how to change a persons mind?

@amitam (80)
India
April 7, 2009 1:21pm CST
I came across many people and I found it's hard to change their mind ,attitude towards a particular thing.Sometimes I feel it's sheer waste of time to inspire someone by preaching.Like, teacher forces the students to study but only the self motivated students study rest act on their own conclusions.What do you guys think about it? Did you find difficult to inspire someone
5 responses
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
15 Apr 09
how to change someone's mind. I think that you have to have a certain knack in order to be able to do this. Not everyone has it.... Have you ever tried to barter with someone over price? Not very easy to do if they have their minds made up but still alot of folks have the knack to be able to talk a snake out of his very skin....... Alot of times if you can share a few facts with people and give them just enough information so that they can make a informed, intelligent decision they will be willing to change their minds. I find that I'm pretty good at inspiring most people......but with family members it's a bit more difficult b/c sometimes they are just plain old stubborn and convinced that they are doing the right thing that works for them...... It's only when they find out that something isn't working that they might be willing to settle down and listen to what you have to say. You should read How to win friends and influence people by Napolean Hill....... It's a very good book and teaches you everything you will need to know on how to change someone's mind.
@amitam (80)
• India
19 Apr 09
thanks a lot
@bird123 (10481)
• United States
12 Apr 09
Ah yes, I can see you have the same problem most people do. Perhaps, I can say a few words that will CHANGE YOU!!! When changing someone, most people want instant gratification. This rarely happens. People also want the GLORY of having changed someone. This too is a mistake.Patience is the key to changing someone. When I see someone that I feel needs to change, I work on them. Everytime I see them, I point them in the right direction and move on. I do not need the glory for changing them. I know someone else in their life might be the one to tip the scalesTHAT'S OK! What actually happens is that in time after pointing them in the right direction so many times they do change.They come to you changed but they always think it was their idea not yours.Funny how things work. Remember, leave hatred behind. Give a loving point in the right direction. Be patient! It works!
@amitam (80)
• India
12 Apr 09
Those people who want instant gratification are often egoistic,they try to impose their feelings on others and that never works.Well i don't have any obsession to change persons mind,i usually give my advice if asked and i forget.It's up to them whether they follow it or not.
@rashmii (10)
• India
8 Apr 09
Hi! there i also came across people who can't change themselves nor others . i think u should change ur self than u can change others that the true fact of life! we must not think of others every time . we must give some space to others also that whatm should they must do in thier life after all its thier dicussion and every body hve there own life.
@amitam (80)
• India
8 Apr 09
Actually my question is how to inspire others, how to make them to work.Simply saying change yourself doesn't work.And most of us are busy with their own life.Ask yourself how many times you think about others in a day.
• India
7 Apr 09
it is not so easy to change a person , who is not willing to change himself. most of the people like parents,teachers,frends,and many more think that they can forse someone to do his or her work , but this is absolutely wrong . people dont understand that to change others they have to change them self. the world is like matrix , i mean that u can not bend the world , but u can bend ur self so that u can make the world bend. people r just like a code , they behave in the manner in wht u behave with them . so the only thing i can say is , change ur self to change others.try it , i do it this way to make people go in the right direction.i show them both the sides of life and let them chose which one they want to go . becaz the final dissision is once own.
@amitam (80)
• India
8 Apr 09
Can you give a example?how did you do that.My kid brother is not focusing on studies and he is preparing for JEE.How would you incentivise him?
• India
7 Apr 09
"You can lead a horse to water,You can lead a horse to water" .So unless the person is really willing to change himself it is impossible for you to change him.
@amitam (80)
• India
8 Apr 09
That's very true deepika