would you keep a close relationship with your ex?

United States
April 8, 2009 6:46pm CST
Even though your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you formerly, you guys can still be friends. Would you keep a close friendship with your ex? Or it might be an awkward feeling since you guys no longer together. Why not just keep a distance. A friend, but not too close should be fine?
13 responses
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
17 Apr 09
There is an ex in my life who I would rather have as a friend than not have him at all. I know we wouldn't be as close as we used to be in the past, but I want him as a friend. Right now it is awkward, but i figure as time goes on I will be able to see him more as a friend and deal with my emotions even though I am with someone new.
@zedlav23 (458)
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
As a married man, i have set my mind not to maintain close association with my past because it may cause unnecessary jelousy. I'd rather avoid it than find myself cleaning up another mess.
• India
9 Apr 09
break up - no comfort -no relation
Hello freind no i will not keep any relation with him,if we have broke up formely,as we wont be as comfortable in our relation as esrlier,and if there is no comfort -no relation.
• United States
9 Apr 09
I have a daughter with my ex and we remained very good friends through the years for the sake of my daughter. I have 2 children with my husband now and they call my ex's parents Grandma & Pappy. My husband wasn't too happy about them being involved at first but he learned to like them. My ex and his family are very good people. All three of my daughters go there for holidays and they all get equally treated as their own. He has a son to his ex girlfriend now and the boy comes over to play and goes places with us. He's like the Son that I never had. Funny how it all worked out but it did.
@chiyosan (30203)
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
no. whenever i break up with them.. we will never talk already. i have never had a close relationship with an ex and have eventually become my friend. it does not happen. not to me. when we are done.. we are through already.
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
I can only be civil to my ex. This means that I will acknowldege his presence in a gathering - saying hi is a sign of respect to my ex. But keeping him as a close friend..I don't think its important.
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
No,, i can only keep a civtilized relationship with him. It means acknowledging the ex presence in a gathering, saying hi and goodbye but as a closed friend.
• United States
9 Apr 09
I'm not necessarily friends with my exs. There were to many feelings involved and most of the time someone gets pretty hurt by the break up. Also you have to think of the person you are now with - if you're still hanging out with an ex and its close is it going to cause them not to trust you and at this point that new boyfriend/girlfriend should be your priority not the friendship you had with an ex. Its kind of the reason why most people say never to date a good friend because of this situation and most of the time the friendship ends. Now be acquaintances - sure thats fine. You don't have to HATE the person, just be civil, say hi when you see eat other but don't go get coffee or go drinking.
• United States
9 Apr 09
I still talk to a few of my ex's but i wouldnt say I am close friends with them all though.
• United States
9 Apr 09
I have a few ex's that I still consider friends.
@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
9 Apr 09
I do keep in touch with my ex, in fact I called him today to wish him a happy birthday. Our breakup was not the best but I was able to get over the hurt of it and now we are able to talk and I don't feel anything for him the way I use to. I don't think he feels anything like for me either. We both have other relationships and children with other partners and for us the past is just that...the past.
@chookie1971 (2276)
• Australia
8 Apr 09
I have tried to have an ex as a friend. For me, it doesn't work. The ex that I tried to be friends with wanted to break my husband and I up because the ex realised what a big mistake it was to let me go. I have never kept in touch with ex's.
@buggles64 (2715)
• United States
8 Apr 09
No, I couldn't keep an ex as a friend. I don't think I would even have the desire to. I'll just keep my distance, because it would be much to awkward to be around him. So many things have happened, that a friendship is no longer possible. Sometimes, you can't be "just friends."