Think you might have chosen the wrong path in life?

I would encourage you to pursue your dream whilst you can - don't be tied to a mortgage and a career that you don't want. We had a child five years ago and for nearly a year, my wife continued to work (part-time) but it made her unhappy. We did the calculations and realised that if we were very careful, we could survive on one income. No frills, we don't get holidays or eat out or even get take-aways, but we are a happy family. You are still young and are in a position to make choices - ask your husband if you can talk to him about your career and let him know how you feel - you need to tackle these issues as a couple. I can promise you that if you do have a family, then any career will seem like a very poor second best to Motherhood - if you can find a way to survive on one income or one plus part-time, then you will be set up to become a family - if not, then you need to really think about your goals as a couple.

Well, if you think that you are not satisfied with what you are doing right now, I guess it would be time to think of other options. There is no stopping you from doing such. The important thing is you have to let your hubby understand the situation and have his support. You will always be successful as long as you have the heart and mind to do it. Best to you and may you have the best in life.

It sounds like your restless. Sometimes ppl get stuck in a rut and wonder what lies over the next field. Even if they have a comfortable lifestyle they still dream of something different just to break the pattern. Since you say changing careers isn't a choice right now, perhaps you can look into taking some classes to learn a new hobby. Maybe some woodworking classes, painting classes, sewing, quilting, anything that holds your interest. When things get better and you can look at a career change then sit down and think it over. You might even find a new career in one of your hobbies. As always though, don't forget to count the blessings you already have. Many ppl would be thrilled to have a job, a nice house, a great spouse and 3 wonderful pets :) [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

Hello cobra. I am happy that I have chosen the right path in life. When I was college, my major was teaching education. After graduation I started to be engaged in teaching and I have been teaching ever since. I love my teaching job and I am also very happy that I have a considerate and caring wife with two kids. I am satisfied with my life. Take care, friend.

I think a lot of people end up feeling this this. They think one thing will suit them forever and it most often doesn't. I find it bizarre that the world has us decide what we want to be in our teens as most of us develop into very different people when we get into our twenties and beyond. Maybe you could look into courses you can do from home? Try and get in touch with people who do what you'd like to do and ask them what options there are for people wanting to get into their field. I'm sure you'll find people who are willing to advise and help you. Good luck, I hope you can find happiness!

I don't know the true answer for you, but I can say that if you believe your passion is elsewhere, in order to pursue it you may have to make some tough choices. You mention you would not be making as much as you are now, but most people who start over in a different career path don't start very high. This may mean you have to make some standard of living changes in order to lessen your financial burden. I know this can be done because I went from making approx $50,000 yearly as a single person for several years to where I am now at zero income and I am surviving quite well. I did not intend to be where I am but once it happened to me I was able to see and utilize other opportunities I would have never looked for had I not lost my income. For years I slaved at a job that stressed me out so bad because I was afraid of losing my income, only to lose it anyway (due to health and other issues)and I am doing much better than I ever expected. Don't be afraid to pursue your passion and even though you don't know how it will all work out. The universe is wonderful at supplying us with what we need. Don't let your fear of losing income enslave you. You will not sink. Children are wonderful to have and if that is what you are missing you have to find a way to make it happen....just ask him for a few minutes of his time:) The bottom line is if you are unhappy that is a sign you need to so something different.

I am probably in the same situation. Three years ago, I was petitioned by my father to go here in US. Everybody way back in my own country says that I'm lucky to be here. I don't feel that I am but I'm thankful cause one thing I learned, I will never be happy if I don't follow what I really want. So right now, I'm trying to hold on where I am, I'm trying to learn everything that I could learn, while I'm making my move, and planning my way to the path where I really wanna be, which is to go back home. Life is short not to enjoy it. It's either we'll teach ourselves to love what we have right now or do something to go to that path where you really wanna be! Goodluck Cobra and Happy Mylotting! =)

i think most people feel like this from time to time. its a form of depression over the economy, not feeling fulfilled in our jobs and/or not having one for some, or as in your case a longing to procreate.just hold on to your dream and try not to get to frustrated and impatient.

I know what you mean. I am 27, and I am nowhere near where I thought I would be in life. I just this past week started college, and I am obtaining a degree in Child Development. I though I would be well out of college with a degree, and already starting a daycare center, or something similar by now. Now it looks like that won't happen for atleast another 5 years. I also hope to be married with a couple kids by this age, but I am not even getting married until next Spring, and I have no children yet. I am happy that I am finally getting there, but it took me forever to get going, and motivate myself to do so. If you are truly not happy, I suggest you look into what other career options you have with your current degree. If you don't like those career choices, then I guess seek out another degree plan for yourself.

Hi Cabra 1368, Yes, i did have the same feeling like time once in a while. It's just like everything is perfect and everything is not perfect, things are conflict! I think you need to cool yourself down, life is too smooth for you. What about think of some of your friends who is suffering for life? Does that make you start thinking you should treasure what you've have? Be happy!

sometime im wondering also that if iam walking in wrong pathway in life because for now i feel im so naughty, easily angry to others but sometimes i think its just a pressure in life or circumtances

im a BMS student of commerce. i just took this stream just because my friends went in for it. but now i realized that it wasn't for me. my interest is something else and not what im doing right now. i have done a great mistake by flowing towards the stream.

I think perhaps you haven't found the true calling in your heart. All you have done looks reasonalbe, family, work, etc. Maybe it's the common value of the majority of the society, but not yours. I suggest you look for some consulting of career choosing.

I think daily about choosing the wrong path in life. And yet i carry on making the wrong choices (I suffer from several addictions and depression). It is very hard to find the right way in life when the darkness is blinding your eyes.

I spent so many years working for the US Postal Service, but most of the time i did not feel that my job was very fulfilling. I stayed with my job because of the money I was making at the time. I am now retired and wish that I had done something more useful in life, life being a Christian misister. I would suggest that happiness is more important in life than money. I think you might find life more fulfilling for you to just stay at home and to be a good mother. Something might happen to you (car wreck or something) where you will not be able to have children. Go ahead and have the children now and teach them to become good Christians in life.

I am inclined to think that I have been led to where I am now by forces which I do not fully understand. I feel like being swept in some kind of flow or current. I would like a little more control over my life, if I could. Cheers!!!

yes i also feel that way because i dont know what else is missing in my life.i have two kids that makes me feel that i still want to go on with my life.but there are times that i feel alone and sad.i have a husband but our relationship is not so good and happy.i love him but i dont feel happy and i feel that theres something missing.i feel that there is something wrong and theres a missing part that is missing in my life but i dont know what it is.i want to be happy and thats what i always dreamed of eversince i was a kid.i came from a broken family and my grandma is the only person who's always beside me because my parents already have their own family and i was left with my grandma.i know that i have two kids now but i still feel unhappy and i feel that im still alone maybe its because i have a problem with my hubby.i want to change my life and move on but i dont know how to start.

I've been told to do things that i'm fond of and now i've the importance of it.Every success is based on pains or failure.Consequently if you're not ready for frustration or depression i would like to be not for your exploration.Anyway if you can afford i will support your optimistic idea.

sometimes we all choose some things to do , and things always be in the wrong direction . we need often to review our action and make things better