. Not only do I take it to heart, I have a great memory and I am patient enoughh to wait for the perfect revenge. These days dimissing the person and never talking to them is best.To me a tease Is a taunt. If I Had to laugh it off and not seek my revenge I would be miserable. I am just nice until it is time not to be nice. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
• United Kingdom
9 Apr 09
It depends on the spirit. I love sincerity, and tend to be that way alot of the time. Harmless playfulness though is fine: once some trust is there I mean. I also think it's OK to gently reproach friends and loved ones even with some humour; again the spirit should be gentle and affectionate, and this should be made very clear. Friendships are valuable; and teasing should be used very sparingly...if at all.
27 Sep 09
I think that only the closest of friends can really tease eachother, and get away with it. There is a bus driver in town I like to "flirt" with (good looking guy with a Serbian accent) I get on the bus and ask "how's the best looking driver in town?" We oke around like that. He knows I'm married, I know he's married... My husband thinks it's just plan funny, the two of us. And notice I said "best looking driver in town?" My husband does not drive because he is legally blind, like I am. I could ask how the best looking construction worker, etc. in town is, and that's still not threatening, because my husband is not a construction worker, for example. As long as it is teasing to the person teasing, and to the one being teased, then it is OK, but if there is adoubt in one person's mind about the intent of the activity, or how they interpret it, then it is not right.