what will you do if your sister in law hates you so much?

@aileen18 (170)
Philippines
April 7, 2009 10:20am CST
my sister in law hates us for what reason???? that we don't know, maybe she doesn't like a happy family like us coz she comes from a broken family. they moved out without even telling us where will they live. she doesn't want my niece to be closer to us...as if we'd care. i don't understand why she's so angry with us, were not doing anything wrong for her to be angry.
5 responses
@VANILLAREY (1473)
• India
7 Apr 09
Ask your husband to talk to her alone. It would be better for him to ask the reason for her anger. If she tells him the reason then you or your husband can try to resolve the matter. Otherwise just forget it. Just pretend like she is not angry with either of you, if you want to play it safe. Just because someone hates you does not mean you have to waste your time hating them.
@aileen18 (170)
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
acutally she's my brother's wife and sad to say that my brother wanted to stay married to her just because he doesn't want my niece to have a broken family too. so sad..but that's their life and now were just focusing on our own life too. we've try our best to work it out and still nothing happened, she didn't change a bit. for us, hating her is just a history, somehow were used to that kind of situation.
@max1950 (2313)
• United States
7 Apr 09
i agree with grace, walk right up and say hey whats up, whats going on ???? and you know what we have the same problem with my friends mother, she's just a miserable person, never wants to go out to lunch or dinner but complains when we do, ya know what we tried for 11 years and shes still just miserable as ever, she's in her own little world and thats fine with us. you and your family "come first" period, never forget that !!!!! alot of people come from broken families nowaday's and if they dont want to be part of one, screw em.
@aileen18 (170)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
yeah, i guess you're right. if she doesn't like us then it's fine, after all she is the one who has a problem to herself and not us. thanks for responding!
@grace24 (1050)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
it either you will mind her or you will make a move. If you want her to be nice with you, umm..why don't you ask her on why she is acting like that? ask her the real reason on why she is treating you like that.
@aileen18 (170)
• Philippines
7 Apr 09
uhm..we've done those things before and nothing happened. she's still the same, confusing isn't it? thanks for responding!
• India
7 Apr 09
First, I try to find out the situation why she hate me and then I try to resolve this issue personally. If still I face this problem, then I leave this situation and go ahead for another relationship.
@kitli29 (32)
• Portugal
7 Apr 09
Hi! I have to say, if she hates me, I will try to find the reason of the problem, maybe if it is something that can be solved, I will help her. If it is something that can't be solved, so no more talking is needed, since the meeting will not occour anytime soon. One more chance can be given, if you really like her, one shot is what you need to offer and probably you get lucky.