Where are you when I needed you?

@HelScream (2828)
Philippines
April 10, 2009 12:52am CST
I think all of us had experienced this situation when we needed our friends at our times of sorrow but you have no one to talk to or even share your problems. Just to listen just to be there when you needed them.. You asked yourself "where are you my friends when I needed you?".... But I never lost them they are always there maybe not now but tomorrow they are there just have to wait fro them to come for now just want to share this thought to you all for I needed them but they are no where to be found.....Just voicing out whats inside of me.... How about you my fellow mylotters what do you do when this happened to you?
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21 responses
• India
10 Apr 09
yes i also think so.. beacuse i have a many frnd when i was in happiness but when i was in trouble there was no one to stand behind me.. this is very sad story of mine ..
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
well as others may say it we should not expect a lot from our friends ... in this way we wont be hurt if they are not here.
@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
10 Apr 09
Well I have sorrows and when I turn to my friends no one could be found but what happen I have learn from this experience. Some persons are only friends in names and when they need assistance you are the first person they come to. Use this experience my friend and adjust your life.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
I know this my friend but even though they are not around they will always be my friend maybe I cant talk to them now for certain reasons they also have a life of there own thats why we need to understand each other true friends understands you the most...
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@waseem86 (138)
• Lithuania
10 Apr 09
i don't find any friend when i need , i share everything with my girlfriend, she is all i have. she is my best friend and my everything ..
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
yeah even my girlfriend is not online lol Weird but almost all my friends are not online today only my mylotters are here for me to talk lol
@waseem86 (138)
• Lithuania
10 Apr 09
what about surprising her with a red rose? :P go to visit her and she will be happy and you will be able to share with her everything. thanks to mylotters i am also not home alone today :D my girlfriend is in job and i have a day off.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
how I wish I can do that waseem86 but we live to far away he is from different country and I havent seen here personally yet just to impossible I do wish she will be online now....
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
10 Apr 09
I don't care about this kind of thing. I seldome asked my friends to help me whn i was in trouble and when I asked apart from one friend no one provided me help. So, I have learnt that people won't help you when you are in trouble. It is you who have to help yourself.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
yes you are right my friend but it would lessen the burden to share it with a friend they may not be able to help you but just by listening to you they will lessen the burdens that you are carrying.....but still in the end it is still you who will have to solve your problems and not them....
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
10 Apr 09
Indeed but sometime you expect something from your friend because you did the same with your friend when he/she needed you. So, if I am not going to get the assistance from him/her I would feel bad and thus I don't expect anything from my friends these days.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
in some ways you are right sanuanu i am guilty in a way I have experienced that too and for me my friends is the only outlet to my worries I may not tell them about my problems just a simple chat with them about anything to get my mind out of this things even for a day...
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@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
10 Apr 09
When that happens to me, I start writing. Be it a song, a poem, or a story in creative writing at AC. Yesterday I had one of those days. My son's birthday and I felt so far away. So I wrote it off of me. There was no one home, my BF was gone the whole day. I really felt bad. But this morning I woke up feeling a lot better. And I am almost finished with my lesson 19. Today I got my lesson 18 back. I got a "7"! 10 is the highest. It has been over a year that I had studied. So for me a "7" was great. Have you been able to talk to your friends now? I hope you are feeling better. You can talk to me too. By the way, I lost 1 whole kilo!!!! Take care my friend. Bye for now.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
12 Apr 09
wow thats a great news my friend keep it up i mean the loosing of weight. yeah I always find myself smiling when i see you in one of my discussions. have a nice day my friend.
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@Margajoe (4721)
• Germany
15 Apr 09
Ja, and the kilo stays off!!! It did not come back, I am getting less!!! YESYESYES!!!! Take care, and keep smiling!
@mira91 (988)
• Singapore
11 Apr 09
This kind of friends mate...are called fairweather friends...They are there when the weather is fine and scurry away on your rainy days..But for me, i never really do believe that...For me, i'll have to understand from their view too..Maybe they were busy with school or work and with assignments piling up, i'd understand that they'd probably want to be there for us but couldn't...Maybe your friends are like that? If not, maybe they're just aren't the kind of friends you thought them to be...Consider making the right ones from now on instead? =] just an opinion. Take care.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
May they be here or not they will always be my friend I just missed them that day thats why i was looking for them... They are unique in there on way...thanks for sharing
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
I always believe that everything has its purpose. when i feel that there is no one there to comfort for me when needed them the most, i think it is the time to ask some which is more important and can help me better who is the Almighty God. I prayed and ask Him what ever that bothers me. I always believe that God will not allow any trouble that i cannot solve and He is always there watching over me .in any event of my life.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
Yes He is my one and only true friend he is always there when I needed him I can talk to him anytime....have a good day.
@nee_raks (205)
• India
11 Apr 09
yes, like every body has some painful experiences(may have actually) .. I have faced too something similar .. when i needed my best friend a lot ... i was very depressed at that time .and seriously needed him ..so i can share what was going inside me .. how i am feeling but it was unfortunate that i can't contact or can't talk as he was not in the country. So, i dint have any regrets for my friend as i haven't told him anything. He still is my best friend. In the meanwhile when i was with this problem ... i found a new friend on chats to whom i opens up in a slow process and shared myself. I consider this as important part in my life ... luckily get another one ... who not just listened me but helps me to get out of this situation too. We always need true friends and i found them much closer than my family is to me.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
We can never compare our being close to our family and friends I think most of us are very close with our friends coz with them we are very much open than our family....have a good day.
@gotetet (197)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
i have experienced that just recently when my father had a heart attack, i felt so so much disappointed to my neighbors when they just look at my relatives and one neighbor who helped my father brought to an ambulance to transport him to the hospital, how sad it was, just when they got problems they went directly to my father for help. it was disappointing. where are they when we needed them the most.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
I am sorry to hear about your dad how is he?
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
I have experienced situations like that. Although not all of them are gone. There were those who were with me and was there for me when I needed them the most. The thing is, on those hard and troubled times, I was able to find out what kind of friends I have. There are those that are truly friends, there are those that are friends only by name. It was the moment of truth. So I would consider that moment a blessing for after that, I already know who are my true friends.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
15 Apr 09
yeah you are right we have friends and we also have close ones true friends are hard to come by.... have a good day.
@acdc0805 (981)
• United States
10 Apr 09
Seems like when I need my friends they are never there, and whenever they need me, there I am right there! I'm always there for them tho no matter what. I have a hard time telling people no in any situation. Its just part of my personality. A few people I've had to cut off friendship wise and remove #'s frm my phone, so I don't have to deal with them at all :)
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
11 Apr 09
well I guess cant expect to much of our friends just being there or saying hi to them would make them better in a way....
@smartjack (521)
• India
10 Apr 09
yes i have experienced such situations many times, that proves how truthful your friend can be. it really hurts when you are left alone and there is no one for you when u somebody the most. it really hurts when your best friend is not there for you during the time of sorrow
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
well its ok my friend sometimes even if they are not we know that we are still there friends thats enough to make us smile they may not be there always for us but they are thinking of us always....
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
10 Apr 09
Hi Helscream, Although most of my friends have been there when I needed them most, there was one point in my life when only one or two stood by me. I think it would be very difficult to get through many times in life without at least one friend to turn too, who really understood us. Blessings.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
hello my friend its nice seeing you and you know you are right well anyways this is what I get from being single I guess lol.. hope to see more of you have a good day.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
10 Apr 09
I feel it's very common when you're in sorrow noboday can help you. As for me, I am not willing to share the bad news with friends and understand what I should do is go out of the sorrow by myselves. I can only get the temperialy comfort from friends.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
yeah I never planned to share it to them just want to talk to them about anything that would keep my mind away from my prob as of now.......
• India
10 Apr 09
As per my experince i think that when we need the really help from friend or relatives. nobody help us. i always think that we should always help the friend and relatives whenever they are in really need. we should not make any show off.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
well only a simple hi or a hello would do me good they dont have to help me out coz I know it would only be me in the end that can solve all this....I am happy to have my mylot friends at least now I can talk to you guys.
@pinkceza (76)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
i think your friends is waiting for you to share your problems. it is ok if your the one who will approach them. they will listen but if they dont. you better pray to god he is always there for us. he will never give you some problems that you cannot solve.i realize before that god gives me some trials in life but it doesnt mean that he didnt loves ofcourse he loves us.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
yes my friend only God is the person I can share all my worries all the time...My friends are all online and since its a holiday all of them are not online now....well its ok
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
i dont have much friends. when i was single i rely only with my mother. or mainly on my own. i can say i am more of a loner. i enjoy my privacy so much. when i met my wife i was happy. for i learn to be an out going person for she is an out going person. but i still dont have much friends. most of what i call friends are her friends. in times of when i am low it is my wife i rely on.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
Same here I havent much friends too. Only online friends a simple hi from them would make me smile...Still now I have no one thats why only my friends makes me happy my friends my online friends...
• India
10 Apr 09
This is happened to me many times. In this world everybody want to be with you in your good times except few.If you are going to share some joke then everyone would immediately come to you to liste, but when you are sad no one would around you.I always love to share my sorrow not to make others sad but to make myself light. Even i dont want to make others sad,so by keeping smiling face i tell my sorrow. Scene, you have specified is common for me. Keep Lotting1
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
yeah my friend sometimes we have to put on a fake smile even if something inside of us is frowning but your true friends can easily notice something is wrong for they know you ......thanks a lot...
@srganesh (6349)
• India
10 Apr 09
It is not your friend's fault to be not there when you are in sorrow.We humans want to share our happiness immediately when it strikes and look for persons.And in sorrow,we are closed in our minds and don't want to meet anybody and prefer to be alone for the time being.Only after some time we are out of the shock,and go out to share it.That is why!Your friends are always there but you reach them lately.Cheers!
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
10 Apr 09
Nah I dont agree with you my friend on my happiest time my friends dont know this I am the type of person who keeps everything to myself but make it a point to make them smile each day and be there when they are in need but cant blame them though they maybe busy for now......cheers
@Glow1971 (354)
• Spain
5 Jul 09
Unfortunately, this has happened countless times to me and I'm sure to many other people as well. It is actually not your friends fault if for some reason you need them and they are unable to come to your rescue and help you with what you need help with. I guess because we are in such a tight bond at that moment we all get frustrated and tend to blame people for not being there for us but most of the times problems do get solved regardless of who is there for us or not.