Are You in Good Terms with Your Inlaws?
By weng_08
@weng_08 (282)
Philippines
April 9, 2009 7:31am CST
Hello, I do not have in-laws yet, however, I am wondering...do most of you have a good relationship with your in-laws?
My boyfriend's mom and I are getting along well, she invites me to have lunch and dinner with them every now and then, but for some reasons, his sister, (who still lives in the house since she is still single) doesn't seem to like me and has been giving me a cold shoulder. At first I was thinking she was not feeling well, but then she admitted it to her other sister.
I didn't want to get affected, but I must admit that it somehow affects the relationship. Anyway, what about you? Are you in good terms with your in-laws?
4 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
11 Apr 09
Weng!
You need to behave nicely and positively with your would be in-laws. If your would be hubby and your mom-in-law likes you, you need not bother much about your would be sister-in-law. She may be having some wrong notions about you. If your are positive and deal with her patiently, I am sure, you can also win her. The key to success is patience and not to lose your temper, when you interact with her. Please remember that no one is perfect, you need to accept them as they 'are'.
Best wishes from my end.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
12 Apr 09
Weng!
I am happy to note that you took my suggestions in the right earnest. Thanks for your appreciation.
Deepak
@weng_08 (282)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
Hi Deepak,
How can I not agree with you? You said it right. Nobody is perfect. I had been such a brat too. Lol. Anyway, we don't really fight or argue, but we don't talk. Thanks for your words. You reminded me what humility means.
Have a great day!
Weng
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@chaselee (240)
• Philippines
9 Apr 09
Yes, I have good relationship with my in-laws. Don't worry about the sister of your boyfriend, its possible that they used to be close and that the attention lessen when you came to his brothers life. Soon enough she will warm up to you especially if she sees that you're taking care of her brother.
@weng_08 (282)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
Hello chaselee,
It's a good thing that you have a good relationship with your in-laws. Hmmm...yeah, maybe things will be better one day. It matters to my bf, for to him it is important for all of us to get along.
Thanks for your time.
Have a great day!
Weng
@kapil_poundarik (960)
• India
9 Apr 09
well i dont have a good history of keeping good relationships with family members ,becaz they never understand me , but i can make good friendship evn whit strangers who r polite and understanding . since childhood i never had good relations with my mother and other family members ,becaz they ,underestimated me , but i used to make good online friends and they r still my frnds . so only thing i can say i can adjust with people who adjust with me . and 4 case of ur boyfriend's sister , i wont mind her becaz i were in ur case i would luv people who r good and i wont look towards the one who r not . also in no case i would let my relation be worse with my girlfriend, since im a boy.
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 09
I am in good terms with my in-laws. I was annoyed with my sister in-law at first. She's my best friend and secretly dating my brother (it's on my 'no' list not to flirt with my best friend's family member!) I felt betrayed. But looking at how happy my brother at that time, I accept their relationship and give them my blessing.
